I went on a trip around the world recently and met some amazing women. One of them was extremely good in bed, and very eager to please, so I spent quite a bit of time with her. I made sure she always knew it was just casual, but more and more frequently now she is pushing the four letter word on me. I have grown tired of our bedroom antics, but don't want to hurt her by having an unpleasent end to our friendship. What do I do?
2006-12-29 07:28:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think, if I put myself in her shoes, you should be honest with her. If she knew it was just casual, then she must know that this emotional connection she has with you is only one-sided. [We might be romantic, but we aren't stupid.] I think you should sit her down and explain to her what's going on. Don't say, 'I think you're boring in bed,' but you can explain gently that you realize she wants something more than you are willing to give and you don't want to stay with the relationship because you know you will never be able to give her that. I think most women would rather hear the 'truth' with a little white lie hidden then to be told they've bored you. Hope it helps!
2006-12-29 07:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bow out gracefully. Let her know you think she's a great woman but you assumed your relationship was strictly physical and nothing more. Let her know you're not ready for commitment and you never intended it to get this far and had no intention of hurting her. She'll still be somewhat hurt but not as badly if you let her down gently (and soon before it goes any further) and let her know it's you who is the problem and not her. I know it's a lame line but it's true in this situation. Not saying your issues are a problem, it's just how you are at the time...you want to be unattached and having fun whereas she's wanting to get serious. Just be nice. Good luck!
2006-12-29 07:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it quite is okay to have a chum like that, yet given your emotions approximately your guy pal, that is unlikely that your relationship will stay platonic lots longer, even although you does not dream of cheating on your boyfriend. i'm an beginner linguist, so the wording of your question caught my interest - actual relationship with my bf of two years...emotional relationship with my guy pal the fact which you have pronounced which you're having an emotional relationship alongside with your guy pal ability you have unconscious needs to make your guy pal your boyfriend. the fact which you get close bodily ability sooner or later your prefer for an entire relationship will triumph over your loyalty and additionally you will the two fall for an added. you like your boyfriend, come sparkling approximately this your self, carry out a little soul finding , you could probable come to the comparable end. yet do no longer take action devoid of asking your different close acquaintances, and likewise ask your guy pal no remember if he's having the comparable innovations. desire this helped. BTW, would desire to you please me e mail me to tell me what happens, i are turning out to be curious. having pronounced that, it quite is rather helpful to maintain it very own, so do thayt of you opt to.
2016-12-18 21:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by flanary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she has feelings for you than there will more than likely be an unpleasant end to your friendship.
The only thing you can do is be honest with her and break it off. Let the chips fall where they may. Anything less is just wrong.
2006-12-29 07:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always going to be emotional for a women. Some are just that way. I would talk to her. If you choose not to tell her how you feel, she will think she did something wrong. In fact, you are bored and she did nothing wrong.
2006-12-29 07:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by JAD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spell it out to her. She will move on to the next guy. Just use the right kind of vocabulary- be honest and thoughtful in your choice of words.
2006-12-29 07:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a coward and ignore her like most guys do when they want to end a relationship or casual sex partnership or whatever it is that you were in with her.
2006-12-29 07:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should have been more clear that this was a fling. no feelings. nothing, just sex.
for her, tell it to her straight. and do better next tim.e
2006-12-29 07:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dancing with love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave.
2006-12-29 07:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋