im in a delimma. i really love spending time with my bf. but when i am not with him i really dont miss him. it is just the companionship that i like? i dont know. i do care alot about him, but,sometime sthe things that he does really turn me off. what should i do?
2006-12-29 06:29:29 · 26 answers · asked by country girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him how you feel. He might feel the same way. Perhaps you were just meant to be friends...there is nothing wrong with that.
2006-12-29 06:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
how much time do you spend apart?
People need time to themselves too, if you are spending lots of time together so that it seems like you don't have your own life then it is perfectly natural to not feel that you miss him.
depends on what kind of person you are (do you need a lot of "alone time"?).
Some people are private people and want time alone and are glad when they get it. Time apart (but not too much) so that you have your own life is actually better for the relationship and for you so that the relationship doesn't become your life, but it adds to your life.
Try spending a little less time together and see how you feel. Make it clear to him that it has nothing to do with him and you need some alone time. If he has a problem with it it could be because he is the clingy type.
2006-12-29 14:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by bluto blutarsky2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how your feeling.... you have not told us how long you have been with him?
If you have not been with him very long, then it is strange not to miss him, because your suppose to be in the honeymoon period where you constantly miss the person who you love..
But if you have been with him for some time, then i guess you have nothing to worry about... i have been with my bf for longer than a year, and i dont miss him like i used to.. i still love him, but it doesnt bother me so much if i dont see him for 2-3 days, whereas before it really upset me.
Dont worry so much, but if you have only just starting dating, then maybe you should be just friends.
2006-12-29 14:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe you and your boyfriend and past the infatuation phase and more of your true self is comming out. Its common if you've been dating for more then a year or so. As for him turning you off, Its hard to confront it but when he does it just say "ugh that so unattractive" but u need to learn how to like or deal with some of his ugly characteristics. how do u know he isn't turned off by some of the stuff you do? Goodluck.
2006-12-29 14:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by CiNdiEe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone likes companionship and you are not going to like everything about your boyfriend. If you can overlook the things he do...then that's a normal relationship, but if you can't and it really bothers you then you need to just be friends with him.
2006-12-29 14:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it more time. sounds like a more or less normal relationship. could be that you are not that much into the guy. If you feel that the negative aspects of this relationship out way the positive, end this and move on
2006-12-29 14:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont see the problem.
If you can't talk him about the things that are bothering you then just try to ignore if for as long as you can. If you are with him and he starts getting on your nerves, make up an excuse and go home. ALso, do more 'active' things that require less talk time (bike riding, roller skating etc)
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-29 14:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it sounds like you don't love him but you do like him in a way. Tell talk to him about the way he turns you off, if not he will not stop doing the things he does. but if your just seeking friendship tell him. don't lead him on thinking you like him in a relationship way let him no its a companionship way or youll brake his heart(if he really cares about you) if you prolong telling him that.
2006-12-29 14:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Nitsua 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. I never really miss my b/f when he goes away to visit his family in another state.
2. Some things my b/f has done(saying bros b4 ho's) turns me off, but at the end of the day, I still love him.
Do what your heart says.
2006-12-29 14:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could try talking to him, but if you really don't feel a connection anymore, you might want to break it off, it will most definetly save you some pain in the long run. But....think first don't do anything stupid that you will regret. Go with what your heart wants.
2006-12-29 14:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by Answers! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea i had that problem; its probably you are just not attracted to that person, physically or emotionally or both. sometimes we do stay with people because we'd rather not be alone but in the end its not fair to the other party and its lying to ourselves when we arent really happy.
if you decide to be alone, you will miss the company and perhaps doubt your decision, but in the end maybe find someone you click with more.
good luck
2006-12-29 14:33:41 · answer #11 · answered by suede 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋