2006-12-29 05:51:55 · 44 answers · asked by bubblesty09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't think it's a bad reason, but it definitely shouldn't be the only reason...
2006-12-29 05:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if that is the primary or only reason you are marrying then it's almost certainly a recipe for a short marriage.
If you were going to have married anyway, and you just happened to get pregnant, then go forward...
Couples should not marry just because of a pregnancy...the new baby is likely to cause more issues between them than it helps...why not wait and see how your relationship goes after the baby is born? If all is still well, then you can always get married down the road...
2006-12-29 05:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the worst reason to get married. Unless you want to become another statistic. You don't say how old you are or how long you and your b/f have been together. But to get married because of a pregnancy is totally wrong. How does your boyfriend feel about it? He may feel that getting married is a trap or he may not want to commit to you. Marriage is a big step and it involves more than child care or support. You are asking if its okay to spend the rest of your life with the father of your child. He may not be the right one. While he has the right and responsibility to be in your child's life, he may not necessarily be the person you want to marry.
Think about it really hard before making that kind of decision.
2006-12-29 05:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are planning on being together for a long time, then no, having a baby is not a bad reason to get married. I never understood people who raise families together but never get married.
2006-12-29 06:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! Having a baby is not a reason to get married.
2006-12-29 05:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by lisa h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
You should only get married when you are ready to be married. I had a baby in April of 98, I married her father in June of 99. Take all the time you need to make sure he is "the one." It might be now, or you might need to wait a while. A baby is not the reason to get married.
2006-12-29 10:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bastard: " the circumstance of being born of parents who are not married to one another"....
no child should have to wear that title because of the poor decision making of two people, in the heat of passion... since he was your boyfriend... you both should have been aware of the risk that come with having unprotected sex... or even with protection the risk are still there.....
When a baby is involved it is no longer about what you want...but its more important what kind of foundation is laid for this child to have the opportunity to be the best that he/she can be... so do the right thing and get married, and save that child from having to wear that title for the rest of his/her life...
I kno it might not be what u want to hear......but i see all these people talking about "only if u love him you should marry him"... but the truth is...whats love got to do with it??? did you ask urself whether you loved him or not, when u spread ur legs for him???
and were you sure he loved you??? Be an Adult and take responsibility for your actions...
2006-12-29 06:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by Common Sense 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the cart may have come before the horse but it doesn't mean that the horse is right for you. In other words just because you are pregnant with his baby do not mean you are distend to marry him. You need to know that he is that man you see your self growing old with. Do you love him because he's your baby's dad or because he is your soul mate? You need to ask yourself the easy question. Would you marry him before the baby? If you were not pregnant would you marry him?
2006-12-29 06:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are only marring the guy because you are hiving his child then YES that is the wrong reason to get married. In this case you are only getting married "because you have to" and you should get married because you want to.
If you marry because you have to, most likely your marriage will result in divorce.
If you marry because you love him and he loves you then you know that when things get tough he will be there for you and work things out.
2006-12-29 06:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by shygrl52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, it is not a must to marry your boyfriend just because he got you pregnant. I believe that you should marry for love, otherwise you might make a mistake and be unhappy and that is not healthy for you or for your baby. Good luck.
2006-12-29 05:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god yes! Please take it from me, You marry some one because you love them and you want to spend the rest of your life with them. If he is still your boyfriend if you are not ready to get married just let your relationship continue to grow until you are ready for that step. Plus being pregnant your hormones are crazy anyway, what till abot three months after the baby is born then rethink the whole proposition. Good luck! Look before you leap!
2006-12-29 05:59:15 · answer #11 · answered by thikingdomcome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋