I got this guy i recently started dating. he has everything i like in a guy, yet he is 8 years older than me. we have a lot in common but i just keep worrying about his age. i feel like a hyppocrite cuz i always warn my friends and cousins not to get involved with older men and now im in this situation. im not attracted to him but i like who he is inside. i don't know what i should do. the guys that i meet that are around my age are losers. older men always hit on me all the time. should i just leave him alone or give him a chance?
2006-12-29 05:36:55 · 37 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 18 years old but will turn 19 soon. he also keeps talking about our future and things that we will do. i don't know if that's a good or bad thing esp. since we are not officially together. he tells me that he's not going to let me go and that im different from other girls. what do you think?
2006-12-29 05:52:58 · update #1
It depends on the specific ages and each person's maturity level. Someone who is 30 and 38, no problem, their maturity is probably similar,.... but someone 21 and 29! big difference in maturity level, life goals, outlook on life, etc. I'm married to a man who is 5 years older than me and we are great together. If you feel nervous, though...that's not good. But don't feel nervous about what other people think of your relationship! You don't have to worry about other people, worry about YOU!
2006-12-29 05:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by CH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question tells me you already have an answer. You dont want to date a man that much older than you and here is why. You wont enjoy the same things as time goes by. At first it will seem like a great relationship and it probably would be, at first. You have to look hard at the future. Your interests will change and you will grow apart. All men, like me, fantasize about younger women, but real men, like me...dont act on those feelings. You need date only 2 or 3 years either side of your age. I hope the best for you and your older friend.
2006-12-29 05:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by BudLt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bestfriend was in the same situation about 6 months ago. Like you, guys her age were just not working out. She met this older guy at work who she got to know and started to like. The attraction wasn't there at first because she was too worried about the age difference but she took a chance and she's the happiest I've seen her in a long time. You may get a lot of different responses but it all comes down to you. Try not to worry so much on what others might think of the situation.
2006-12-29 05:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by Krystyna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes 8 years older than you thats kind of dangerous. But if your not attracted to then you should not date him you guys should be friends. Age doesnt matter to me there is no age in love . But I think you guys are better off being friends not lovers. Maybe your looking too hard for a man. You will see when the perfect one comes. Good Luck!!! Not that you will be nedding it!!!
2006-12-29 05:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Spidy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are both over 18 its fine...and honestly age doesnt matter in love. I like a guy 2 years younger and not gonna let it stop me. 8 years isnt much at all. Go for it
2006-12-29 05:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age thing isn't too important but if you are not attracted to him then why bother? What is on the inside IS important but you have to have the inner and outer connection for it to be a truly successful relationship.
2006-12-29 05:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by superhomer1221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's not married nor attached, give him a chance. it's not the age that makes the relationship works. its the trust and respect and hw much you love each other. even if the guy is younger than you are, as long as he's not a minor and its not for money, you shoould give guys a chance. age does not matter.
2006-12-29 05:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by piggieme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it totally depends on how old you are. If you're 15 and he's 23 i would say no, if you're 25 and he's 33, I would say sure. If you're old enough to handle an older guy, and you like him, then go for it. Who cares?
2006-12-29 05:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by laura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's everything you like in a guy, why not give him a chance? He may not turn you on, but its more than that. Its the person inside, like you said. I say, give it a shot. Then you'll never be sorry.
2006-12-29 05:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't indicate your age so it is hard to say. If youa t least 20 then it is ok. Otherwise the age difference is too great. That said, if you are not attracted to him, I wouldn't go out with him.
2006-12-29 05:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋