I know i have asked this before but i cannot make up my mind if i want another kid or not. I only have a 5 year old son. I am 27 years old so is my husband. I have not been on birth control in 6 years (I miscarried last year but was not trying to get pregnant)
How can someone know truely they do not want another kid or not. I keep going back and forth on it. I will say yes one minute and no the next but yet i have not went and got my tubes tied yet or even got on birth control.
I had the chance to get my tubes tied when i had my son at age 21 but i backed out.
What do you all think?(I know it is up to me but if it were you what would you do?)
2006-12-29 05:52:12 · 11 answers · asked by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If I were you I wouldn't have another child. If you do eventually lean more to the side of having another child give yourself 2-3 months from that point to see whether or not you really mean. Also, examine why you do and why you don't. Write it down if it helps. That way you're fully aware of your reasoning and more comfortable with your decision.
2006-12-29 06:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ibisoke O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is definately something to include your husband in on. Weigh the positives and the negatives. Financially, emotionally, and your own bodys health. A child will not stay just a child indefinately of course, so plans such as daycare, schooling, college, medical bills all are a factor. But you know if you wait until you have enough money you never will :O) I have seen a great bond between my oldest daughter and her siblings. THey also fight, but they are glad to have each other. I also think of the time when my husband and i will die and i didnt want my oldest daughter to have to be alone in dealing with that. She now has a support system and a family to help her through those times. I also think of all the things i could never tell my own parents and shared with my sisters. We talk about our children and husbands every day to each other on the phone. I cant imagine the holidays without them. I think it is ultimately your choice but those are just some factors that helped me decide. Good luck and pray about it too. God will guide you through it. By the way our childrens ages are 15, 11, and 2!! FUN FUN FUN
2006-12-29 14:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the age of 27 you should definitely feel it in your heart. Anybody that wants a child does not have to ask the question. Your children will be spaced out approximately 6 years in age which makes it difficult for them to truly bond as they will almost be a generation apart.
If your financial situation is strained or you are wanting to work full time, then it may be best to hold off and rethink it out in a few years. I believe that you will truly feel it when the time is right. Good luck!
2006-12-29 14:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sherri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing right now too. I however have three children and I am trying to decide whether or not to have a fourth. I don't know the answer to your question. It seems like everyone else reaches some point where they just say that was it. I haven't yet. I hope you can find your answer.
2006-12-29 13:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by pantsjhb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, consider these questions, and they will help you decide:
Are you willing to go through being pregnant again (eating good for 9 or so months).
Are you willing to go through the joy of tending to a baby 214/7?
Do you think you'd be able to handle 2 children?
Does your son want a baby brother or sister?
Do you WANT to have another baby?
My parents are Christians so they prayed about it.
2006-12-29 13:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by pup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your 5 year old son was 13 or 14 you would know that the answer is one is enough.thank you very much.i had 2 girls 8 years apart and now i know what people mean when they say ''first kids will melt your heart and later will stomp on it''
i never felt such heartbrake as your own child can give you.
because of the way the world is today i would concentrate on my one child.
2006-12-29 14:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by freebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'd never get my tubes tied. I feel that if someone is meant to have a child they will. Getting my tubes tied would be too permanent. I wouldn't get it done, but that's me.
2006-12-29 13:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it until I was completely sure I wanted another baby. Once you are sure you want one, wait a month or two to make sure you don't change your mind.
2006-12-29 13:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by dolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u arent sure then dont have one. if u really wanted one you wouldnt be going back n forth.
2006-12-29 14:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know you obviously aren't ready to have another kid.
2006-12-29 14:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋