Do you ever feel trapped in your own home??

Question

Does anyone ever feel trapped in their own home..??
Im a girl and my parents are very over protective. They log everytime I go out and have only one friend, where I work.

Im 22 and am doing a part time MBA at University so cant afford to move out. Im planning on visiting my friend in London (100 miles away) next week for 2 days. I feel sooo guilty because of what my parents will think. Should I be feeling this way?

I am indian and parents are very cultural........

Answer 1

You MUST NOT feel guilty.

Indian culture does not require logging and tracking each and every move of children.

I suggest talking to your parents about trust, understanding and maturity. May be you need to remind them that you are 22 years old (not 22 months).

May be you need to remind them that you are grown up and mature enough to handle the world.

If they don't let you handle the world, you will not grow. If they need you to grow and do something useful with life, you need to be independent.

Explain them all ... use your skills....DON'T BE GUILTY.

Answer 2

Trapped? Wait until you get married and have a mortgage! I understand Indian culture can be family-orientated. It's better than traditional British-caucasian (or whatever pc way you want to describe it) culture though - families care and don't shove the kids out through the door. Maybe you could talk to them about this, gently telling them that you are 22 and have always been responsible, what's going to change with a bit more leeway?

Answer 3

Hi Me.. again !!!

I understand your situation, but the only thing that you can do is to live your life the best you can, without hurting your parents feelings.( By the way parents felling work this way, if it is not there way, they will be hurt) So.....take your own decisions and execute them with pride an dresponsability.

Indinan traditions are very structrure, but they need to understand that they lived there young lifes already. Now is your time to do so. You don't say where are you located, but regardless, you are not under age, neither are dependant. You work, study and are working towards a better quality of life.

Even though I undrestand that your parents are mostly concern about you for the love they profess to you, for the same reason is that they should respect your adult decisions. We parents never see our children as totally independent people, specially if they still live under they same roof. So it doesn't matter how old you are, parents always have something to say about childrens decisions.


What ever you decide it will be O.K. Probably your parents are mostly concern with your well being and your education. They want the best for you and they are protecting you from the "unknown". They are protecting you from danger,remember you are their baby!!!

Talk to them and reassure them that you love them and respect them as well. But no one can learn and live for others experiences. You need to go through life and learn bad and good experiences as you live.

Don't fell guilty of going on that trip to see your friend.
I suggest you schedule more trips in the future, so your parents realize that is O.K. and that you are as responsible when you are with them, as when you are alone.

Just like you need to learn taking decisions on your own and what the future holds for you, your parents need to learn to respect your decisions as well as becoming an inependent young, intelligent, responsible, professional, adult.

I wish you the best, trust your instints, enjoy the trip and the company of your friend. (Without feeling guilty). Also make sure you meet others, so you expand and practice your social skills. While becoming a professional yourself, you will also need to learn how to deal with all kinds of people, passing your way.

Go have fun, and if you could , PROLONG THAT TRIP A LITTLE LONGER, I suggest you do!!!!! It would be good for you and also for your parents.
GOD BLESS YOU, BE SAVE & HAPPY NEW YEAR

ALLIV Z

Answer 4

Your parents are following the very typical Indian culture. You shouldn't feel guilty for living your life. The more responsible and mature you act and consider yourself, the more responsible and mature your parents will treat you. Just realize they are trying to protect you, but that you are quite old enough to make your own decisions and live your own life. Don't completely disregard their opinions, as I'm sure they have a lot of experience, but you really have to live your own life and learn from your own experiences. You should never feel guilty, even if you screw up.

Answer 5

I am an Indian too.. It is basically the way parents are. They go out of their way to help their children, irrelavant of their age. I feel that you should not be feeling bad about what they do. In fact, I was feeling the same way when mine did. But now I have been married for 13 years and I miss all of that attention, care and love..Believe me, even to date, they call me twice a day and ask if I am doing okay and what I did.
There is nothing to feel trapped in it unless you are doing something which they do not approve of.

Answer 6

The only time that I am ever trapped in my house is if my motor is at the grage for any reason. I live miles from anywhere, the garage collects and then delivers the car back to me, but I like being alone so it is no problem.

Answer 7

mayby your parents are worried by you going aout and exploring the world more you are going to leave behind your heritage and tradition and forget where you came from.

explain to your parents that you are going to seek new experiences in you life and mayby share a bit of what you know about your heritage. all families are diffrent.

Sit down and work out with your parents somethign that is acceptable to both of you for when they go out and that and to travell over 1000miles for 2 days is a bit silly make it a bit longer, and don't feel guilty.

I hope you have a good time and work something out with your parents.

Answer 8

I only feel trapped when am waiting on a delivery or expecting a visitor but keep you waiting for ages.

Answer 9

This is the 3rd time you've asked this question, the last time was only 8 minutes ago.

The idea is you ask diffrent questions, not the same one over and over again.

Or is it that your really, really really trapped?lol

Answer 10

i wudn't say i feel trapped..
the most iv came to is when im at my house and my gf calls thats she's upset and i cant do nothin about it cos i stay quite a bit away.. is tht defined as trapped/helpless ?