Can friends have a sexual relationship?

Question

Just following on from a previous question really. Can friendship between a woman and a man be non-sexual even is you go on holiday together.

Answer 1

yea

Answer 2

Cazza, I think the fact that you are having a hard time conciling yourself with how your friend you mentioned in your earlier question is behaving towards you, should tell you that such friendships do not usually work out as initially expected.

When you have sex with someone, your relationship with that person inevitably evolves into something more than just a mere friendship. The longer you continue in this vein, the more likely it is that one of you will start to want more and more and, unless the other partner is of the same mind, it will, more often than not, drive you apart.

So I would have to say that my answer to your question has to be in the negative. I think to have sex with a friend just for the sake of having sex rather demeans what is one of the most beautiful, pleasurable experiences life has to offer. There are also the dangers of contracting sexually-transmitted diseases and of unwanted/unplanned pregnancies to be considered when indulging in unprotected casual sex.

I think it is somewhat irresponsible of people not to consider the consequences of such activities. As far as I am concerned, anyone who thinks that "it could never happen to them" is being a fool and deserves everything they get when it does go wrong. The world is full of such fools, Cazza, as you have found out to your cost. So why put yourself into a situation where it can happen to you again?

Answer 3

if you want sexual relations with someone. then you shouldn't be friends in the first place. this is usually where relationship end. unless that is, if you know how to satisfy each others needs, there maybe hope. think of the feelings, after doing it. all the apologies, the lies and the arguements, becuase you've both done something wrong. i've had affairs myself, which never work out. ask the girl in question how she feels about you. trying getting her upset, not intentionally. to she if she's agressive. if you're always nice and she likes you that way. she probably doesn't know your dark side. time and space is the key. ask her feelings on marriage. this will tell you, how she feels.

Answer 4

of course it can, it is possible to have a good relationship and bearing in mind the swingeing amounts charged as 'single room suppliments' you could even share a bedroom, sex does not need to intrude, particularly if the friend is of the same sex. On several occasions I have shared a bedroom with a woman of my own age, a friend but we worked out a system where we stripped and got into bed in private and apart from touching each other during sleep kept to ourselves. We are still friends and are both happy we shared the time together we could not have afforded alone................

Answer 5

As long as neither one of them finds the other one attractive. I know this girl and she is the best girl ever and we have lots of fun together, we just had a weekend gateaway trip and shared the same room and even felt sleep on the same bed. Again, as long as they dont find eachother attractive. In my case she likes tall guys(I am as tall as her) and I like pettite girls (she is overweight)
I think also as long as they are both single. If I would be on a relationship I would still have friends but no more trips or sleepovers.

Answer 6

I believe that you can have a plutonic relaionship that is based purely on friendship, but from personal experience once you've crossed that line it's not considered in my book a friendship anymore...

Not everyone is the same and has the same idea as I do.

Answer 7

Yes it can be sexual, yes it can be non-sexual.

Some people have sex with alot of their friends, early on - it is for some people a kind of cement that makes the bond stronger, and nothing more after that.

It's all individuality, and doing what feels natural.

Answer 8

yes, my best friend is a lad, been mates for 4 years, we go out together, but u gotta make sure thats all u do stay or theres chance of loosing that friendship forever.u gotta make it clear.

Answer 9

yes definitely, i think that may show the signs of a really strong friendship aswell, a friendship with a guy that doesn't go beyond that is pretty special i think.

Answer 10

It can work out.
But i find that women tend to get too emotionally involved and end up really liking them because you're spending so much time together.

Answer 11

Don't ruin the beautiful meaning of making love, god.. this country is unbelievable, ppl are like animals..