what can i do?

Question

i am i love with my boyfriend and i am so paranoid that he is goin to break up with me and i dont know why i think it is because his ex is so much more pretty than me! what do you think i can do to slove this? please help!

Answer 1

if he will leave ytou for a girl that is prettier if he really loves you he won't leave you and he will stay with you. hope that he doesn't leave you and if he does he is not for you and it will be wasting your time with him. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Wow!... can you say the words... "Very Insecure"

Get it together with a quickness. Stop focusing on the external so much. He's with you for a reason.. hopefully because you've got something far beyond "pretty". You're probably beautiful inside and out. There's a HUGE difference between the two, but you need to know that.

However if you choose to keep on with that insecure paranoid crap he'll probably leave you because of it. Guys on a whole love a confindent (but not conceited or self centered) woman.

Try to remember that old saying which says: "Pretty is as Pretty does. If she was "all that" he would still be with her. Obviously there must have been "some kinda ugly" going on with her... perhaps in her behavior/attitude or character.

Calm down and nix the insure, paranoid, negative thought process thing. .. because that behavior right there with guys can get down right old and annoying real fast after a while. Then he'll get tired of trying to reasure you every second that he's into you and not her causing him to eventually leave you.

So cut it out! alrighty then.

Answer 3

Remember looks aren't everything. Yes they are something, but maybe he saw something in you he didn't see in his ex. Perhaps he saw you as better person as a whole (like they way you are or the way you treat him). Talk to him about it. It's imperative you do so he can see how you feel. Ask him what made him want you. Don't be so paranoid and have some self-confidence if you keep acting insecure he might leave you since for guys that can be a total turn off. I wish you the best!!!! :)

Answer 4

First of all, stop worrying about it. You're just going to drive yourself crazy wondering "why".
Second, build up your confidence. So what if she's better looking. You're with him right now, not her.
The reason why you're paranoid is because you seem to be insecure. Don't take that wrong. I'm not trying to badger you.
You continue to think that he's going to break up with you and it will be YOUR fault. Well, stop thinking like that.
Instead, start thinking positive.
Here's an example, you say his ex is better looking than you. Like I said earlier. So what. Big deal. Think about it positively. For example, say something like, "she's better looking, but I'm smarter" or better personality, better kisser, whatever. It doesn't matter. Look at the brighter things in life. What did you do to win him over? Stick with your guns and stop shooting yourself in the foot.

Answer 5

Don't judge a book by its cover.

Just because your boyfriend's ex was pretty, doesn't mean anything. For all you know she could of been controlling, jealous, spiteful, selfish, etc. Can you tell if someone is like that by their looks? Of course you can't.

Talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling, he'll probably tell you the same. A little bit of self belief wouldn't go amiss either.

Answer 6

Please dont worry, my son used to go out with stunning size 8 girls who were not very kind or entertaining, he met a girl from London whilst he was travelling around America and as they were going in the same direction they agreed to travel together, after a while they realised they felt more for each other they have now been together for 3 years, she too had your worries at the start because after meeting some of his ex girlfriends she realised that she is not the type of girl he used to go out with, but she is the loveliest kindest funniest girl ever and he loves her dearly.

Answer 7

You need to get a grip and calm down. First off, you seem to have some insecurity issues if your worried about the ex-because she is better looking than you (which it may not matter to him or he could have a different opinion on it too). If it was ment to be, it will happen. If it doesn't, there are plenty of other men out there who'd love to make you forget about your ex-bf.

Answer 8

Theres a reason why him and his ex split up in the first place, and hopefully those reasons will be kept that way.
Being more attractive doesn't mean he loved her more than you, true beauty comes from the heart.
People naturally worry about their partner and whether they love them or not, but you've got to understand that sometimes paranoia can become too much for a guy to handle.

Answer 9

He obviously dumped his ex for a reason, so although she might be pretty, she was probably a mardy cow.

He's with you now, so he must like you very much and think you're great.

Answer 10

You need to feel better about yourself and stop fixating on this ex. Presumably there are very good reasons why she is his ex and you are his girlfriend!

Tell him your feelings calmly, listen to his answer and leave it at that. I know its difficult, but banging on and on about it will just drive him mad and put a wedge between you.

Meanwhile, work on feeling better about yourself. Your boyfriend obviously sees how great you are- now you need to too!

Answer 11

I think you just lack a Little self confidence because of your looks. There are lot more other things in life then just looking pretty.