i am a new mother..she is only 2 days old now...i feel i am going to spoil her because her father and i cant seem to put her down shes so beautiful i just cant believe i was able to produce anything so beautiful but my question is being that i feel this way how can i NOT SPOIL her???
2006-12-29 08:31:46 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First, congratulations Mama! Welcome to Motherhood.
People used to always tell me that I shouldn't hold my son as much as I did (and do!) because I would spoil him. They would always warn me "You'll see! He's going to be spoiled. You're never going to be able to put him down." But I didn't listen. He is such a content and happy baby! I have done a considerable amount of reading and there are studies that prove that holding/carrying/wearing your baby in a sling is incredibly beneficial to them... making them more confident, secure, intelligent and emotionally healthy than babies who are expected to "self-soothe". Just follow your instincts, Mama. You know in your heart what is best for your little girl. People will always be offering you well-meaning advice now that you're a Mommy... but it's your job to determine which advice to use and which to ignore.
It sounds like you're doing a wonderful job so far if you are "spoiling" her with love and cuddles. Keep it up! :o) You'll never regret holding and loving on your child "too much"... but I think people who didn't might regret that.
Best wishes to you and your new little family!
2006-12-29 12:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, there is nothing wrong with spoiling them with love. Second, she is not old enough to know she is being spoiled and will not be able to manipulate your attention until around 9 months of age. Third, this is a period of bonding with baby for mom and dad. Baby needs to be held and comforted. She has needs just like you do. There is a reason God made babies so little and adoreable. You are supposed to fall in love with them. Just remember to put her down long enough to sleep because she needs that too. Lastly, relax and enjoy your treasured gift. Hold her as much as you can before she gets too big and wiggly to squirm away from you.
2006-12-29 09:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I held my babies constantly, it felt so good to cuddle them and the baby smell is the best for me!! Everyone told me I would spoil them, but I have had no problems at all. They slept on their own, in the crib, all night. Babies can't be spoiled with love and attention, they crave it and need it. Don't stop holding her, keep loving her! I understand completely, not being able to believe how something so beautiful and precious can come from you! I felt the exact same way, and still do! My kids are 15,12 and 9. The amazement never ends....
2006-12-29 08:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by lisa s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget every thing you have been told about spoiling babies.........you can't, it's impossible to spoil babies. By constantly holding her, you are reassuring her that you are there for her and you're building the foundation of trust.
Relax, she is only 2 days old. If I could turn back time and make my twins 2 days old again, I would hold them 24/7.
Don't worry about spoiling her, worry about her gaining your trust. You sound like a great mom.........enjoy holding her even if it feels like it's all your doing. ....it doesn't last long.
2006-12-29 08:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't spoil a baby that is this young. Infants (especially newborns) really need to feel secure and holding them is the best way to do that. You won't spoil her by holding her, you're just comforting her and giving her that secure feeling that she needs at this age.
Like I said, you can't spoil a baby that is this young. If you were doing this when she was 8 or 9 months old you might be spoiling her, but not when she's 2 days old.
Congratulations on your beautiful baby :-)
2006-12-29 08:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You will never spoil a baby by holding her. Babies need that right now. That's a myth that you spoil a baby by holding her too much. Hold away! And enjoy every second of her now, because before you know it, she's going to be a teenager, and you are going to look at her and go "Where did my little baby go?"
Congratulations on your new bundle of joy!
2006-12-29 08:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jess H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can spoil a baby in the first three months. They are just starting to adjust to the outside world and they need to feel close to you. I don't think you can hurt a newborn by holding them and loving them - I'm doing that very thing with my 7 week old baby right now!
2006-12-29 08:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by crank726 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you cannot spoil a child by loving them too much. What spoils them are material things. Hug your baby, kiss her, keep her close and nurture her as only proud parents can.
My son is 3 and I still wonder how such an amazing little guy came from me. This is why it is called the miracle of life. Treasure her and cherish these times because they won't last forever.
2006-12-29 08:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you are not spoiling her, you can't at this early age, enjoy, love her, don't listen to people follow your heart, and later on if you can spoil her do it just talk to her a lot about people who cant and don't have what she does have her give old toys to children with none, i also find a cure for not having a spoiled brat, and there is a difference between being spoiled and being a spoiled brat, anyway give her a sibling, good luck enjoy enjoy enjoy, you are blessed
2006-12-29 09:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In time you will settle down and be able to put her down. She is a miracle, longed for and loved, you probably still can't believe how lucky you are to have her but the more you get used to having her in your life the easier you will find it to relax with her.
Every new parent feels like this and it is impossible to spoil a newborn.
Just enjoy and look on it as "bonding time".
2006-12-29 08:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by madamspud 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋