my girlfriend left me for another guy on the 1st of december. she left me for another guy. it kills me every time i think about her, she's perfect. i love her still, and recently she changed her myspace picture from her with her boyfriend to a very sad photo. then she sent me an email saying that she wants to see me when she comes back from traveling. does she want me back? i know everyone tells me if she did it once, she'll do it again. But have you ever loved someone so much that you wouldn't care?... because one day you would want to propose to her and ask her to spend the rest of her life with you?? i hope she wants me back.... i really do... i'd kill to protect her... i'd do ANYTHING for her...
all answers are greatly appreciated... and i hope you all have a happy new year...
thank you...
2006-12-29 07:07:01 · 10 answers · asked by the sign 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, this is hard, because you don't know what she's feeling. Although you're hoping she loves you. Right?
However, you don't want to be her second choice, or would you settle? I know love makes us do many things, but you also have to think about your worth. I pray to God that you'll be happy. Maybe she did make a mistake, and realized what she lost, maybe not.
Perhaps she's feeling a void from her bad relationship, and thinks looking for you will help. I say you shouldn't jump to conclusions, and really, really, talk things out with her.
Ok I want to rephrase something I had already written, I do believe we should value ourselves. I don't know if it would be called pride, but at least not settling for being someones second best choice. K?
God bless you, and I wish you the best.
PS. I do believe that people deserve a second chance.
2006-12-29 07:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Belix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, man, everyone would dream of being loved like that. And about your question - you still want them back because you remember all the time you spent together, all the emotions you shared; and you can't believe how all this could end and that person leaves you behind that easy. And if you love her that much, you shouldn't be asking, you know what to do. It's just that she can't always leave you when she finds something she thinks is better and then come back again when she's disappointed. If she does it one more time, you shouldn't be giving more chances. Or maybe if you're doing anything for her, you'll be happy to be a door mat?
Best of luck ;)
2006-12-29 07:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by milena_cub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there man. All I can say is take time to heal first. Taking her back gives her the green light to leave you again. You become the "reliable" one that she can always fall back on if a new guy doesn't work out. This is devastating, long-term, to you (speaking from experience here).
Take some time and recover a bit. At least to the point that you can make a more rational decision. Evaluate things in your life. At the end of the day, you have to live with your decisions.
I went through the same scenario, and it wasted a nice 4 year chunk of my life (2 years were good, 2 years were like what you described). It took a lot of friends to finally convince me of what was going on. People "on the outside looking in" definitely have a more real view of what is going on, and as hard as it is, their advice is probably the best route. Good luck to you.
2006-12-29 07:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by JC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know Friend....it sounds to me as though she's having second thoughts about leaving you. (Of course you're in pain---the breakup is still very fresh!!!) Perhaps she posted that sad photo thinking that she blew it, and you won't take her back. I think you should agree to see her when she gets back from her vacation...it may lead to a reconciliation. In that event, yes---she MAY "do it again", but she may also realize her mistake and never look at another guy. Since you care for her so much, I think you have it in your heart to give her a second chance. I'm not saying that you should be a doormat and let her walk all over you; you have more self-respect than that. Make your terms clear that she gets a second chance, but perhaps not a third. She very fortunate to have someone who cares for her the way you do.
2006-12-29 07:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a mammal need. When you abuse a puppy, five minutes later the puppy will still love you and want your affection. She might want you back. But not for any right reason. I would say to leave her alone. If you don't then I would just say to protect yourself and your heart above all. Do not allow her to treat you a way that you wouldn't treat her. good luck
2006-12-29 07:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin's Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this scenario I would be the girl you are talking about. I left my X for another guy...months ago. When me and my new guy ran into problems I wanted to be comforted by my X.
He wanted me back, loved me, all that stuff, so he came over, like I asked.
He got attached again, but I wasn't really over the new guy. In fact, things between him and I smoothed themselves over and I had to break my X's heart again by telling him that I was choosing the new guy over him AGAIN.
You are familiar to her, comfortable and safe. You are a friend and someone she is used to going to when things aren't going the way she wants.
Be careful. You could end up being hurt by her again.
Then again, she could have realized that you are the one she wants to be with and has learned from her mistake....every story is different. It's really up to you.
2006-12-29 07:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course the probability of her doing it again are high,
but if you're willing becaus you love her that much,
its completely your decision.
she probably wants you back either for comfort,
or she knows that you'll always let her back into your life.
if that's the case then she will take advantage of that, and she
might hurt you more the next time.
just be careful, and take everyone's opinion into
consideration, dont be taking that big step
of proposing if there's a slightest chance you'll be hurt more than ever.
2006-12-29 07:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want her back because you love her BUT don't do it! You will only be hurt more in the long run by her. Give yourself some time to heal.
2006-12-29 07:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
id tlk to her 4 a while but i wouldnt get too serious because she already hurt u once
2006-12-29 07:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're emotionally vulnerable and even though they hurt you, you still feel the same way about them.
2006-12-29 07:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋