i was beginning to make out with this guy he is my ex boyfriend's friend, my ex past away 3 months ago, at first we liked each other and were just playing around. then he found out i had lied to him that i was pregnant with my ex but it turned out to be false. so he hates liers and he is mad at me. he cant even look at me but he says he is still attractd to me. i live with him he took me in when my boyfrend died. and now he wants me to live. WHAT DO I DO? HELP
2006-12-29 05:44:59 · 37 answers · asked by pamela m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all you can't make anyone love you. Secondly, No woman with character would ever tell anyone she's pregnant without proof. I believe you lied to get where and what you wanted and it blew up in your face. You can't blame him so move out, move on, and learn from your mistakes.
2006-12-29 06:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by katriana30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find other support systems. Try family or friends. If this guy hates liers he is either: A. been hurt before and has no tolerance, B. is just using it as an excuse to get rid of you. Trust me girl, I spent years mourning the loss of a man I truly loved, that I lied to, but he had no tolerance for that. I tried for years to get him back but I wasted alot of years for nothin! Don't be a dummy, move on at all costs. You are probably still mourning your boyfriend anyway. Find something else to focus on and stick to it, like work or a project. Commit yourself to it for a month. Don't even think of men or anything else, then after a month it won't be so bad. Just try. It will get better keep your headup!!!
2006-12-29 05:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by mommydemitri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you lie to him about being pregnant? So he would feel sorry for you? Is that the reason he let you stay with him? I'm asking these questions because if so, I would be mad too. You don't lie about things like that. You should just go up to him and tell him that you love him and are sorry for what you did and ask him if there's any way in this world that he would take you back and that you will prove his trust.
2006-12-29 05:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by K-E-G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds really messy. Lying destroys trust (which is harder to rebuild once torn) and trying to make a person love you after you've lied to them is useless. I think you should find a new place to live, work on why you lied in the first place, and do some soul searching. I wish you luck!
2006-12-29 05:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Nuseed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly help. been there when i was 18. my advise is to get help with the grief of your loss. get proffesionall help even if you dont think you need it. I didnt think i needed it but as an adult i realized that the grieving process takes place whether it takes months or years. the sooner you deal with all the gamits of emotions that take place with death the better off youll be.
As for yur originall question once you get yourself together youll be able to make rational decisions, not decisions based on emotions. this boyfriend that took you in, i would say has his own gammit of emotions to deal with. I would say it was not love for you why he took yu in. love is love there is no ryme or reason for it, no one can make someone else love them,so dont even try. Do not waste the only life you have on someone that does not truley love you YOU DESERVE BETTER.
So you go girl and make a life for yourself get your self stable,and back on track and you will have all kinds of guys after you, for you. when your least expecting it that love bug will hit you and your guy and you will know that it is true for the both of you.DO NOT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING ELSE, ESPECIALLY FOR SOMEONE THAT DOESNT LOVE YOU
2006-12-29 06:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by jhdjkhblpk;mvhyf nbjhghbmnbjgb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's impossible to make someone fall in love with you, and if he is still attracted to you it seems as though you still have somewhat of a window. Since you lied to him, you should try to win his trust back first before you even attempt to win his heart. Winning his trust will surely put you on the right track. I hope this helps.
2006-12-29 05:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone fall in love with you. You can do your best to get him to forgive you, though. Sit him down and tell him the truth about everything, including why you didn't tell him the truth before about the pregnancy. Maybe you didn't want to tell anyone at the time, you were scared and it wasn't personal that you lied to him. (something like that). Once you get him to forgive you, things should fall into place, if they are meant to.
2006-12-29 05:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by laura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMM you sound not all there.. maybe stop worrying about others loving you and learn to love yourself.. no guy would ever be dumb enough to be with a girl that lies about being pregnant.. so do some soul searching grow up alittle and then love will come to you...
2006-12-29 05:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mystic Bell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the saying ''a fine line between love and hate'' go about your daily routine and don't talk to him unless he talks to you.
Maybe it wasn't the lie that hurt him, maybe it was the thought of you really having your ex's baby...that upset more.
Best of luck and Happy New!!!
2006-12-29 05:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Mr. Jingle Pants. You do sound unstable. Seek some counseling. The man is right to ask you to leave.
2006-12-29 05:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋