Supposedly things in a relationship will go great for the first three months and then you start to show your true colors to the other person. Does anyone believe this is true? or is it possible that people are actually "themselves" from the begining?
2006-12-29 05:48:37 · 15 answers · asked by jasmine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Few people are 100% themselves from the beginning...it's just human nature to want to put your best foot forward when getting to know someone new...we want to be liked.
I think it takes far less than 3 months for most people to relax and be themselves completely...especially if they have the opportunity to spend plenty of time together...
2006-12-29 05:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the three month rule..but I do know that everyone tries to put on their best face with someone new because they want to be liked by the aforementioned person. In addition, we are also a little nervous and afraid as we begin walking down the relationship pathway..as time goes by though we become more comfortable and we also become more aware of our lovers "flaws". This happens in every relationship and the timeframe is always different, but humans needing to label everything, call this the "three month rule" it's also called "the honeymoon effect" or the "I won't fart in front of you until you let me bang you law"...sorry, thems the breaks kid, but don't worry, keep your chin up and grab an 8-ball so the party can begin!! Booyah!!
2006-12-29 13:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha...I think that for the most part that is sort of accurate, but the guy I am dating now and I didn't put up any of that fake stuff. At first it kind of bothered me because it is like we skipped the honeymoon stage, but now I am glad because I knew what I was getting into before I got attached to someone. Plus, I feel like I can trust him more for that.
So anyway, I think it depends on the person, but a lot of people do kind of try to be on their best behavior for awhile...I would even say you could possibly call this the six month rule...
2006-12-29 13:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true about some people the 3 month thing. But I make sure he sees the real me the first night. He learns new things over the 3 months.
2006-12-29 13:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... I think this is more of a 1-2 YEAR rule... I think people always put their best face forward for a while, then when they get comfortable their true colors show up.
2006-12-29 13:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I actually think that it's about 3-6 months. and then you get another round at about 9-12 months. LOTS of break ups happen at these times.
2006-12-29 13:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the 3 month rule. We are trying to impress within the 3 months, then we become ourselves so to speak. we have always been ourselves just a little more polite so to speak. As time goes on we are more ourselves. Frankly, I am always myself. What you see is what you get sort of thing.
2006-12-29 13:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person. I would think more on the order of a three years living together rule.
2006-12-29 13:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by boredperv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people can actually be themselves from the beginning. Otherwise, why bother??
I also think it takes time to REALLY get to know a person.
2006-12-29 13:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aren't people married for like 40+ years. Before one of them finds out the other one is a serial killer. Like that Green river killer in Illinois. He killed like 50 women.
2006-12-29 14:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by sandwreckoner 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋