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I am having another baby in 3 month how can i get my 18 month old to want to sleep on his own if he has always sleep on the bad with me . and I dont want him to feel replaced by the new baby coming what can i do

2006-12-29 06:31:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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You made the mistake of letting him sleep with you. Co-sleeping has no "ups" if you ask me. It only causes problems.

Put his crib in your room for a week. This way, he won't be in your bed but he'll still be able to see you. After a week or so put him in his own room. Lay him down and close the door. Let him cry it out if you have to. Because he's slept in your bed for so long he's never learned how to soothe himself. If he gets too hysterical, walk in his room and "shhh" him or stroke his head but do not pick him up. Eventually, he'll learn how to put himself to sleep and you won't have any trouble with him sleeping on his own.

2006-12-29 06:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2 0

Well, I'll tell you what my friend did.

She was preggo with baby number two, and had a 20 month old still sleeping between her and her husband. He really did not want to sleep on his own, so she made up a chart. It was like a calendar and every time he slept all night in his bed, he got a sticker. By the way, his toddler bed was in her room for the first month or two. He was ecstatic about stickers, but then, every Saturday, he got a Skittle for every sticker from that week.

You could always replace the Skittles with another candy or snack, something you know your baby will love. Pretty soon, he was staying in bed all night every night. Just make sure that if your toddler cries, you go to him, and sit with him a minute. Don't bring him to your bed to calm him down because then he will learn that he will get to stay in mommy's bed if he cries. Just calm him, soothe him.

They have these new teddy bears that play a lightshow when you turn it on for 20 minutes. My niece loves it, and she's only 22 months old. She stares at it, and eventually falls asleep.

Good luck.

2006-12-29 06:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Should have started from the beginning...don't make the same mistake with the new one. It's okay to hold them while lying in bed for a short period of time, but not to sleep with them. Then this exact situation happens...why should they sleep on their own, you've let them sleep in your bed since they were born, that's all they know. Babies need their own space, that's what cribs are for. When the 18 month old sees that the new baby sleeps in their own crib, they'll probably be more willing to sleep on their own as well.

2006-12-29 06:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Darth Darwin 4 · 0 0

18 month old should have been sleeping on his own for sometime now....
Don't make the same mistake with the new one.

It'll be tough now because it's a habit but you just have to decide to have him sleep in his own bed and that's that. Make a routine for bed and follow it every night. And don't have the newborn sleep with you!

2006-12-29 07:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0 0

Your baby is just used to you being around at night which makes him feel safe and comfortable...so now that you stop, he is probably is frighten a bit not knowing why you are not around now.....and perhaps a bit confused

You got to find a way to make it fun for your son to sleep in his crib or have him to tired to fuss....he is old enough to have some type of regular bedtime routine.........have a routine which should include some physical activity to wear him out during the evening hours so he will sleep sounder, even if it is something as simple as kicking a ball around.......hot baths are a great way to knock kids out prior to bedtime.......hot milk also works great.....reading to them makes them tired also....have him very tired prior to bedtime thus hopefully making him fall asleep faster and stay asleep, maybe show her with a stuffed animal that he loves how he goes to bed "like a big boy"........giving him some type of treat if he spends the night in his bed.......make marks on a poster, then when he gets perhaps 10, take him for ice cream, McDonalds, etc.

Perhaps move the crib closer to the door so perhaps he can see you when he goes to bed if he goes prior to you....your son may just want to know you are around so if he can see you, it might help.......

I do think if a baby/child is very tired, they will sleep better and longer.........always have a regular routine that you do each night finding ways to make him tired.
A very tired baby/child is not able to cry and cry.

I had my son so pooped out prior to bed, then between the hot bath and hot milk, a bedtime story, he would pass out within minutes and always sleep through the night since he was a baby. I think a regular routine is essential.....I used to buy all types of bath toys including bath crayons to keep him in the tub for awhile to get him tired.

Hope some of these tips work, and maybe not starting that habit with the new baby so yuor son doesn't feel replaced.

2006-12-29 07:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by Peace 4 · 0 0

Try telling him that his a big boy now,and big boys have there own big boy bed. To get him use to sleeping in his own bed ,try laying down each night with him until he fall asleep. If he wakes up during the night, lay down with him again in his bed until he falls back to sleep. After a short while he should get used to sleeping on his own. It worked for us,I hope it do for you as well.
Good Luck.

2006-12-29 06:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cas 2 · 0 0

He is going via tiers. he's 2yrs and a pair of months old and for the final couple of months it incredibly is been greater durable to get him to mattress. Ever on condition that Christmas, New Years Eve, etc. distinctive kin events and issues that meant late bedtimes for him have disenchanted his schedule. on the 2d I ought to lie with him and cuddle him to get him to sleep, that can take something between quarter-hour and a pair of hours relying on his temper, if this is a protracted night in some situations I in simple terms finally end up falling asleep before he does and spend the nighttime in his little toddler mattress lol. before this section he used to pass to sleep advantageous, i ought to place him in mattress, kiss him goodnight and leave and that is it. completely happy days! yet he's had greater durable patches too in the previous the place i've got had to lie with him or do controlled crying, whichever works maximum suitable for him on the time (there have been tiers the place he hasn't allowed me to lie with him to sleep and could scream if I positioned him to mattress any time before the early hours (that replaced into the consequences of jet lag which lasted some weeks with him) so controlled crying replaced into the only thank you to pass). with any luck this section will end too quickly and he will pass back to being common peasy!

2016-10-06 04:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

try to get him things that will make him comfortable on sleeping by himself...
maybe a nite lite..
a T.V....
ect...
a stuffed animal

2006-12-29 06:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Bundle them in real tight, wait you know what to do, hell you are pregnant again,

2007-01-01 12:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by John D 1 · 0 0

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