I have been dating this girl for the last 15 months and we are in love. Well, I think we are in love.
But she just plain doesn't trust me. About 14 months ago, I was "caught" talking to my ex-girlfriend on the phone and in person. Although I never cheated, she claims that it was practically cheating.
Fast Forward to today, where we got into a huge argument over my birthday plans (December 30th) as I told her that my boss wanted to take me out tonight for my birthday. She basically flipped out and gave me sarcastic remarks like, "yah go out, have fun, whatever" and other dumb crap.
I love the girl, but its like, all we do is fight and she doesnt trust me about anything....Its really hurting our relationship and my feelings for her.
HELP ME
2006-12-29 06:02:37 · 20 answers · asked by U Luv It 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We broke up for a month in october and decided that we "need" eachother and got back together.
2006-12-29 06:03:33 · update #1
yeah yo should.........she's too jealous
2006-12-29 06:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by lisa_08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't trust you. You have two choices. If you love her and want to stay in the relationship, you need to sit her down and have a heart to heart. Ask her flat out if she trusts that you will not cheat on her.
If she says yes. Then tell her how you feel. Tell her that you love her but you can't take the insecurity. If you've already apologized about the ex-girlfriend situation and haven't done anything that remotely resembles cheating since, tell her that you love her but you refuse to continue to take the crap just to be with her. Tell her that you know what you did was wrong but that you love her and want to be with her.
If she says NO, end the relationship. I know it's hard to read those words but if she continues to treat you crappy your relationship will end anyway. Either she'll end things or you'll end things down the road because the lack of trust has already torn a hole in your relationship. An unstable relationship has no where to go but down if you're willing to move on and she's still stuck on the ex-girlfriend phone call. If you've already apologized and she says she's forgiven you, then why all the drama?
2006-12-29 14:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Nuseed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is insecure, although you may not have cheated, the fact you were caught speaking to your ex is a betrayal in her eyes, and probably yours as you say "i was caught" .
For anyone a 30th bithday is a milestone in anyone's life, therefore if your girl didn't already have plans for you she would have most definately wanted spend it with you, and you with her, after all she is the one you love.
Trust is so important in a relationship, you can't progress without it.
Do you give her reason to distrust you?
2006-12-29 14:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by knickers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just saying these things because she loves u. but tell her that its out of order.
tell her she has no reason not to trust u
has she been cheated on in the past? talk about it with her and try to find out why she feels this way.
tell her that u need to have trust for any relationship to survive. good luck
2006-12-29 14:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a difficult situation. but what i think is first talk to her explain to her that it is hurting the relationship tell her sincerely that you never cheated on her and you care about her very much. and that does not help yes i think you should brake up with her.
this is what i will tell you and you should tell her
if you cant solve a problem now then the relationship cant work.
the key to any aspect in life is communication if you don't have that then there is no point in that relationship hope i help
2006-12-29 14:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her then don't dump her. Sit down and talk to her about how you are feeling. Make sure you stay calm and don't get upset. Tell her that she needs to learn to trust you and that you will not cheat on her.
2006-12-29 14:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Smith10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down, tell her how you feel about her, ask her why she doesn't trust you, ask her if she loves you. If she says she loves you, and your sure of her ''yes'', then you can tell her that she's hurting you. Once that's settled, promise her that you'll never cheat on her, or do anything to hurt her ON PURPOSE.
2006-12-29 15:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by dessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her and care about her, then you shouldn't dump her. you need to work through this. you need to lay it out on the table and show her how she is being very overprotective. tell her that there could be no relationship without trust and its her choice where the future of this relationship goes.
2006-12-29 14:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kell Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her no she just needs to be shown you love her and wont cheat men dont realize dont hide the ex dont make secrets etc. be honest and most of all tell her things some pople are just insucure make her see and shell lighten up
2006-12-29 14:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest breaking up with her if this relationship is only hurting you and your feelings for her then its best to just break it off altogether and not get back together.
2006-12-29 14:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would dump her, if you are not trusted the relationship will go nowhere. and she sounds like she has snakes in her head, if she is not your main focus, she flips right. you need someone that does trust you and cares abut you, not herself.
2006-12-29 14:07:38 · answer #11 · answered by country girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋