My step-daughter, age 14, leaves the house as she pleases and doesn't say where she is going, when she'll be back, nothing. I was taught to ask permission, get the okay, and always tell someone. I am 30 and I am not sure if I am just too old-fashioned for this decade of children. What do you think?
2006-12-29 06:30:13 · 12 answers · asked by Ms. Wizard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have to agree with some of the other folks here. It is dangerous for a 14 year old child, especially a girl, to be out wherever she pleases. I'm not saying that boys should be allowed to either though. I was able to get in enough trouble as a kid and my parents always made me tell them what I was doing. You will never be able to control the whole situation, but as a parent you need to do what you can to protect your children, 'step' or not.
2006-12-29 06:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by jspphotos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think your old fashioned? When my kids (Step kids included) leave the house, they get permission and they know that they have to be in sight too....I want to be able to look out the window and visually check that they aren't killing each other with sticks. Of course, that may be the reason why when they go to someone else's house to play, they come home injured! ha ha ha....anyway, it's your house, you set the rules, but to make it go down easier, deal it with a dose of sugar by telling your step daughter that you are a worry wart, and your imagination goes wild when suddenly you have no idea where she is, so tell her she is expected to let you know her plans, and she needs to check anyway in case there was something else on the agenda, like a trip to the mall and ice-cream!
2006-12-29 06:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 and seven for my 2 eldest. I did comprehend the mum and dad sufficient to be pleased with it. We weren't acquaintances, i do in comparison to them in my opinion yet that does no longer propose i did no longer believe them to easily have a pair of toddlers over. i'm no longer the kind of person who limits my toddlers' acquaintances merely because of the fact i do in comparison to their mum and dad on a private point. it would be a distinctive tale if i presumed they have been undesirable human beings, yet that wasn't the case. i'm additionally no longer the kind of person who assumes that there is probability around each and every corner, so i think i'm extra comfortable approximately sleepovers than different mum and dad could be. It labored out splendidly and that they've a large time over there. the females like one yet another and that's all that concerns. they are 9 and virtually 7 now and characteristic sleepovers and bypass to them generally, with acquaintances or over to my mum and dad', or to their honourary grandmothers'. i think of it helps them be nicely rounded, have exposure to distinctive human beings and distinctive existence, and to have some plenty mandatory independence.
2016-11-24 23:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a dangerous world outside your doors and a 14 year old is not old enough to make dicisions whether or not she should let you know where she is. There is nothing old fashioned about common sense.
2006-12-29 06:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are old fashioned at all. Children SHOULD tell a parent where they are going. If for no other reason then for safety.
2006-12-29 06:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who pays the mortgage/rent?
Who's the adult?
Who's the child?
Check that mess with a quickness. It's called "teaching responsibility, accountability and respect 101".
Old fashioned... Think Not!
2006-12-29 06:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by 247 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 13 and i always want to know where he is you need to know, if you let them go in and out if they please then if something does happen then you wont know as soon as you should. No i dont think you are old fashioned just concerned.
2006-12-29 07:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by trace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. She should tell you when she is leaving, where she is going, with whom, and when she will be back. However, you should not displine her in any way if she doesn't, that's her dad's job. She is too old.
2006-12-29 15:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they should tell their parents what if someone snached them then no one would have no idea were to search for them...i always had to tell my parents or i couldn't leave the house for a month
2006-12-29 07:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by redneck1ofakind01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i agree with you all the way .thats part of whats wrong with some teens nowadays.they just do what they please. i wasnt raised like that .i had to do what i was told.i guess it sure has changed since you and i grew up. kind of sad isnt it?
2006-12-29 06:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋