When i ask this, i don't mean a shy guy with no confidence. I mean someone who is confident in themselves but doesn't necessarily show it off by the things he does. In the past i had this girl i became friends with and over time i wanted to become more than friends. She also was very friendly to me and would sometimes give me signs that she thought more of me than just friendship. However this other guy who wasnt really in your face cocky but confident and talkative managed to get her as his girlfriend and i was devastated. I have since lost contact with this girl which i am sad about. I think this is due to her spending so much time with her boyfriend. I feel being a shy, gentleman type got me nowhere as she is with this other guy and i can't help think is it due to not being attractive due to my shyness? I can't help the way i am. I am as i said confident however and when i am comfy around people, open up alot but i just wanted to ask a girls opinion really. Many thanks, Dave, UK
2006-12-29 05:21:15 · 33 answers · asked by daveslater2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont like guys who are in your face. Shy guys are cute as I am a pretty shy girl BUT in order for the shy guy to get the girl, he does need to be a bit forward with the girl. You need to let th girl know you exist and that you are interested in being more than just the friend. Sadly, most girls tend to go with the guys who are in your faces mainly because the shy guy never makes his move.
2006-12-29 05:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by C.M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends who the person is, obviously everyone has the type of person that they prefer. I think though if a person acts areally baulchy and in your face, it can be a little overbearing to alot of people, and some girls might think that the guy is just showing off to try and impress them. I guess guys who act cocky take more chances because they have the arrogance to believe that it will pay off. And i guess at the end of the day you want a girl who is interested in who you really are, even if that is a more quiet person, because when it comes down to it, if a guy isn't really cocky and arrogant, and it's just a show to get the girl, he'll eventually be found out and it'd end anyway. I think it's best to be yourself and the girl will see that, and if she's attracted to you're all the better for it, if not, she probably wasn't the right girl for you anyway.
hope that helps!
2006-12-29 06:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by fozz89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that shy guys are usually more genuine
If hes in your face, you're not gunna be the only one after him, that guy will get attention and will most likely to break up with you for a hotter chick or whatever.
Hey if i were single i'd go for you ;)
It all depends who you go for, and for some people thats confident, popular, in your face people.While for others its sensitive, shy, gentlemen type guys.
Don't start think you'll never get a girl simply because of your personality traits. If a girl doesn't like you for the way you are then its not worth changing for them, you shouldn't have to change for anybody.
To somebody out there, you will be the man of their dreams, just you wait.
2006-12-29 05:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..I'm a girl and I was somehow in your position some time ago..I really liked him but he is shy too( at least that's what he shows to me ) I still love him but because of his manners we've somehow lost contact and we are not the friends we used to..I wish he could say that he liked me then..I miss him very much but now that I've told him how I felt it's like he doesn't want to know me..
Anyway,we're not gonna talk about him now..I was just trying to say that you should say what you feel the moment you feel it..If you don't talk you'll never know how she feels and nothing will happen..I think you shouldn't be so shy even though I like a bit of shyness!! :p Do not hesitate to express your feelings!
Good luck with the rest of your life!
2006-12-29 05:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by Elli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like guys that are sweet & charming. I hate guys that think they are perfect in everything also they act like no one can do any better then they can.Girls also like guys that are smart, nice, and know what thier stranths and weakness are. If you ever get the chance ask her for her phone # so that some time you can get in contact with her.Just hope that some time she'll will get to talk to you again. I like guys that are not to popular and is smart so I guess I am the shy type of guys but not shy that no one talks to them or they dont talk with other people.
2006-12-29 05:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by neopet9700 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all about personality.
im a little bolder, so i tend to look for a shy guy. and i mean a shy, CONFIDENT guy, like you were explaining. confidence is key.
i think that people who have different traits from eachother have great relationships. my b/f and i are different but have loads in common.
dont think that you missed out on this relationship b/c you weren't loud enough, if she was really interested in you as more than a friend she wouldn't have went with the other guy. it just wasn't meant to be.
better luck next time!! (try looking for a bold girl) ;)
2006-12-29 05:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be honest. When I was a teenage girl I liked the in your face bad girls. they stand out more and are the first ones you notice. They ooze confidence. That draws people in. Now that I am older though I realize those guys are never going to settle down and be the guy you want them to be. It' s hard to be a teenager. When the girls wise up you 'll have the completely popposite problem.Just give them a few years!
2006-12-29 05:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by BRI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you sound fine just as you are! Maybe, because you're a bit quieter this girl didn't realise you liked her and the other guy was more obvious about it. Guys that are too in your face usually only attract girls lacking in confidence, who mistake their arrogance for confidence. Generally, quiet confidence wins over arrogance every time!
Good luck with it all
2006-12-29 05:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by noisymilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dave, firstly im a girl. Being shy is fine and attractive. the only thing is that shy people are often not upfront about their feelings......................and the longer that goes on the more chance you they will loose out to someone who is upfront about how they feel. so next time take the plunge. It dosent mean you have to change, as many girls like a person who is not 'in your face' just believe in your self
2006-12-29 05:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by SilverstreaK_1066 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women love a gentleman - but you have to be assertive with about your feelings. If you are over 18 and you need to talk about this give me a shout. ( See my 360 first to make sure that you are into the same kind of thing I am into.) Otherwise hope it all works out well for you.
2006-12-29 06:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋