What is the best way to ask out your best friend's sister, her overprotective brother? I have been asking him to hook me up for years, but refuses. I have her mailing address (lives with her parents still), and recently just got her cell #. (I got her number from his cell phone when he wasn't looking. Is that bad?) My friend is home for the holidays, normally lives on the west coast, she lives on the east coast. Should I mail her a card? Text? Call her when her brother leaves? And if I call or text her, will she think it's creepy I had to covertly get her number? IWe have known each other for over 15 years.
2006-12-29 07:03:28 · 19 answers · asked by Little Hulk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ur an asshole of a friend. Jerk.
2006-12-29 07:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would probably call her (at her parents house) and tell her that you would like to take her out. You should also tell her you have wanted to ask her out for a long time, and have asked for her brother to set you up, but he shoots you down every time. Tell her of your apprehensions about her brothers reaction, and that you want to take her out, but not want to create bad blood between her and her brother, or you and her brother.
If you are a "good" guy, there really should be no reason your friend would oppose you dating his sister. I can understand the reaction as teenagers, but as we age we get wiser, and if he feels you are an upstanding person, and worthy of friendship, then he shouldn't think any less of you dating his sister. I'm sure he doesn't react well to ANYONE dating his sister, so I expect it will pass if he sees that you two are getting along well and your intentions are good.
If you don't at least talk with her about this, then you know you'll always think about "what could've been".
2006-12-29 07:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with situation is to just drop it and move on--honestly. If you go behind your friend's back to ask out his sister after he's told you no for years, he would rightfully be pretty ticked with you. It will show him that his friendship doesn't mean much to you (which it doesn't seem to if you're doing all this sneaking around despite his wishes). And likely, his sister won't respect you for that either. Chances are, she just sees you as one of her brother's stupid friends and isn't interested in having a relationship with you anyway--girls are typically just like that. Or worse, she sees YOU as a brother figure--no chance there.
This sounds like a lose-lose situation for you, my friend. Step back and look at it objectively and you'll come to the same conclusion as well. I know, the "forbidden fruit" aspect is attractive, but you'd do well to cut your losses and find a different girl. There's no need to open this particular can of worms--it won't be pretty and people will likely get hurt (all three of you).
2006-12-29 07:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG- this is the cutest question ever. Call her- dont be scared. At first she will think nothing of it, but just casually ask her to go for pizza with you or something. Make sure to tell her that you are happy shes home. LOL. Take it slow but take a chance on ur feelings. The worst thing that could happen is she may turn you down...hey you wouldnt be the first guy, lol and if she didnt she would be the first girl to have crushed on one of her brothers friends. Go for it :)
2006-12-29 07:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by BeautyMark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't use the stolen cell phone number or you are a creep. Call under the pretense of looking for your bud, preferably at a time he's likely not there and she is home. Go from there, but don't fail to ask her out if you can get her on the phone and freely talking.
2006-12-29 07:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont call.
just find someone else
I doubt that your best friend will think very highly of that at all.
You could break up with this girl after two weeks and then you will have lost a best friend of 15 years for a CHANCE at something with this person.
Besides
your best friend knows all of the dirty stuff that you have done in the past with other women. DO you think that he wont tell her about that stuff once you go behind his back and try to date his sister?
I doubt your brothers parents will be very amused by that either
FIND SOMEONE ELSE!
2006-12-29 07:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's bad. Quit sneaking around, and be direct with this guy. If he's not cool with it, then you should move on and find another girl. If he really doesn't mind, you still have to get her interested in you! I mean, does she even like you? If she sees you as a friend, then you have more problems than an overprotective older brother.
2006-12-29 07:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well!! I would say you should talk to her directly and say you would like to have her number and would like to go out with her! there is nothing wrong you approaching her directly if you like a person.... If she likes you she will be more than willing to give you her number rather than you calling her and telling her you got it from her brothers cell phone....
and about the brother if at all you start to go out with his sister just tell him to chill and would take care of his sister well!!! Good luck......
2006-12-29 07:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by madhusv2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have known this girl for 15 yrs then it should not be a problem to just call her up and say hello. are you worried about ruining your friendship with her brother? tell him "hey i think your sister is cool so i was thinking of calling her and asking if she wanted to hang out sometime, but i wanted you to know first so you didn't think i was just another guy who wanted to mac your sister"
you aren't just another guy who wants to mac his sister are you? if you have good intentions and aren't looking for a hook up, but rather are looking to see if there are sparks and if you like spending time together then there should not be a problem.
good luck!
2006-12-29 07:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by never2pink 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You show a lack of character that hopefully she will see. Obviously your friend is uncomfortable with you dating his sister, but you would rather destroy your friendship with him and be involved in straining her relationship with her brother cause you think she's HOT. Why don't you just meet a girl on your own?
2006-12-29 07:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by reggae superstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years!!
thats a long time. Have you liked her for the past 15 years now???
If you have then you better talk to your friend first...like a proper talk...tell him how you feel about her.
Say stuff like you wont hurt her n all and you'll keep her happy...but if you do upset her yur on yur own......
2006-12-29 07:11:34 · answer #11 · answered by Lynne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋