My soon to be husband joked about not wanting to wear a ring.Said he never wore any.Do you think it's ok not to wear a wedding ring?
2006-12-29 06:20:25 · 26 answers · asked by jons_girl85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that is up to you, but I would be a little scared. First thing women check for before approaching a guy? That ring. There are some really cool new manly designs that don't appear to be weeding rings. Find something that he likes and he'll be sure to wear it.
2006-12-29 06:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Pirate Hooker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of years ago I would have said no, but now I swing to yes. I loved the idea of both of us wearing our wedding rings all the time. In our first two years of marriage, my husband lost two wedding bands. The problem was he would take it off to do work - he's an electrician and often worked construction or maintenance - because it would be dangerous to have it get caught on something, and he could lose a finger or worse. Since then I have found that it is extremely common for guys in the trades to not wear wedding rings.
You know, part of me is still bothered by it, but he was never a jewellery guy at all and so it's foreign to him to just put on a ring on the weekends, for example. So, I never bought him a third wedding band.
2006-12-29 13:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't wear a wedding ring....I don't normally wear any rings. I lost a wedding ring during my first marriage and my exwife NEVER stopped ragging on me about it. So I never bought another one just to continue to p1ss her off. I do have a band with a nice diamond in it which my present wife gave me as an engagement/wedding ring, but I wear it only on special occasions or if we go out. I know I'm married. Its been my experience that a wedding ring does NOT keep women away at all.
2006-12-29 08:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. My ex-hubby is a carpenter and had, but didn't wear, his wedding ring (except for special occasions) because he was afraid of getting his hand caught in a tool or destroying the ring. If your man has never worn a ring, he just might not feel comfortable with it on his hand. Ask him to wear it a few hours a day, every day and gradually increase that time until he is comfortable. Small steps, one at a time. Good luck!
2006-12-29 06:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by plumbersangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's OK - it's not what a lot of people prefer, but I know a lot of (happily) married men who choose not to wear a ring. (And some women, too.) Many men work in jobs that a ring would be dangerous and could cost them a finger if it got caught somewhere, and so only wear it when they go out. I know one guy who's now lost three rings because he doesn't wear it all the time though - his wife has finally given up. As long as the two of them are firm in their commitment, who cares who else knows?
If he doesn't want to wear a ring, it doesn't have to mean anything - it might mean he doesn't want to declare to the world that he's taken, but it just as likely only means he doesn't like rings. (He may change his mind if you take him ring shopping, though - he may think that a simple gold band is his only option, and he may find something that he really likes.)
2006-12-29 06:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very annoyed if my fiancee did not want to wear his ring after we were married. Still the fact that he doesn't want to wear the ring does not necessarily mean that the marriage is off to a bad start. My future father in law only wore his ring on the wedding day, and he has been happily married to my fiancee's mother for 32 years.
2006-12-29 16:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by marij 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends,
I work in construction and many of the men do not wear their rings, for the most part because of it getting hung up on something and possibly loosing the finger or even the hand.
BUT !
If he has a problem "other than Safety " you might spend a little quiet time with him and find out what the problem is.
Good luck to you both.
2006-12-29 06:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on his intentions.
There are a few good reason for not wearing one
If your job is hazardous, i.e. an electrician or a machine operator you may not want to wear one.
My wife and I both are on again off again with regard to wearing our rings. For us it is not the ring its our commitment to each other that is important. I my self find it rather uncomfortable at times.
The main thing is... if you are both committed and love each other then its okay to be relaxed about it. You'll have many other battles to fight. Pick the important ones... Then... always kiss and make up. Forgiveness is a critical part of marriage.
Best wishes
2006-12-29 06:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by Friend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, no, its not ok. Im not married, but if I was I'd have to put my foot down there. Ok, so he doesn't wear any rings at the moment, and maybe no other jewelry, but its not normal jewelry and its a sign of commitment to you to other people. Some people don't I know, but how would he feel if you didn't wear your engagement and wedding rings then? Would he find that acceptable? I think you'll find he won't. Perhaps he was only joking...
2006-12-29 06:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Blinky 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I do think it's okay and I'll tell you why. In in his line of work he's not allowed to wear one. But that being said, I know I can trust him weather there is a ring on his finger or not. That is just an outside symbol of what is inside.
2006-12-29 13:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋