My boyfriend of over a year recently emailed his part-time job co-worker and complimented her on her large breasts (in a much more crude way) and asked her to lunch. Should I just consider this harmless flirting, or make an issue of it? Is it ever okay to flirt with others in a serious relationship? I do not do it for respect of the other person. Thanks
2006-12-29 08:21:01 · 20 answers · asked by Brainsofop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
both of you should know this of each other from the beginning , what it is you accept and what not. this is not acceptable at all, he is not only disrespectfull to you but also to this co worker, some men really think it's cool and sexy to say things like that wich isn't cool at all. if she accepted (knowing he aint single) she is just as disrespectfull. what it comes down to is, you have to step up and tell him you won't accept these type of things, and he needs to respect that or find someone else who thinks this is cool, don't just take it cause you afraid of losing him, cause this won't be the only time he will do it and you will feel more and more uncomfortable and disrespected.,good luck
2006-12-29 08:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by dutchcutie68 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be concerned, be very concerned about this. First off, it's unprofessional to the 'nth' degree to email a co-worker about her breasts and in most jobs that would result in him getting fired. Second, do you think he would object if you sent an email to a male co-worker about having a muscled chest or big pecks and wanting to go to lunch with him? Of course he would. Enough said on this - you need to call him out on this one. Good luck.
2006-12-29 16:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..... sometimes when your confined to an office or whatever the job is, you tend to make friends of the opposite sex. I would say going to lunch during the work hours, is really not a date. I've went to lunch with male co-workers before, when i was in a relationship, and it was strictly because we got along and i was hungry - Commenting on the breasts might have gone too far though.
2006-12-29 16:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since when is complimenting your co-worker via email or any sort off communications on her breasts flirting?
espeically in a crude way?
how did u find out? lool
He wants to hump her your guy is a scumbag
hahahahahha
2006-12-29 16:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ju Ju B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how do you know about this? Did you hack into his email or was he stupid enough to tell you this?
Secondly, this is not harmless flirting and you're getting ready to be dumped for big-boobed co-worker........
If he was happy in your relationship and it was enough for him, her big boobs wouldn't be enough to make him want to go to lunch with him. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, just the relationship.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 16:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well how would he feel if you complimented a man on his big d*** and then asked him to lunch? He probably wouldn't like it all. There's probably more to this then you think and you should find out soon. This is definitely more then flirting! Leave him before he cheats if he hasn't already!
2006-12-29 16:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This crosses the line - by a long shot. There is nothing wrong with lunching with someone of the opposite sex if that person is an old friend and there is nothing between the two of you, but the fact that he is saying things like that to her makes it different.
2006-12-29 16:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay guys will be guys and yes they will flirt or look at other women even if they already have one that they are serious about. As far as your situation, he is being very disrespectful to the woman he wrote that to and yourself. Hopefully she turned him down and he learned his lesson. It's more than just flirting if he does go to lunch with her and you need to confront him and ask him what's going on instead of jumping to conclusions.
2006-12-29 16:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by hottdamnpam_2003 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me answer your question with another question?
How would it appear to your boyfriend if you complimented a co-worker about that bulge in his pants and asked him out for drinks?
2006-12-29 16:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by slobberknocker_usa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the beginning of the end. If he can do that, then he is just getting started....Dump him...move on and never look back!!! It should be you getting the emails complimenting your boobs and asking you to lunch....
2006-12-29 16:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋