He said he just wants to be friends with benefits, but he drives 100 miles to be with me and sleeps over and cuddles all night, he acted jealous when my ex-bf called and tried to talk me out of getting back together with him when I said I might, he breaks plans with his friends to be with me, when I was at his house he wanted me to sleep over and when I wanted to go he was practically clinging on to me to keep me from going, we hang out together in public, and he kisses me at random times, even when he's not turned on or doing foreplay. Does this sound like just a friend with benefits??? Do you think he has feelings for me??
2006-12-29 05:55:17 · 36 answers · asked by bellyyo62 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He does not have feelings for you; he's just using you. He'll keep jerking you along until you decide to wake up and get rid of him.
2006-12-29 05:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
One word of advice...if you don't want anything else with this person, make sure he knows it's JUST FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. I used to date someone and we got back together but just as friends with benefits. It woked out much better. I started to get the feeling he wanted more but I pulled away. I didn't want it. We didn't work the first time but we always had a good time hanging out and between the sheets. I had met someone else and told him that we have to end our "agreement". He was fine with it. But if I had not pulled away from him when I felt he wanted to get serious...I probably won't be married to my husband now. He was the guy I had met while in the "agreement".
One more word of advice...don't ever let your "agreement" with this guy get in the way of meeting anyone new. Sit down and talk with him and ask him what he wants to do. Does he want to get serious or not. If not...then all your options are open.
Good luck and do what you feel is best.
2006-12-29 06:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Michele K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits is almost an impossibility. Majority of time emotions come into play and it certainly sounds like this has happened in this situation. Discuss openly and honestly with this fella what it is that is going on. If you want to be his partner then go for it. But if your only interested in the benefits then give him the travel card and do what you choose to do. But be careful because these types of relationships can be dangerous to your health, both mentally and physically, and you need to be aware of these also.
2006-12-29 06:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me his definition of "friends with benefits" is he can come see you when he wants to, sleep with you, but then he can go back home and be free to do the same thing with anyone he wants, HOWEVER, you are not free to do the same.
He is a loser honey, drop him fast like a hot potatoe! Just think of how many other ladies he may be doing the same things with....yuck!!! You deserve better.
2006-12-29 05:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by blueprincess37 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
make sure he isnt using you for physical reasons...like everything you said so far is physical...sorry this is my past horrible experience talking not to make unjust speculations or anything
i think in ordr to know you must see if you guys can have a meaningful conversation over something..if he's deeper than that you know...if guys want it real bad they will drive 100 miles..its nothing for them...but if he really loves you then he may not do all that he does but instead he will treat you like no one has treated you and not physically but mentally.
here i will tell you this quote and never forget it:
"no man is worth your tears and the one who is will never make you cry." just go by that.
best of luck sweetie.
2006-12-29 06:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not jealous of your ex-boyfriend, he just doesn't want anyone to interfere with the little arrangement he has with you......getting some whenever he likes.
Stop messing around with him. Tell him you do not like this 'friends with benefits' and want to be platonic friends.
Do not except anything less , you deserve great sex and a great boyfriend.
2006-12-29 06:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Laura♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he does, but he wants his cake and he wants to eat you too. See what happens if another girl calls him and you get all upset. He'll say something like "hey baby, we're just friends with benefits, why the static??". Guys like that are just big babies and are afraid to really committ. You need to tell this guy that it's you and only you, or no more booty for him, plain and simple. If he can't deal with, tell him adios b/c it will only get worse as time goes on!!! Viva la chupacabra!!
2006-12-29 05:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is using you for s e x. The more you sleep with him the more attached you will become and therefore the more hurt you will be.
Stop having sex with him and say you'd rather just be 'friends without the benefits.'
He probably does not want you contacting or getting back with your ex, because that will mean he can no longer get sex from you when he wishes.
2006-12-29 05:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sound like a guy who knows how to get what he wants--a sometime gf with the sex etc but no "real gf" just friends. Your an Idiot-----look up the old "why buy the cow when the milk is free" ...set him straight or set him loose-you start to take control
2006-12-29 05:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's a coward. He's obviously acting like he loves you because he does, but he doesn't want any "committment."
If you love him, tell him. Don't expect the same from him, though. If you wanna wait around for him to finally realize what's going on, good for you. If not - if you need him to actually committ, or force him into a situation where he either says what he really feels or leaves, he sounds like the type to bolt - and then regret it the rest of his life.
Ain't love grand?
2006-12-29 05:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he has feelings for you and it scares him.. By keeping it on a friendly base, he avoids great expectiations from you, and with that he can relax, and that is what makes him so cuddly..
In other words; He likes you, but is not sure enough to put himself out there 100%. Maybe he just need time.
You go girl, good luck!
2006-12-29 06:09:06 · answer #11 · answered by ikpfradk 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋