I have been hanging out with a guy friend. I have a b/f who I love dearly. My guy friend is friends with my b/f too. I may have gone further than just friends(ie- a few bases, but not all the way)
Should we not be friends anymore so no one finds out or gets hurt?? I regret it now. I care a lot for my b/f and don't want to lose him.
Should I no longer be friends with the other guy??
2006-12-29 08:34:16 · 18 answers · asked by Nicoletta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should I tell my b/f or let it go and never bring it up??
2006-12-29 08:37:36 · update #1
We spend a lot of time together. I see him everyday.
2006-12-29 08:38:40 · update #2
If you loved your boyfriend that much you wouldnt be cheating on him! bottom line - you may care for him, but not enough to keep you away from the 'friend' ... You try your hardest NOT to hurt the people you love in your life, and looks like you really dont love him as much as you think. Your actions definately speak louder than your words... Turn the tables, what if he was doing that to you? You'd break up with him, wouldnt you? Think of it that way.
2006-12-29 08:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I was in a similar situation in my early 20's. My boyfriend and I discussed and decided that before either of us cheated on the other we would break apart first. That way we could explore our other option. If we were meant to be we would get back together. We did this twice in our 9 years together and believe me it felt better than just cheating on him and dealing with the guilt. I did love my ex and didn't want to hurt him and vice versa so this rule actually saved us from dissapointment, hurt and alot of fighting. We actually communicated better by enforcing this rule. Hope this helps you out. Good luck!
2006-12-29 08:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by GOLDIE3769 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is worse than losing a friend. Stay friends with the dude. If you're boyfriend is an understanding guy, tell him, unless you went too far as in oral or something. Tell your friend to take it easy, and wait. You oviously don't want to start any trouble. If you got any Q's, Instant Message me, I'm always open for a talk.
2006-12-29 08:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should back off from the other guy a bit, but not so it's obvious. you will have to play it cool to buy some time and read the situation as it develops. and when the you-know-what hits the fan, as it undoubtedly always does in this situation, be a woman and own up to your mistake. don't cry and scream and kick and deny it all. you made a mistake, you are human, it's not the end of the world.
2006-12-29 08:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by hearts_on_fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to my friend what you are feeling and explain you only want to remain friends and hope for the best and be honest with your boyfriend and tell him you made a huge mistake and it will never happen again, and go from there.
2006-12-29 08:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by blueigurl34 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about your bf then that would be the smart thing to do to make sure that you dont lose him or that this guys tries to put moves on you trying to break you and your bf up. good luck .
2006-12-29 08:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, yes. If you two can't control yourselves, you're going to keep doing what you're doing, and you will lose your BF. Check your priorities: who's the more important guy? Be honest with yourself. That will answer your question.
2006-12-29 08:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not!! you're only tempting fate. If you play with fire, you will get burned. You got to stop hanging out with the other guy, because you're asking for trouble with your boyfriend. Then you will be really sad that you jacked it up
2006-12-29 08:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Tara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can trust yourself not to do that again, be friends with him, just try not to be alone with him.
If you break up your friendship with this guy he might tell your boyfriend out of anger.
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer
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2016-11-24 23:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋