I don't know what to think right now.. I am a father of 2 young boys. I met someone by email so far.. she is russian, honestly at that level, my *dream* ethnicity, I just love russian looks and style.
But she lives in the Chicago area and I live in New York area. We got past some initial chemistry hurdles with pictures exchanged etc.
She also mentioned she is not moving, and well with 2 little ones, I am not either.
What are the options from here?
Not every day you meet a cute russian lady.
Thanks
2006-12-29 05:23:39 · 23 answers · asked by DanjoHart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If neither of you are willing to relocate if things progressed, then you're at a stalemate. Move on...things can't go anywhere with the 2 of you living in different states.
2006-12-29 05:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately try to meet her if you think she is worth it. You never know if it will work. You won't know unless you try. What do you have to lose. Now on the other hand you say you have two young boys. It will depend on getting someone to watch them. Before you deside to do the long distance thing I would at least take a trip and meet the girl. Chicago to New York is not that expensive I don't think. Then make your decision on if you want to continue it or not. Good luck to you and I hope things work out
2006-12-29 13:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a bit of a similar situation but I am moving even though in a small part of my heart I fear she will not end up as my wife which is what I want more than anything.
You are in a very hard situation you have a family to consider and raise and she does not want to move so you have to question her motives at being with you.
Having a long distant relationship is never ever easy even in the best of times and the air fare from okc to phx is killing us so ......it would seem that you do indeed have a quandary on your hands.
The best advise I can give is to do the long distance things until one of you gives in and moves or you end up dissolving it because of the distance...... if she ends up meaning as much to you as mine now does to me and has for the7 years of her marriage,(we met before she was married) then you will have a move to make and a ton of stuff to consider.
I sincerely hope that it works for you as everyone on the planet needs as much true love as they can get ..... good luck in the new year and hug your kids so they know how much you love them and will not feel tormented about your relationship ....... talk with them about it a lot .... they always have the best, most innocent advice..... you will listen to them and take it to heart if you are smart .......again good luck
2006-12-29 13:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by doc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well long distance relatioship Do work sometimes, but, that is when one of them move eventually and they can be boyfriends the right way, like in my case, I'm on the ÃLong Distance Relatioship, and I'm moving to Chicago next year... I'm from South America.. But Someone has got to give. You have to move or she has to move, because you wont get anywhere if you don't see each other often...
Good Luck
2006-12-29 13:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
N.Y. to Chicago really isn't THAT far. It can work and in time one of you will more than likely make the move if you are meant to be. My husband and I had a L.D.R. spanning two countries! After about a year, he couldn't take it anymore, he left Australia and all that was dear to him to come to the States to be with me. I had told him I would move to him, once I had finished college, but he couldn't wait. lol 3 years later I graduated Notre Dame with 2 degrees and we have been happily married now for close to 11 years! Cheers!
2006-12-29 13:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it slow and easy. You just met her. Every one needs a friend.Dont jump off the deep end just yet. I would rather be sorry for something i did than I didnt do. I have a long distance relationship. We meet in the middle. It is hard sometimes. A woman needs more to hold than a telephone sometimes. Search your heart,
2006-12-29 13:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a long distance relationship myself right now... We will both be traveling to florida to take a nice vacation together...
now, if there is no plan on one of you moving to be near the other one, i don't believe the relationship will work out...
both of you have said that you wont move, so i don't see any real future for the two of you together...
now, i could be wrong, and this stuff is based on my own long distance relationship, and thinking things threw about us...
if i weren't planning on moving out to live with her, i wouldn't be able to stay in a relationship with her... it hurts me to much now being away from her...
2006-12-29 13:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, New York to Chicago is pretty cheap. Visit a few times and after spending time together, maybe someone will want to move. If, after that time it's a no go, then say goodbye.
2006-12-29 13:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like neither one of you are willing to ever move, so I think that solves the problem. Might not like the answer, but sounds like the way it is. What should probably be higher on the priority list is the kids, and what their needs are.
2006-12-29 13:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Meiju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not mentioned about your wife. In any case it depends on both of you. If u guys think you can continue in this way, nothing is wrong. Go ahead, may be one day situation changes and you marry, kids too can get love of mom. Best of luck. Cya
2006-12-29 13:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Puzzle solved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋