there is a guy that like but his 13 yrs my senior. I am 22 and he is 35. He also has 3 kids. Would it be bad to go on a couple of dates with him and get to know him better?
2006-12-29 08:08:49 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its fine
2006-12-29 08:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Age is not but a thing. As long as you are 2 consenting adults then no worries. My Stepfather's Dad is like 20 years older than his current wife (not my Stepdad's mom) they have been married for almost 30 years now. One of the girls in my Graduating class married a man that was 8 years older than her right out of High School, they have 5 kids and have been married for (here is where I show my age) 13 years now. Go for it, us older guys have calmed down and (most of the time) are more responsible than our younger counter parts. Since he has kids you need to think about becoming an instant mommy. Do not start dating him without thinking about that, even if you are planning on only having some fun because you never know when or with whom you will fall in love.
2006-12-29 08:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mike E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl u have a lot to consider here. If u just want to go on a few dates, hang out and possibly be good friends, and i do just mean friends, then what's the harm in that? U'll have fun and get to know him at the same time. But if u want it to become something serious that's another story. How much do u like this guy? Are you ready and will u be willing to handle his 3 kids if the need arises. Ur pretty young, how young r his children? how r they going to react towards u? r u gonna have baby mama drama? You don't need and hope to God u don't want none of that. So those are definitely somethings to think abt.
2006-12-29 08:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience, a long time ago, I got married to a girl 16 years younger than me. It did not work out, because after awhile, we realized we actually had nothing in common. We enjoyed our time together, but at different ages, you want to be able to relate to someone who has shared the same type experiences, etc. For instance, semi seriously, I was talking to someone one time about where I was when President Kennedy was shot, and she wasn't even born then! You might want to date, but what basis do you have. He has probably outgrown some of the tastes you have (not judging you really) but he may enjoy theater where you want to go to a hot night club or whatever. He might enjoy dining at a great restaurant, and you might enjoy fast food. And what would you talk about, your experiences with raising kids, or his experiences about when he was your age. Believe me, I have gone through all that, including the snide looks from people thinking I was cradle robbing. I apologize if it sounds like I am ragging on you, but I know what he will be thinking maybe not now, but sooner or later, the status of dating a hot young woman will wear off, and you might get hurt.
2006-12-29 08:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by buddha bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is a good idea personally. But the age factor has a lot to do with a relationship because he may be ready to settle down and you may still want to go out and have your fun. Now ask yourself this, if you go on a couple of dates, is he going to think that we are a couple? If you aren't ready for a relationship with him, then let him know up front because he may take things the wrong way. Now if you are going just as really good friends, with no strings attached (friends with benefits), then that shouldn't be a problem. The only thing that I can tell you is that it is totally up to you. Go with your instinct, your gut, your first intuition. You will be just fine.
2006-12-29 08:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by frakmomma04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can matter alot or not at all. He will always be alot older than you and when he wants to retire you will still be ready to work and go on with life. My grandparents are 12 years apart and they are happy and healthy, but things don't always go that way. Go on some dates with him and see how he is. I would only continue the relationship if things go really good. The age difference will change things and maybe cause problems but if you really like him and think you two may have a future go ahead, he could be your mate=)
2006-12-29 08:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with getting to know a person your doing the right thing when you say get to know him better it seem to me like your a smart person as it is with everyone you meet you have to check out the person and get to know each other first not only him but what effect the kids e\are going to have. If everything seems to work smoothly then age don't matter.
2006-12-29 08:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With an age difference of more than about three or four years you do not have the same common interests. Music, memories etc.
Just do not get involved. You do not want to get involved with a Dad with 3 children. Being the Mother of your own children is hard enough. Step parenting someone Else's children is much more difficult.
2006-12-29 08:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. Just understand you are likely in different places in life...you are just beginning adulthood and he's been there a while...and consider the idea of getting involved with someone who has kids. Is that something you want to tackle right now?
You're both adults and can make your own decisions...just be aware of the differences between the two of you that such an age gap contains...
2006-12-29 08:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Date him... No problem!!!!!
But you need to realize if you get serious/marry this man it will steal the best years of your life... your 20's early 30's. You'll be expected to look after the children when he has visitation if he has to work, house and all. Its like buying a used car vs. a brand new one.... its not the age difference... its just as young as your are you could have someone that you'll be all the firsts... first wife... mother of his first child... first to make memories with as far as life goes... this guy also has a ex wife... do you get my point??? Date him... til the right one comes along.
2006-12-29 08:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there is probably too much age difference.
I would not go out with him. He has way too many responsibilities, and you are at the very beginning of your life. It is likely he will be looking for more serious relationships. And you should not be. You should be having the time of your life, hanging with friends, and dating, going to parties, and either going to college, or starting a career.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 08:16:51 · answer #11 · answered by Peekie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋