This guy I really like asked me if I prefer guys that are good looking or that were nice. He is also very touchy feely and asked me "why don't you have a boyfriend, you are very beautiful."
When he compliments me and calls me "beautiful" or "sexy" I tell him "nahh oh thank you."
We get along great and we are always joking around and feel really comfortable around each other, he also tells me that I am his best friend that's a girl.
Was this just casual conversation?
I am reserved around guys and I usually don't let them touch me on the back and such but I don't mind if he does, does that make me look easy in his eyes?
I plan on waiting until marriage btw.
Thank you :)
2006-12-29 05:50:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes they can ..i have a best friend that is a girl
2006-12-29 05:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys and gals can be just friends. In fact, they can be best friends, with nothing happening. When really nice guys pay compliments like the ones you mentioned, they are sincere. It does not mean they want anything from you.
The friend you mention sounds like a really sweet guy. Letting him touch your back does not make you look easy to him. You have just gotten very comfortable being with him, and that's a great thing.
My male best friend and I say "I love you" to each other all the time, but we don't mean anything romantic by it. We are just great friends who really care for each other, and show it.
2006-12-29 06:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe women and men can have healthy friendships if there are boundaries. Allowing this guy (you're calling him a friend) to touch you and what not sends all kinds of wrong messages. Either he is or isn't the guy you want to be with. When you allow men to dabble in your inconsistencies they take the proverbial mile. In other words, you need to put up some boundaries. If you're waiting until marriage then why is HE touching you? Why does he think it's ok? And why are you letting it happen?
Thank him for the compliments and if you're not interested in him in that way let it be known.
2006-12-29 05:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Nuseed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok so I always thought that guys and girls could be friends. I think they totally can, but in my cases...and i am friends with pretty much only guys bc girls are pretty catty and b***tchy. Anyways, I have noticed that in my case with almost all of my guy friends... there is an attraction on at least one side. I think you can still be friends even if there is an non-reciprocated attraction..if the other person isn't feeling it you just get over it and get on with being friends.
Props for waiting till marriage! And you do NOT seem easy for letting him touch your back... but it probably does send the signal that you are interested.. which if you aren't thats fine, but don't lead him on...
Good luck!
2006-12-29 06:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Girls and guys cannot be friends; that's just the bottom line. Not trying to be a rebel or anything but the fact of the matter is, girls can say guys/girls can be friends (whether that's true or not depends on the individual, but I assume it's possible, from a girl's perspective that is) on the other hand, guys who say "yea, I have many girl friends that I find as "friends" are lying through their teeth. Keyword here is FIND...Not gonna go into semantics.
I would give a lecture about how the male body works but I presume you all already know so I won't go into that, but in a nut shell...guys think about one thing approximately every 4 minutes. You know what it is...SEX. Ladies, it's sad to say, but yes, it's true(whether you guys deny it or not, you know it's true).
Everything is doomed; guys/girls CAN NOT be "true" friends as a:
STUDY buddy-->the guy's probably more concentrated on whether or not you think he's cute or if you're ready to put out for some extreme make out session.
DRINKING/PARTY buddy-->After being rejected by every girl/guy, sooner or later, by the end of the night you both are gonna look for some comfort and what better than familiar territory. bow che gah bow wow.
CAFE buddy--> Guys say they do this out of friendship but the reality of it is that they're really too much of a chicken to make the first move, hence they're waiting for the girl to confide in him, which as a result will cause the girl to initiate the "action" in the long run. (AKA Long term investment)
WORKOUT buddy--> This one's quite conspicuous...Besides the obvious fact that all the dude wants to do is look down the girl's shirt/stare at her ***, no guy can work out with a girl. Anatomically and physiologically guys/girls are totally different, hence the real reasoning behind the guy wanting to work out w/ the girl is stated above in the aforementioned comment :)
Anyways, with this being said, I'd like to substantiate my response by quoting the classic movie "When Harry Met Sally."
HARRY: "What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way."
SALLY: "That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved."
HARRY: "What I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you."
SALLY: "How do you know?"
HARRY: "Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her."
SALLY: "So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?"
HARRY: "No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too."
SALLY: "What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?"
HARRY: "Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story."
There ya have it. Sorry if this was long. Just wanted to get my point across. Good luck w/ the guy/girl friendship extravaganza :)
Sincerely,
Nwonknuretsam
(Keepin' it Real)
P.S. Not to be a dbag or anything but...we live in the 21st century. Wait until marriage? I'm not trying to tempt you (this doesn't mean you should go out on a skank rampage and sleep w/ every guy in sight; you should still try to find a guy who's worthy of that) or anything and I really do respect your values but not only will it be tough for any guy to deal w/ that, but to tell you the truth it's gonna be tough for you as well to hold in that urge; embrace the natural response of your body rather than keeping it in. Somebody had to say it and yes..it was me. Good luck!~
2006-12-29 06:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My now fiancee once told me that the only reason guys hang around girls is because they want to sleep with them. It's true!! All three of my best guy friends pulled this stuff with me at one time or another. This is'nt going to be the last time. If you like him tell him. If you don't tell him you just want to be friends. Just don't lead him on or you will lose him as a friend.
2006-12-29 05:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by BRI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard before that guys aren't friends with girls they aren't attracted to. Which seems like it's the case between you and this guy. I think you can be just friends but it's up to you to set the boundaries. If he does something that step over that boundary let him know...You're in control of the situation. And know I don't think you look easy in his eyes.
2006-12-29 05:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, I really hope you mean that-
But, going back to your question- No, there is no such thing as guys looking for girls just to be friends. This guy seems to be playing his cards right, the minute you give him more than an inch. BOOOOYA!!
2006-12-29 06:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes yall can just be friends i grew up around guys and never liked or dated none of them and i had alot of guy friends that like to be touchy feely but its not a bad thing as long as he is not touching u in the wrong places! i have slept in the same beds of my guy friends and they never tried to do anything its actually a good thing that u have that b/c it will teach u alot about guys...
2006-12-29 05:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Brit. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow girl i think you got something hot and juicy going between you guys. sorry. lol. he likes you definently. but thats how relationships are mostly. friends, than that chandes to a little bit more than friends. and if you ask me that is not just a casual conversation. and if you feel comfortable around him, ask him out, he sounds like he's the guy for you. and today usually if you are just friends people still suspect you are going out. you should go for it girl!
2006-12-29 05:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Just friends?" Women certainly think they can. But guy friends are only stand-by bf's or one night mistakes waiting to happen. Most guys are willing to admit some kinda attraction to a female friend. Plutonic friendship just aint in the cards, girl.
2006-12-29 05:59:30 · answer #11 · answered by Marc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋