I slept with a guy I work with several times. He was my first and maybe I just did it because of other things in my life that are going wrong. I don't know. My initial impression of him when he was chasing me was that he was just a player, so I tried hard not to get attached. I fell for him though, and he's still really flirtee at
work, totally leading me on. Other people ask him stuff about us and he refuses to answer if he plans on dating me, but obviously still likes me a lot. He will call sometimes, but we don't hang out anymore. Then he'll ignore my calls.
Before I moved to this town he had slept with some other girl that worked there. She and I are sorta friends, but it's complicated because she keeps telling this guy not to hurt me. We all worked together last night. For the first time since we met five months ago, he completely ignored me. I'm really hurt by it. Should I just let this pass and ignore him back, or should I confront him and risk an even messier situation?
2006-12-29 07:40:12 · 14 answers · asked by micha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, you should give it up already! He obviously just wanted a fling and has no intention towards you. The times he does pay attention to you is probably bc he feels guilty. The sooner you ignore him and get past it you'll be better off! Good luck-stay strong!
2006-12-29 07:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget about this guy. You sound younger than I am. I am in my early 30s and you sound like you're in your late teens or early 20s. Anyway, when I was your age I wasted a lot of time on guys like the one you described. As I got older and met a few really nice men who were worth my time, I realized that someone who sleeps with you and then ignores you---or plays with you like this guy is---really just wants free and easy sex. If he liked you or wanted to be with you, he'd treat you better. He'd want to spend time with you and he'd take your feelings into consideration. I also discovered that you can't change guys or make them care about you. There's really nothing you can do about this guy, so don't confront him. Get over him as quickly as you can and look for someone who treats you better. By all means, do not sleep with him again.
2006-12-29 15:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sara D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd recommend chalking it up as a bad experience and a mistake. Don't let him toy with you like that... it's just not worth it.
If he's going to ignore you, just laugh it off. I wouldn't stoop to his level of ignoring him back, but I wouldn't make any great effort to speak to him unless you have to do so. If he suggests anything further, just laugh and politely refuse. You've seen what it's gotten you... don't boost his ego anymore than you have already. Find someone worth your time... he doesn't sound like he is.
Also, it's generally a bad idea to mess around with someone with whom you work. It can cause a lot of problems at the job, especially if you like your job but find it difficult to be around the other person. Probably advice a little late, but use it for the future.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 15:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry Hayes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a situation.. Sleeping with co-workers is never a good idea.. I would for you own sake ignore him and keep your guard up he like you for your body and being able to sleep with you. It doesn't seem like he wants anything serious. Try to move on even though you have feeling for him it will be better for you in the long run.
2006-12-29 15:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ignore him he will defenitely want your attention and if he doesn't don't loose sleep over it. Treat him as if he is no one important he will think you're not into him. If he talks to you don't be a BI. Be super casual and don't give it too much thought. Looks like this guy is all about games and he's the only player in it.
2006-12-29 16:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by SugarCookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule number one in the work place, DO NOT DATE OR SLEEP WITH YOUR CO-WORKERS!!!! It just causes problems between you and him/her. I would move on and forget about him. Ignore him if you have to. He just used you.
2006-12-29 15:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inj my humble opinion he just wanted a fling. Just ignore him and keep your guard up so next time it wont happen
2006-12-29 15:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like being manipulated, go ahead and confront him.
Listen to your girlfriends. They can spot a player when you can't...
2006-12-29 15:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say forget him. Your better off not stressing about some guy who won't give you the time of day!!
2006-12-29 15:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Pyro kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never chase a man who has lost his interest in you.
You're wasting your time (as well as his)
And DON"T become a stalker.
2006-12-29 15:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋