My mom sometimes when she goes off on a rampage hits me. It hurts a lot mentally and physically. Sometimes I run away for a couple of hours to cool off-but sometimes I retalliate. I am 150 football player, and wrestler. Sometimes I feel like I have no right to defend myself against her. But when I do retaliate after she slams me-she threatens to call the police. My dad lives in another town and he loves me very much and I see him all the time should I go live with him?
2006-12-29 07:36:55 · 12 answers · asked by kep884 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You seem to be a very good kid, into sports and stuff and no kid no matter what they are doing should have to defend themselves to a parent...parents are suppose to protect their children not hurt them!!! Your mom has some issues and is taking them out on you and that is not fair at all...you should really go live with your dad...she could have you arrested or in trouble for you defending yourself but if you hit a woman people will look down on you for that even if it is out of defense...I would leave that situation...maybe she will get help knowing that you have left because of her being the way she is. Good luck...go to your dad and be safe and grow up the way God wanted you to...in a safe environment...
2006-12-29 07:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have several choices. One you can leave and live with your Dad and it will solve the immediate problem of you getting hit by your mother. Two you can talk to your mother and explain that her anger is way out of control. Three, if you decide not to life with your dad and you stay and try to help your mom control her anger, you have to be prepared for a long haul of her getting angry. The next time she gets angry and starts to swing at you, you have the right just to defend yourself by blocking her swings. Then go to the phone, call the police and have her think you can get her arrested. Your mother is mentally sick and has not learned to control her emotions and she has no understanding of how to control her anger. You both need help and need counseling, family counseling. Running away from your problems is not a good idea unless your life is in danger. Your mother needs help and you need help for your health. You can also call child services and explain the situation you are living in. They should investigate. Then you need to sit down with your mom, tell her you love her but you cannot keep going on this way. Tell her you want her and you to go to family counseling. If she doesn't then you have your choices.
2006-12-29 16:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by NIck N 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Live with ur dad it would be way better! So many bad things can happen if u stay with ur mom cuz my friend has the same problem but her mom doesnt like her she lives wit her grandma but her grandma hits her and after skool she would stay at skool until 9pm and wen shed go home she gets beat up! and her life is just messed up!!!!! she has no relative that loves her that doesnt hit her but ur lucky cuz u do! so thats why u should go and stay with ur dad
2006-12-29 15:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by quizysk8erchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should go off and live with your dad. Even if she is your mom, she doesn't have a right to hit you. You should defend yourself, or you could get seriously hurt, but unless you're older than age 18, I suggest you go live with your dad.
2006-12-29 15:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by Maddi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do need to go to live with your dad. Allowing your mom to disrepect your space at your age, becomes your issue. You are old enough to choose with which parent you live with. If you stay with your mom you will learn to deal with your own children in the same way. I hope you make the right choice. You deserve better.
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2006-12-29 16:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really bothers you then the only right thing to do is to live wth your Dad, but only if you really feel you have to. Or maybe you want to call the police. Or you could maybe find out why she does that to you, and why she has problems. ( By the way, i feel really bad for you.)
2006-12-29 15:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by farooha_97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try talking to your mom and dad about the situation and telling her she needs counseling or you are going to live with your dad if she refuses go to your dad's. If your mom has custody and your dad doesn't he may have to take her to court if she hits you and threatens to call the cops call them for her she is commiting the crime not you dear.
2006-12-29 16:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by shedevilang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is this way because she hates your dad and she sees your dad in you...she probably blames their breakup on your dad and that's why she acts violently to you...
get away...or tell her you'll go to the cops the next time she hits you...whatever you do, do not kill her...
2006-12-29 16:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by ed j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ...would your mother ever stop hitting you i would run to my father and never return to my mother ever again u should call h.r.s.
or .d.c.f they would place u with your father for permanent if that is what u want???? remember is your father any better ??
ask dr.phil he will help
2006-12-29 15:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by redneck1ofakind01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running away, never solves anything. Communication may work better for all concerned. Please ask both your parents for some guidance via family counseling....before one of you really hurt each other.
2006-12-29 15:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋