I'm home for the holidays back from school, and a girl that was friends with my roommate is down here too on vacation. She's not particularly pretty, and I hardly know her. I won't be back at school next semester, so I won't see her again until next August................................................................................................................................... I've talked to her a couple of times online, and today she left me her phone number "in case I get bored". I'm not interested in dating her, but should I call her to hang out anyways?........................................................................................................................... If I'm gonna call her, it's gotta be tonight, and my other option is hanging out with my friends. My second question besides whether I should call her is whether I should be concerned about sending the wrong message. Let me know what ya think!
2006-12-29 07:02:51 · 27 answers · asked by ChingoBling 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first off I commend you for your first thought not being just to call her for a one nighter then kick her to the curb knowing that you won't have to see her until next August.
Now onto if you should call her or not. That all depends on if you think she'll be alone all night if you don't call her. If all you want to do is be friends with her then you have to choose between her or your other friends..or you could introduce them to her if your plans are such that you could include her. But if you choose to hang out with her alone then she may get the idea that you like her, and when she come sonto you you're going to have to be strong and not let your hormones take over or you'll end up in bed with this girl you aren't attracted to.
2006-12-29 07:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by crazylifer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Give her a shout, and stay in touch with her... keep it friendly, if she brings up anything to do with flirting with you... tell her you just want to be friends...
But, be on good terms with her...
Someday, you will be surprised, as it does happen...
Someday, her hot cousin from away will come to visit, or she'll be hanging out with some hot chick, and guess who gets to meet the hot chick???
YOU...
And guess who is the great guy freind... YOU...
And, guess who will get to bang the hot babe cousin or friend...
You guessed it right again...
It will be you...
When you are friends with women, they put in a good word for you, and their hot babe friends... (maybe not now)
But, at some point she'll know a hot babe from work, or wher ever, etc...
And you, the guy friend will come in UNDER THE RADAR, AND UNDER THE ***** SHIELD...
And it can only be good for you...
If you call her, you become even a better guy...
Oh he called me from away... he's such a great friend...
bla,bla,bla...
The other gurls will hear her hyping you up, and will also hear her say, but he just wants to be friends...
Then the other chicks she knows will realize that you don't want her in that way... so they are open game...
Could be now, could be five years from now, but you'll meet other women through her at some point...
Just don't lead her on...
Tell her you would never want to ruin the friendship, etc, and only see her as a friend...
Also, you never know, she could turn out to be a real friend in the end... a true friend...
It's always good to have as many female friends as possible...
HAVE FUN...
2006-12-29 07:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Q&A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should hang out with her. Her giveing you her phone number with such a pathetic excuse, means that she likes you. People don't just go giving anway their phone #s so everyone will be saved from the terrible state of boredom....
Who knows? U could totally enjoy it and be very suprised.
Give it a chance....since u won't see her 4 a while, then u can try it UNO times, and see what u think.
Best Wishes!!
2006-12-29 07:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Charming's Princess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said, I don't believe you should call her. You sort of answered your own question... you're not interested in dating her, you don't deem to be bored, and you don't want to send the wrong message. I doubt she will be waiting next to the phone for your call, she was probably just being polite in offering that you "call if you get bored."
2006-12-29 07:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Steve A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go a head and call her. She maybe just as bored as you are. Don't say anything about sending the wrong message, because she may just want to be friends as well, but if it feels like she is getting serious, than mention to her that you don't want anything serious....good luck
2006-12-29 07:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by HAGAR!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and tell her you just want to hang out, that your bored. If she gets the wrong idea, correct her rght away. What have you got to lose. Maybe you will have a great time as friends!
2006-12-29 07:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her, just in a friendly way, go ahead and call her. You might have a good time. As long as you don't give her any reason to believe anything other than it's just hanging out. then it's no big deal.
2006-12-29 07:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by rockhoundguide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in hanging out, just call her and keep the conversation "friendly" without flirting. Do an activity that is not too personal, and invite others along with!
2006-12-29 07:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you want to call her. Maybe she could be a good friend even if you don't want to date her. i have guy friends that i just love to be around. Let her know up front that you just want to be friends. if you want to hang out with your friends tonight, just tell her and say maybe that you could hang out some other time.
2006-12-29 07:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by belindashere2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call her but let her know that you're only interested in a friendship... that way she does not get the wrong idea and end up with a broken heart...
2006-12-29 07:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Becca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋