I hate eating alone, and I'm not trying to pick you up, I just want someone to sit with for lunch.
What should I say as intro to entice you to invite me to join you for lunch? Remember, it's lunch break, not a pick up, and I just want some company.
2006-12-29 08:07:27 · 18 answers · asked by Hank Hill 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It really depends on the situation. Are you at work and eating with people who work with you or are you at a random place eating with total strangers.
I recommend carrying a book around with you so that if you are eating alone you can also read, something that will not only cause you to feel as though you have company but to expand your mind as well.
If you are eating at work with co-workers then you should become more social with your co-workers so that you will not creep them out when sitting next to them. Once you have become friends with people you can sit with them and it will not be awkward.
Ultimately, no matter how polite/charming/good looking you are, if you came up to me and asked to sit with me at my table I would run away. Learn to eat alone or make friends with your your co-workers, and if you are unable to do either of those things establish personal boundaries with people and read a book.
2006-12-29 09:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by N :O) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me a few times and of course I would let you join me. If all the tables are taken and you are just wanting company to eat with, why not? I have had some nice conversations this way.
2006-12-30 01:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Pepper's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sometimes like to go out by myself and stop in for breakfast or lunch somewhere and just kind of think and enjoy being alone.
I've had people join me, and I tend to have trouble finding ways of saying "no, don't join me"; so I usually cut my stay short and find somewhere else to go for my alone time.
I'm sorry if you just want company for lunch, but it needs to occur to you that some people have stolen a few minutes away to just be alone with their thoughts; so if you don't like eating alone that is - with all due respect - your problem and not mine. Mine is that I have had just had someone inflict him/herself on me when I wanted to be alone with my thoughts, plans for the day, etc.
2006-12-29 20:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "I really hate eating alone, would you mind if I joined you for lunch?" Smile. Most people wouldn't mind. If they respond with something like, "My husband won't like it" then just say, "I understand. I was just looking for a little company" smile again and turn to walk away. Most women will change their mind as long as they don't feel threatened by you.
2006-12-29 17:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious and really look for company to eat with , I would suggest you scan the field and approach someone who does not look like they are very likely to be asked by a good looking, intelligent, outgoing fellow like yourself . Now, if by chance you are ugly, stupid and introverted , then forget it. Not even an old bag like myself is gonna be enticed. LOL
Ask us again when you improve .
2006-12-29 16:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, eating lunch alone is a pet peeve of mine, also, and I usually don't do it. So, at least as far as I'm concerned, the truth would probably work best - just walk over and say, "I hate eating alone, would you mind if I sat with you for lunch?" I'd welcome the company.
2006-12-29 16:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by JenV 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well im a weirdo 14 yr old, so i dont know if u should trust my answer, but i hate eating alone too, so id probably just allow u to sit w/ me... but then again, i dont think ud ask a 14 yr old if u can sit w/ her for lunch... see! i am a weirdo... :P
but if i wasnt a weirdo 14 yr old, the enticing invitation saaying that ur asking for would just have to be, "Hey, i dont wanna bother u, but i dont like to sit by myself & eat, may i sit w/ u?"
2006-12-29 16:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by CoelisLilies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sort of on the borderline of creepy. Maybe if you sat at the next table, then started a conversation, then asked if you could sit at my table that would be a little easier to handle.
2007-01-02 00:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by vik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say it wasn't a pick-up until you were blue in the face, but a lot of women would probably think that is your intention.
Still, go for it! I would say yes, just to be polite.
2006-12-29 17:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy Lou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, be honest... If a guy comes up to me and says I'm looking for company... not picking u up.. ( don't sound offensive)
It would be a nice change i guess for some
2006-12-29 16:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by Razan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋