He hasn't seen her in over 6 months and they do have something to discuss, closer and what not. I can be understanding of that, it's just the fact he will be spending the night at her house. She lives a few hours away. He swears he will be on the couch and that he will not do anything with her. But she like still has a huge thing for him. I just don't know.... I'm uncomfortable with it, but am I over reacting?
2006-12-29 08:15:54 · 63 answers · asked by Cindy Lou Who 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hang on!!!!
you wanted to ask people weather you should have a threesome for Xmas saying you might be up for it!!!
then you ask should you be offended by him asking for one!!!
now your bitching about his ex being around the place, my advise is if you guys are not poor get him to sleep in a hotel and get him to call you once he's in!
2006-12-30 09:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Stickman 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm the ex in this situation and I got so mad at my ex boyfriend for even going behind his new girls back. Now he asks me to spend the night, and to come see him . Automatically comes from far distances to visit, and gets mad when I don't answer. I want to be mad at the situation but I dumped him. An ex who wants to come over his ex's house,even though the sex is good wth his recent girl, isnt feeling the girl as much as his ex. otherwise, if things were so good why would he bother spending the night with his ex? My ex always talks about us spending the night at each others. But he failed to mention his girl and they have healthy sex. Till this day m the ex he wants 3 somes with. Trust me...you should ust leaave bc hs feelngs for his ex neveer left.sorry
2016-02-02 03:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by Miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be really uncomfortable about it as well. If they have something to discuss, can they not do it over the phone? Can't they meet during the day and he go back home or whatever? I'm a trusting person, and try to refrain from being jealous, but think this is a bit too much and asking for trouble.
2006-12-29 08:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is something which he really really wants anyways and he's thinkin about seein her all the time and he will no matter if you say yes or no...don't be so sweet thinkin that they're not gonna do anything they will, but the point is he'd like to do it if you say no he'll do it on spy...let him do it and do not let him to know that it hurts you, if she has a huge thing for him and if she's an ex i really don't understand why he's gotta go there and spend a night with her and he swears he will be on the couch i mean this Miss ex will create problems for you soon but no matter what you can't stop him from seein her coz he will do so
good luck
2006-12-29 08:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by CherOkeeGurL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-04-21 08:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!
Take this advice from another man....
If you allow him to stay the night, it shows a crack in your will. He will then take this opportunity to sleep with his ex. Should you find out about the escapade, him will say he thought it was okay because you let him stay there, and then make you feel bad for sending mixed signals.
We men are very simple mined, yet we can also be manipulative.
Tell him hell no and stick to your guns. He may get upset about you not trusting him, but he will get over it.
If you are cute, I know I would get over it, real quick!!
Take Care.
2006-12-29 08:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
HELLO!!!
Sounds suspicious to me! What good boyfriend would do this to his girlfriend? You CAN discuss things on the phone you know.
There is no NEED for him to sleep at her house.
Sounds to me you might want to seek another relationship 'cause this guy wants to have his cake and eat it too. He appears to not take YOUR relationship very seriously. HE should not want to go, you should not have to convince him to do you right.
You are in no way overreacting and I bet most guys would tell you the same thing. He would not want you sleeping at your ex's house now would he?
also...... he will try to blame you for being controlling, just tell him you are not controlling, just not going to be manipulated and stupid - there are so many other men out there!
BE STRONG!
2006-12-29 08:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by jamocha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell no you're not over reacting, they obviously had some sort of attraction before or they wouldn't have been together...if he needs to talk to her then he should do it somewhere besides her house with a perfectly good bed that she will try to get him to sleep in. there is no reason for him to go and stay the night just to talk to her. just ask him to do it another time...if for some crazy reason he does convince you to let him go then be sure you talk to him on the phone at night...i'm not trying to sound like you should be extremely protective or anything, but that's just stupid don't let him
2006-12-29 08:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!! it doesnt matter if he hasnt seen her in 6 yrs. You dont let your boyfriend and his ex girlfriend stay the night with each other. ANything can happen. And you will never know if it does cuz its not like they are going to tell you. But if you trust your man that much then go ahead but i would never ever let my man do that.
2006-12-29 08:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Nellz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you his keeper, cuz I'm still lost on the "should I ALLOW him to go" part of the question. The more you tell someone that they can't do something, the more they are going to do it. Yes, you are uncomfortable and it's going to be a rough night, but look at it this way, if he's going to be unfaithful, he's going to be unfaithful. All you can do is be a good person. If that isn't enough for him and he cheats on you, then he isn't the one for you. But giving him permission or denying him permission, is only going to cause bigger issues. This is up to him and not you. Hang in there and good luck.
2006-12-29 08:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I mean do you really need to ask this question... think about it... if you completely trusted him then you wouldn't even be asking this question here... obviously you have some doubt... first of all why can't they get closure over the phone, why do they need to see eachother... and why can't she come down here so then there would be no need for him to stay at her house, she could get a motel room... I mean in the end it's your decision but I wouldn't take that chance... good luck.
2006-12-29 08:22:00 · answer #11 · answered by Wiked 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋