I love my b/f very much..more than i would have ever thought of???

Question

my b/f is very romantic i love being around him, but a i have a couple of questions regarding this myself. He is 32 has 2 kids, been divorced for about 4 yrs, i met his exwife already....and well i am 20. i love him dearly..he tells me all the time how much he loves me and all the love stuff...but then sometimes he acts like he doesnt care about me or what i think or feel and of course i dont like that!!! also he gave me 2 weeks to move in with him and if i dont do it he said he will leave me, i dont want him to do that, i am afraid if i move in with him things might not work b/c of age difference and b/c of what he does like working too much, spending money like crazy,spoiling his kids too much, smoking and drinking, and the thing is once i move out of my house i cant go back to then look like a fool, sometimes i do want to live with him b/c i know that he will treat me well and make me happy, i know that by me living with him i can help him get back on his feet, like he used to be

Answer 1

dont do it he's a grow man and should be able to get back on his feet himself. I wouldent trust anyone thats gonna give you a certain time to move in our your gone. he obviously dont respect you and it will only get worse the loving crap is all an act once you give in to him and move in he will feel he has control of you and all that will be done.

Answer 2

Maybe if you ask him to explain the reason why he's pushing you that much to move in it'll get clear. And he couldn't be threatening you like this - if he really cares about you, he wouldn't let you go that easy. Talking ''all the love stuff'' is not hard at all, the different thing is to prove it. Don't put yourself in the second place.
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Answer 3

Dont move in with him. Actually breakup with him. He threatened to leave you if you dont move in with you. He doesnt really love you, and he might actually be using you. He thinks its cool to be with a young person like yourself. Enjoy life while you can. Start your own family with someone that lets you make your own decisions. Dont jump into an already disfunctional family. Enjoy life and live it. Trust me, it goes too fast, and if you move in with him youre losing about 15 years.

Answer 4

anyone that would give you an ultimatum to move in or get dumped doesn't really love you. Also what you said about him sometimes not acting like he cares about you and what you think or feel. Doesn't that send up warning flags?

Answer 5

well if you move in and it dont work out you should save money so you can move into a place of your own. but it is not right for him to give you that ultimatum. tell him how you feel and if you decide not to move in yet, see if he can wait until you feel the time is right to move in.

Answer 6

i am 1 year younger than u,
n i think u should leave him,
u still have plenty of chances,
this guy doesn't rililove you that mch,
he's FORCING you to move in....
how long have u been started with him?
the sweet talks might not last long...

Answer 7

there is nothing wrong with trying to spoil his kids as for him working good for him do not move in with him until you can accept who he is completely don't go and try to change him and never forget the kids come first

Answer 8

i don't think you are ready to move in with this guy. he is much older than you and shouldn't rely on you to help fix his problems. you should focus on your education/job/life before getting into such a serious relationship filled with so much baggage.

Answer 9

don't do anything you will regret later. tell him how you really feel & if he really love you he will understand. age don't have much to do with this. do what you think is best

Answer 10

i think that if you really love him you should give him some time. hope i helped!
xoxo
♥ Lola ♥