I've been in a good relationship for 4 years.but i recently found out that my boyfriend talks to women online..i.e. dirty talk..n even uses his webcam for this purpose.he doesnt know any of these women personally.And i suspect there's one woman he specially chats with(he even sent her christmas greetings n tells her he misses her!). everything else about our relationship is great.he loves n cares bout me.and i love him very very much.I always try to keep him happy in every way.I have no idea why this has happened.And it has shattered my trust in him.What should i do? Should i confront him with this issue...or just let things be the way they are,hoping he will get over it in some time...??Even if i do confront him,he might jus change his yahoo id or somethin..n i'll never find out what he's upto.! how should i talk to him in a manner that really makes a difference?PLEASE help.
2006-12-29 07:44:46 · 7 answers · asked by tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK,
The only thing he is going to get over in time is you !
It sometimes is not a problem for ones mate to be on-line with others.
BUT if he tells her he misses her there must be something going on in person.
AND THAT IS OK ! IF YOU DON'T MIND SHARING HIM WITH OTHER GIRLS.
Well can you handle that?
Most girls can't . If you are one of those then get out now because it will only keep happening
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2006-12-29 07:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Dave Yours Truly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you confront him, the only thing he's going to focus his attention on is that you violated his trust and found out information that wasn't for you to know about it. What he's doing is totally wrong and is a direct violation of your relationship, but confronting him isn't going to get you what you're looking for.
How can you honestly say that you have a good relationship??? He is emotionally cheating on you and doing stuff on a web-cam??? You are fooling yourself sweetie. He's getting needs met by someone else because there is something he needs that you aren't providing to him. I think he's a little on the perverted side, but still....
I'd leave him and I'd do it quick. It's going to hurt like holy heck, but really, can you subject yourself to being treated like that?
2006-12-29 07:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are just like that and it has nothing to do with your relationship. If he doens't know you are on to him then it's really his business isn't it? However, if it makes you that uncomfortable then you should tell him. Perhaps you guys can spark up your own relationship and do some roll play or something. It's all about the fantasy. Be many women in one woman.
2006-12-29 07:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by musicisme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just plain out tell him if this behaviour continues it is over and that you WILL find out. If you can find out once you can find out again. I wouldnt even confront him because he will deny it anyway. Just tell him how its going to be.
You might ask him though how he would feel if you were doing the same thing.
2006-12-29 07:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people in love talk about everything. So if your really in love, tell him whats up and let him know what you know. You never know-- that woman could be a long lost cousin or something! lol. but I would confront him if I was you.
2006-12-29 08:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by luv2dance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completely unacceptable. In my eyes that is cheating. You said he loves you? Who taught you that someone who loves you decieves and lies to you? Dump him.
2006-12-29 07:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comfront him. tell him you know, and to stop, or hes going to go to far
2006-12-29 07:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by D.G <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋