I am married but have no compassion, romance or any fun/excitement at home. I am starting to look for more male "friends" but scared of cheating on my husband. What should I do? Other than the problems listed he is a very good man and father.
2006-12-29 06:26:45 · 8 answers · asked by ♥ Lady L ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get your husband to start acting like your male friends. What is it your male friends do that make them fun/exciting? Sometimes, people never grow out of the teenager, party all the time, no responsibility stage. Those that do make good spouses (such as your husband). Sounds like the two of you need to find a balance between excitment and responsibility. My folks are in their 50's now and keep things exciting by getting involved in community activities together such as volleyball, softball, church events and things like that. THEY get together with friends. There should be much less girls/guys nights out and more couples nights out.
2006-12-29 06:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Krys Tamar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are problem solvers, if you start telling him how you feel he might perceive it as his fault and feel useless if he is unable to 'fix it' and make it better.
I think communication is key but just be careful in the way you tell him how you feel, IF you choose to tell him.
You can research ways to bring passion back into your relationship. There are tons of books on this subject. I'd try that route before I would cheat or dump all this at the feet of your husband.
Try to introduce some new sexually exciting things in the bedroom , like role playing, etc. See if he goes for it.
2006-12-29 06:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously not in love anymore and I hate to tell you this, but you're headed for a divorce with that attitude...maybe youre not ready....if you feel this way, get rid of the problem soon. Theres no way you can feel single while youre married, mariage is a very serious commitment...so you have to be both there to make it happen, i hope this make senese....
2006-12-29 06:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by chrisj7682 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat. Ever. As one who has been cheated on, I know firsthand the pain that comes when you find out that someone you love and trust has done that.
Talk to him. Work on this relationship. When, and only when you can say that you have truly done that and it is still not working, you can contemplate the alternative. Marriage/relationships take work.
Good luck
2006-12-29 06:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, you need marriage counseling, or individual counseling. Whatever you do, don't cheat. Have you ever tried to talk to your husband? If it is that bad, than get out of the marriage.
2006-12-29 06:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to talk about it and stress how both of you can work to fulfill each other's needs. However, you should have a time frame, say six months to a year. If things have improved signficantly by then, I would think that fire has no chance of being rekindled.
2006-12-29 06:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the same way you can be in a relationship and still feel lonely
2006-12-29 06:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband how you feel and seek marriage counselling.
2006-12-29 06:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋