ok i have been dating this guy for 5 months and he says he loves me but he doesnt call me i have to call him i dont get to see him all that much because we like 50 miles a part and well were 14 and 13 and cant drive yet anyway i know what u ur going to say 14 and 13 u dont know what love is that is why im asking i need to know how to tell if he is lieing or telling the truth i dont know what to do i really care about him and i need to know before i go to the next level with him (not sex!) we haven kissed yet i need some ones help im me or email me if u can
2006-12-29 06:58:36 · 22 answers · asked by monkeygirl777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it from an experienced woman, if you are the one who is doing the calling and keeping in contact with him... then you might as well learn early darling he isn't wanting to hurt your feelings and 50 miles is quite a ways to date someone at your age when you don't have much contact. He doesn't do any calling or contacting you so if I was you and yes I have been in your shoes, I would cut ties and move on. Don't move on too quickly just cut ties and let your heart heal. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world. I am a Mother of 2 adult children.
2006-12-29 07:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say at 13 and 14 you are too young to know what love is. It's still love, it's just different than it will be when you are 17 or 22 or 30 or even 50.
When you call him, is he happy to hear from you? Does he talk or make excuses to get off the phone? Have you asked him why he doesn't call you? Maybe there is a legitimate reason that he can't call.
Please remember, girls usually mature early than boys, both physically and emotionally. You may feel ready for the responsibility of a relationship - maybe he isn't ready for that responsiblity yet.
I suggest calling him occasionally, talk to him, spend time with him on those rare chances you get and just give it time. Don't push things or try to rush him. Give him time - give your self time!
2006-12-29 15:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by ann46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey don't let these people get you down. I have to say, like all older people. You shouldn't worry so much. You are young, enjoy your time. I think no matter what age you are, if you love, you call because you can't get enough of each other. And everyone needs time alone so we make quick calls to tell the person we love we have not forgotten them while we were away. Maybe you should just let him know you are feeling a little insecure because he doesn't call you. If he loves you he will try to make you feel better. If he doesn't try then you should ask yourself if you are getting what you need from this relationship and you might have to move on. Good luck!
2006-12-29 15:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five months is not a very long time to get to know someone and you guys don't spend a lot of time together so no I don't think he loves you just loves the thought of being with you. Why don't you ask him some questions like why does he love you. If trust and respect is not in the equation than its not true love. How often does he express his feelings to you? Are the detailed ( I love your big brown eyes; your squeaky little voice) or are they general (I luv your smile your hair) pay attention to the little things that are specific to you. And of course you already know you guys are so young. I don't know anyone who ends up staying with a person they date at such a young age. A few high school sweethearts stay in love forever but they usually start their junior year. Your young and love takes a long time to learn and the only way you will learn is through your experiences. So Live, Love, and Learn!
2006-12-29 15:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by waterberrer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not stop calling him for a few days? Just don't make it obvious your "testing" him, and don't just for a day either!
If he misses you, he will start calling you, and you might get a better understanding of how he feels. A relationship should be made up of 2, give him a chance to show you he cares. I know it's hard, but you need to let him do his part as well, and hey if he doesn't look for you, then I guess you'd have you answer too.
2006-12-29 15:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Belix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'm sorry. He doesn't love you.
It doesn't sound like the two of you have created the right conditions for love to form. You don't know each other well enough to accept one another fully (one of the things love does). You haven't shared enough of one another for long enough.
Strong feelings can be present between two people who don't love one another, and these feelings are easy to mistake for love. I've thought I was in love before, many times, and it turned out that I was wrong.
The good news is, it only gets better. Very soon, you'll discover feelings hundreds of times more powerful than those you are feeling now. When you have love, you know you have love.
2006-12-29 15:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...so being 14 and 13, remembering what I went through with love at that age, if he's into you, you guys should be like stuck to each other like 24/7. If you're not, then its probably not love. Sorry.
2006-12-29 15:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by James R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa slow down... did u ever realise how often people ask questions to answers they already know take a moment to listen to your self before you make any "huge" disicions.
for 1. you live 50 miles away.
2. your only 13 and 14
3.he does'nt call you
if you ask me this sounds like a bad ideal you don't need advice you need to trust your gut.
2006-12-29 15:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by oppositeangles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt care enough to call you, then he's most likely not going to be the husband-to-be. Find a man who's madley in love with you, but first ask him why he wont call you, hear his side of things!
Ps How can we email you, you wouldnt allow your email to show??!!
2006-12-29 15:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u two guyz r awful don't make her feel worse if thts the truth!!! I really don't think you should be dating yet. I have since 4th grade and i'm now in 7th. From the experience I have I say just dump him guyz tht age just want u for looks, to be cool, to be the boss of someone else. If I were you I would say that he really doesn't love you. He just wants u for the fun of it. Iv had it done to me the same you are havin it done to you.
2006-12-29 15:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋