This guy is really nice and really sweet, he makes lots of money,he is fun and funny he is almost perfect except one problem tha bothers me is he is not attractive he is everything im NOT phisically attracted to...now i just met him and i really lovee his personality but he i just ugly..and that bothers me sotimes do you think if im not phiscally attracted to him i shouldnt let him be my boyfriend or do you think i should?
Advice and are you in a situation like this??
2006-12-29 06:22:15 · 35 answers · asked by becca . 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Looks shouldn't matter. Give him a chance. This could be THE ONE. You never know.
2006-12-29 06:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Few things.... the third trait u mentioned about him was that he made lots of moey (alarm bell for him) and then you just called him ugly is pretty harsh.... You obviously aren't feeling it that way. And it may take a while before you start feeling it like that (if ever)... so I don't think you should make him your bf until you are actually attracted to him bc what happens when he wants to kiss you, or get physically close? If you are just going to end up breakin his heart then don't go down that road. Tell him you really love spending time with him, but that you jsut aren't attracted to him like that. After time if he really everything you are looking for (besides the looks), then the importance of his outer appearance will fade away.
I have been there, and after 4 yrs I just realized how attracted I am to this guy- my best guy friend. Hes not physically my type, but he is the most amazing person and just being friends with him.... over the course of that much time it evolved into more of a romantic interest. Sometimes it takes a while to realize that amazing people that are totally able to make you happy might come in unexpected packages. But don't rush it if you aren't feeling it. Whatever is meant to happen will in its own time.
Good luck and just try to enjoy the fact that you at least are friends with a funny, sweet guy. They are rare to come by (sorry boys)!
2006-12-29 06:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all well and good to say looks don't matter, but they do. That's a big part of the mating process. If his looks bother you, then don't date him. I think it's mean for people to tell you to get over it. They wouldn't date him either. There are a lot of "nice and really sweet" guys out there.
I was in the same situation, and the more I got to know this "ugly", the less I liked him. We're still friends, but I eventually found someone who has a great personality and that I find extremely attractive. So don't feel bad. It's your happiness on the line, not his.
2006-12-29 06:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was in a situation like this. Met this guy from a friend of mine. Talked on the phone for a while and decided to meet. When I saw him, he was heavy, did not look that great and was not my type-physically speaking. But, he was nice over the phone and so, because of that, I decided to continue with the date.
We had a good time and he was a sweet guy.
But, he was not ugly-wasnot my type, but was not ugly. To call a guy down right ugly, makes you sound more vicious and vain. I would just leave him alone and find a man who has the looks that you are looking for.
He sounds like he has everything going for him but the looks and you seem like you would take everything if he had the looks. Do not string this fellow along if he thinks there is something between you and him.
2006-12-29 06:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it bothers you now it could affect things in being in a relationship with him. Sad to say but sometimes it does matter to some people. Not knocking you but everyone looks for something different in someone and you just can not see it on the outside, only the inside. You have already said it bothers you so maybe you should save both of you heartache's and just keep him as a friend and nothing more. Nothings wrong with being friends right? ;o)
2006-12-29 06:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has the money suggest he get plastic surgery.
There is nothing wrong with it, if an ugly person turns you off that is just the way it is, it is his fault for bieng ugly in the first place.
(unless of course it is the result of an accident or something like that)
If you can't feel physically attracted to him there is no passion and you will not be able to screw him and you will go look for it elsewhere, which is ok, because if someone is ugly or fat it is not cheating.
2006-12-29 06:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by bluto blutarsky2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it really bothers you then I wouldn't make him your boyfriend. I think physical attraction is important in a relationship. If you don't think you can kiss him without gagging then you need to find someone else. It's up to you tho. Because a lot of women have ugly boyfriends but they can overlook that because the guy may have an awesome personality. It's your decision
2006-12-29 06:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so am nt saying this cz am shallow bt its the truth looks do matter...physical attraction is what seperates a guy from being just a friend and a potential partner. if ur nt attracted to him physically u wnt wanna get into bed wit him...have sexual relations wit him and so on...u might not even want him to kiss you. U shouldnt date him if u dont like the way he looks forget him try someone else, think of it this way he deserves a person who likes his looks as well. U wouldnt be satisfied dating him and in the end he would be heartbroken as you would probably get bored after a while and want to dump him..i say dont date him...and am saying this on experience
2006-12-29 06:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by E.S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should try going out w/ him. an attraction could take time to develope. but maybe after a while u'll c that his personality really makes him really cute. look past the ugly. i had an ugly boyfriend but after a month of dating i thought he was the cutest guy ever. just give him a chance. the only thing that matters is that ur happy.
good luck w/ him! i bet he's a really good guy!
2006-12-29 06:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by Emy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not at all physically attracted to him, then that doesn't bode well for a romance. Face it, looks DO matter on some level for most of us...humans are visual creatures.
If you want to go out with him and see if an attraction or chemistry develops then go ahead, it's not impossible that might occur...I've dated guys that I really really liked, but wouldn't have given a second glace to if I'd just passed them on the street.
2006-12-29 06:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe looks do matter to many people. If his appearance bugs you, keep him on the good friend level. One key part of a relationship is the spark, the physical attraction. If you don't like the way he looks, then don't start anything. Else you'd end up in a relationship where you'd just be tolerating what your boyfriend looks like. Okay?
2006-12-29 06:28:34 · answer #11 · answered by Mad Scientist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋