after 2 years together???....How can someone be so cold??...I'm dying here because i can't be with him and he's out there having fun with his friends, drinking, smoking and all that, and I'm here so depressed and heart broken...why???!!!...I mean I wanna be the one having fun and all that but i can't is too hard...I hate feeling like this...Will i fall in love again and get this horrible person out of my mind???...He doesn't deserve any tears...Please someone with the right words to say help me...
2006-12-29 05:12:15 · 22 answers · asked by bouche 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-29 05:38:33 · update #1
What he does and does not do is no longer your business. You broke-up, remember? Everyone reacts differently to a broken heart. Stop focusing on him and start focusing on yourself.
2006-12-29 05:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being in a relationship is hard, people get hurt and things happen that you never wanted to. Breaking up is the end and usually the worst part in even the best cases. You are not the only one who has gone threw this exact same thing. If bad things didn't ever happen to you then how could you truly appreciate the great moments?
Being in a relationship is great, there are great moments of happiness, laughing, loving and sharing your life with someone who you truly care for. I belive the saying goes " I would rather loved and lost, than never loved at all." You sound very loveable and you WILL find a person to love you like you should be loved. There is nothing wrong with crying and for gods sake feel free. Imagine he just died and you have to go on without him, at first you will be sad, but life will go on and everything will be ok, I promise.
2006-12-29 05:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its horrible, but there was something between you to make a relationship together for 2 years. Did he change or did you? WHat do you look for in a relationship and is the change in him so sudden?
This might be something to sit down and talk about, if he cannot do that, then talk to your family and friends, see if they can suggest what has changed.
It is quite possible for feelings to move on, as pother ppl have suggested here, perhaps he was lieing to you and more likely to himself. Some men like the chase and prefer this to the domestic heaven which is ahead for the next 60 years. You need to talk it through, even think about a counsellor for yourself.
It might help to put some distance between you and your problem, take time out and do some hard thinking.
2006-12-29 05:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by kenjinuk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough, I know how you feel.. Sometimes I think I could actually feel my heart breaking and wonder if someone could die from a broken heart. The best cure is time or finding someone else to help you mend your wounds, although it may not be fair to the other person. Time will heal everything and the worst thing you could do now is think about him or the times you had together.. it only brings more tears. Keep busy and focus on yourself. I like to put all my anixiety towards working out...
2006-12-29 05:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are jerks with no moral or human compassion. The best way to get back, is to get out there and have fun yourself. He left you because he wanted to have no strings fun, no one to account to, a sign of immaturity. So its hard and your heart may not be in it, but go out and do something you think is fun and pretty soon you will enjoy it and maybe meet a nice guy who isnt a jerkwad. You dont deserve to be treated so horrible, so forget about him and find someone who will treat you right.
2006-12-29 05:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dreamweaver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A phrase comes to mind: "Living well is the best revenge." In this case, perhaps, being sure you don't get connected with another turd might be the best revenge. Go ahead and grieve, cry if you feel you can, hold on to the bad feelings because you'll release them faster that way and rest assured he's hurting somewhere inside--or, he doesn't have the capacity to hurt, which is even worse, because he can't really be close to anyone.
BTW, he can move on in a month because he's skilled at lying through his teeth.
2006-12-29 08:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put this guy behind you obviously he doesn't care about you then why should you care about him, he knows what he had w/ you and will one day regret it sooner or later. Don't waste your time on him u already have (2yrs!) Don't give up on yourself, take this time to cry and let go, have some alone time but not too much, then hang out w/ your friends try new things take some classes or volunteer work anything to get your mind off him. Don't hook up w/ someone until he is out of your heart. Don't talk to him, if it's over it's OVER. He will only throw it i your face that he is having fun and you're not. Show him you are a strong female and don't need his pity. You will get over this just take it slow, I know your mind is racing but just take it step by step.
2006-12-29 05:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by RoseFairy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get back at him is to move on. Even if you do still care, act like you dont and eventually you wont care and more than likely he'll be back and you can break his heart by rejecting him. More than likely he lied to you and the relationship was ending awhile ago and he didnt have the guts to end it. You probaly were so in love with him you didnt see him pull away that it was shocking. And yes you will fall in love again and maybe realize this wasnnt even love. Go out with your friends and forget about this jerk. You'll be fine.
2006-12-29 05:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say since you have been together for that long, he did mean it at one time. That's why you should date someone for a while before marriage because people change. Maybe he just changed or maybe all of this partying behavoir is just his way of moving on and keeping his mind off of you. You should go out and party and clear your mind, I don't advise drinking too much though because some people's emotions can be magnified by drinking.
2006-12-29 05:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww hunny dont worry! A scum bag like that dosent diserve you anyway. Dont worry you are gunna find a guy who is gunna treat you right. he will respect you and love you for who you are. This othere guy wasent the right guy for you. You need somone who will stick by yourside and love you forever. Dont wory some day that will come. But until then keep smiling and hoping for the best. Because no matter how he is or wut he has said or made you feel you are stonger than all of that and you can get over it if you keep a open heart!
2006-12-29 05:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by peace love & lipgloss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two years is a long time, you will probably have a hard time getting over him, as for him maybe he is trying to forget his pain by drinking and smoking.... or he is a big jerk that doesnt care about anyone else other than him... anyways go out find new friends or go out with your old ones... dont drown in your misery while he goes out and has already forgotten.... dont do that to yourself this means in the end he is winning.... he is having fun and you are in depression.... you will find someone better!!!
2006-12-29 05:23:11 · answer #11 · answered by SB33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋