I get to know a guy via text ,msn and phone etc. Then when we meet we we have a laugh etc, but then they ease off dnt text me etc its hurting me and leaving me empty. They say they had a great time with me etc but why they leaving me alone if so!?
Help me please what am i doing wrong?
2006-12-29 05:28:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
are you not how you describe yourself ?
2006-12-29 05:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by cereal killer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult to answer as I don't know you.
Think really hard about what is different about you in person and you over the internet.
Perhaps you are more bubbly, witty, confident or more approachable behind a computer screen.- whatever it is you are doing something right otherwise they wouldnt be asking to meet you. Don't dwell on them not contacting you again - a lot of people go on 'one night stands' no matter how they meet
Don't forget that it is easier to meet people via the internet, the men you have met via msn etc might also have been texting, emailing etc lots of other girls at the same time as you, let's be honest here anyone can arrange 7 dates in one week without much effort. It is much harder doing this in the person.
I agree with all the other people who have told you to go out and join clubs etc, that way you aren't sat waiting for the phone to ring. and if Mr Right doesn't come straight away at least you are having fun
Good luck
2006-12-29 06:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by PMF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to meet guys in a social setting rather then getting to know them on phone/msn and then meeting up. Sometimes when you get to know someone that way they are not all they seemed to be and vice versa, they might have seen you in a different way. If you meet someone whilst out with your mates then you will have had that initial attraction thing and then you can get to know each other better by doing the txt/phone bit.
You dont give your age but I would imagine you have plenty of time to find Mr Right, and you may well have to go through a lot of Mr Wrongs to find him.
Goof Luck!
2006-12-29 05:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Julie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, I don't know you so am just going on what you said above- if any of this makes sense, I hope it helps, if not ignore!
When you said that they 'leave you empty' when they go, it suggested that you maybe don't have a lot going on in your life at the mo and are looking for a man to be everything to you and fill these gaps. If guys sense this, it freaks them out a little- a guy may be flattered by a woman who puts him before all else at first, but soon he starts to feel suffocated and wants to do a runner.
If this is the case, leave the quest for a man for a bit. Feel better about yourself and don't look for a man to do it for you. Socialise, do a course, get a hobby, change jobs, join a gym, whatever you have always wanted to do. Make goals and fulfill them and you will soon be feeling brilliant about yourself and never mind the men! And of course, that's when they'll all come along.
Good luck with it all.
2006-12-29 06:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by noisymilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Maybe it would be better to try getting to know people that you meet for the first time face to face, rather than getting to know them on the phone/texting/emailing first?
I appreciate it may seem easier to try to 'get to know them' via these methods, but people are never how you imagine them to be when they've been comminicating like this, it's like listening to a radio presenter every day for five years and having a vision of what they are like in you head, and then actually meeting them and they are completely different.
You should try getting to know people that you have actually met. I don't necessarily mean go out and look for a partner like in a club or something, (not that I think it's bad to meet people this way), but you may find someone special when you accidently meet them, such as at a wedding, friend's party, when you are out doing one of your hobbies, through work etc. Then you will get to know them face to face straight away, and you won't end up with contact that suddenly fizzles out after you meet, after a long time of texting/emailing etc.
People can always sense when you are looking. If you stop looking, you give out good vibes and people will notice you!!!!!
Good luck.
xx
2007-01-03 10:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by myfairladyisasleep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this method of dating isn't working out for you, then you should try other ways of communicating other than msn and texts.
Guys will tell you they had a good time simply because they don't want to hurt your feelings, i'm sure you would say the same if you went on a date and they asked you if they enjoyed it or not. Its like asking if the sex was good, you're not gunna say its bad.
Try going out and have a drink, bump into someone, and hey presto you've got yourself a date!
Rushing into date after date won't nessessarily get you anywhere, try other ways, try different techniques and find one that suits you.
2006-12-29 05:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be you shouldnt spend so much time txting and on msm before you actually meet someone, as it can be deceiving, you tend to be more confident when hiding behind a "screen", therefore the picture you get in your head about the other person is then usually way off course and not what was expected. Try meeting someone face on then they will see you for who you really are and not some imaginary person that when you meet in the flesh, isnt the person you thought they were.
2006-12-29 05:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not enough Channel no 5// your not doing anything wrong lovey you just haven't met a stable guy yet but you will so dont get so worked up about it and try meeting someone by introduction and leave tx/msn/tel alone.(inspect the goods before you buy) you'll be OK your quest grammar tells me that!!!
2007-01-04 04:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience most blokes who use msn/texts to get to know women are only looking for flings. Usually they are texting numerous women, or at least a steady stream of them. Ive been in the same situation myself. Dont feel like theres anything wrong with you, its just these kind of men generally arent looking for anything in the relationship department.
2007-01-02 11:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by rattyfraggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When meeting someone over the internet or phone, you visualise what that person will look like. When you meet them they might not live up to those expectations. No matter how wrong it is people go for physical attraction. It's human nature.
I would go out with friends and try and meet someone face to face, it's much easier. As long as you think you are beautiful and show confidence in yourself, the potential man will see it too.
Good luck :-)
2006-12-29 05:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Linsay M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that the persona we give off through electronic mediums is often misleading and can give other people the wrong impression of who you are. So when you meet them they are confused by the conflicting messages that have been given to them, try and meet people in person in a natural setting so that they can get a true sense of you.
2006-12-29 06:15:37 · answer #11 · answered by jumpin_jelly_cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋