For the married people out there.....
When you got married, was your fiance as excited as you were to get married and help you plan the wedding? If you are the guy, were you excited and did you help plan it?
2006-12-29 05:28:30 · 16 answers · asked by sundragonjess 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My fiance asks me what I want and then agrees that it is fine with him. He doesn't seem too excited about it and that kind of makes me question whether or not he really wants to get married.
2006-12-29 05:41:23 · update #1
It sounds more like you should be wondering if he actually wants a WEDDING, not if he wants to get married. They're NOT actually the same thing - the wedding is a ceremony and a party, the marriage is the rest of you life. Some guys just couldn't care less about the wedding details, but they know that their brides do and so they go along for the ride. He may be just as happy to tie the knot in Vegas or a courthouse, but that would deprive you of a wedding, and he loves you and wants you to be happy.
My fiance is involved with a lot of the details, but he's also the kind of guy who has particular ideas about what colour paint, dishes, etc. he'd like in our house. He did suggest eloping, but since I wanted the whole white-dress-wedding thing, he's embraced that.
2006-12-29 06:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not yet married, but am planning a wedding for September. Both my fiance and I are very excited to get married. We are both putting in an equal share of the work towards planning, though I have to say that I stress more and he calms me down. Some men, like my guy, are quite involved and have lots of ideas. Others, like my brother, don't know the first thing about planning a romantic wedding and all the feminine stuff involved, though they are still excited about that special day. Just being supportive and giving opinions when asked can be a huge help in that circumstance.
2006-12-29 13:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by cperreault78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not married yet but am getting so next May 20. I do try and help a bit with some of the plans but majority of the time I am only allowed to give my opinion and my fiance and her daughters are off and running to try and get things organized. I was involved in selection of place where wedding is to take place and selecting best men and bridesmaids etc. As well I have helped download some music we want played at the dance. But have to admit I have told my fiance that I would like to be more involved and she has taken this into consideration on more than one occasion and asked my opinion and input. So yes we are both very excited about this wedding and it is not the first for either of us. But being our ages we realize that this marriage is the one that was meant to be. Do I resent not being more involved? Not most of the time, but have had to bring my fiance back down to earth and inform her that when she says "my wedding" it is actually both of ours. Ha! I have to tell you also that I am physically challenged but neither of us take this into account when planning anything, let alone our wedding (other than accessibility) and so do not want to play the crippled card so I can get out of doing things. I am very much in love with my fiance and want to be as much help as I can, but also realize that she and her daughters are doing a great job and as long as I show up I have done my part.
2006-12-29 13:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't read too much into it. Most men either give a few suggestions or none at all. It doesn't mean he doesn't want to marry you. He's just not a wedding planning type of guy.
2006-12-29 21:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The vast majority of guys don't give a rat's as5 about the wedding plans. If the bride is happy, they are happy. It isn't that they don't want to get married, it's that whenever they get asked for their opinion and give it - the bride usually goes ballistic or dismisses the guy's comment. If the groom isn't going to be taken seriously why should he even venture an opinion or even care. Just be glad he shows up and says "I do".
2006-12-29 15:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my fiance left wedding plans up to me for the most part. I consulted him on everything and he gave his honest opinion, but believe me, I didnt not want him as involved in the planning of the wedding as what I was. if he had it his way we would have gotten married in our apartment with nobody there but us and the person marrying us. he thinks the smaller the better as the only person he needed there was me.
2006-12-29 13:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In retrospect, my husband was the main planner of our wedding. He chose the theme and helped pick out everything. We did, however, have a very unusual, fun themed wedding that was not the "run of the mill" kind, which was one of the reasons he was into it. Had our wedding been the "normal formal" kind, he would have sat back and let me do everything. I highly recommend choosing a themed wedding that your hubby will be into and then he'll be excited to plan it too. :)
2006-12-29 15:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Peace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, guys don't get excited - not because they don't want to get married - but becuase guys are more task oreinted were girls are more detailed oriented - so his priority is getting it done, your proirity is getting it done right, lol. That is why most guys don't get excited about colors, flowers, decorating, etc.
There are exceptions of course
2006-12-29 16:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance did very little to help me plan. He's very laid back and he only made a few suggestions--colors and music.
If it mattered to him, (ie, the cake) then we discussed it. Otherwise, he was glad to get married, but didn't want to be the one to plan the party. :)
2006-12-29 16:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by DanaElayne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Fiance is soooo layed back that he doesn't care if I give him something to do or not! But I would rather be in charge of everything that way I know it won't get messed up!
2006-12-29 13:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋