How to escape from a head lock without blows or dirty tricks?

Question

I was at party when this girl put her arm around the back of my neck like she was going to kiss me but then she turned 180 degrees pulling my head down into a head lock under her arm.There was no way that I could pull my head out or pull her interlocked arms away. She led me around the room in the head lock! It was only luck that she got called to the phone and let me go. Please don’t laugh at me. I know I should get to the gym more. There is another party next week. She will be there. Has anyone got any serious advice on:
1) How to stop her getting me in to this hold?
2) If she does get me in to this hold again, is there any way to escape from it?
Answers to similar questions all seem to involve punching, kicking, or dirty tricks. I don't want to do any of these things, and worry about what she might do to me if I tried them. Is there any way to escape that just involves grappling? I want to show her that she can't push me around without there being any major punch up.

Answer 1

When you feel the head lock coming on, you can just drop straight down before her grasp tightens.

I guess the most "polite" way of getting out is to grab one of her fingers on the hand that is around your neck and bend it backwards slowly.

Looks like you have an admirer!

Answer 2

Please let me suggest some things to you.
1) Please go study a martial art ( a real one). If you are being picked on publicly by another person then it is time you learned to defend yourself. It sounds like you need a boost of self confidence.
2) Try stopping a person before they grab you whenever possible. Use words and body language first, only become physical if no other options are presented to you.
3) If a person grabs you the last thing they expect is for you to "go into them", they expect you to resist and have already calculated they are stronger thus leading to this grab. Go with the force of the pull and grab. When your body contacts them it should throw them off balance for a hair of a second. Escape at that time.
4) to escape a rear headlock grasps the fingers on the grasping hand, torque their wrist so the opening in the hold becomes apparent, while doing the finger/wrist manipulation turn your head into the their body and spin free. This is the most non-violent way I would break free. (Draw a stick figure representation of what happened. Look at the human bodies works. Things like the joint movement radius and such. You will see the weakness in this rear headlock grasp)
This complicated of a responce to a grab takes training, you don't just read about it and then have the ability to do it. Practice is what matters.
I suggest you go find good martial arts school and begin to train. It will change your life forever.

Answer 3

Turn the tables if she tries again. Put your arms around her arms(you have to do this very quickly) and bear hug her with all your might. Or duck down. Or put her in a head lock. Just avoid her-but to humiliate her that wouldn't work.
To get out-step on her foot.(its not dirty.) Twist your body around so your head is facing up. Tickle her.(that's not dirty)-that will be funny. Put your han bewteen her arm and your neck and squeeze. Remember you have all of your limbs available to you and your legs are strongest. I know she's a girl and you might feel weird but when a girl wants to act like a boy and humiliate you on top of it-you have every right to be more intelligent and get her back. Remember to keep your head. Ignore the laughs.

Answer 4

There's always a way to escape from a headlock and this is one way; unfortunately, a strike or blow to weaken or distract the opponent is usually a preferred method to loosen their grip on you (it doesn't even have to be a hard hit, just enough to make them lose focus for a moment, you could even do something as simple as pinch the opponent) and get the limb (arm or leg) or digits (fingers or toes) you need to use these simple techniques to get out of it:

Hit them with a strike to weaken them for a moment or two, then grab a couple of fingers and wrench them in the opposite direction away from their body.

it's pretty painful to the other person, but it won't do any permanent damage (and they'll let you go pretty quickly), and it'll prob'ly make them think twice about grabbing you like that again.

another way is to hit them with a strike to weaken them or loosen their grip, then grab a hand (making sure that the palm is down to put the proper torque on the wrist and arm) and twist away from their body.

while doing this, keep the torque on the wrist and arm and step from underneath their arm and bring it behind their back (keeping the palm facing towards you and up of course). you can pretty much do what ever you want at that point, just don't loosen your grip on that hand.

if she grabs you, there're a number of techniques you can do to get out of those grabs without seriously hurting the other person and just use a pain compliance technique to make them think about grabbing you again.

we study many of these techniques in my Hapkido class, so I know they work.

Answer 5

Method 1
1. you want to drop to the ground. It's unexpected and your opponent will usually let go because she might not want to get dirty.
2. When she lets go, grab the arm she used to put you in a headlock, and twist her arm behind her back.

Method 2
1. you can try to step in-front of her
2. sweep her feet from under her making her fall forward.

Method 3
1. you step on her toes

Answer 6

This technique might not work in certain situations, but its worth a shot. So when she gets you into a head lock, try and get her to be on either side of you instead of directly behind you. After that put your arm around her waist (if shes to your left, use your left arm, and vice versa). After that step forward and in front of her with your leg (left leg if shes to your left, right if shes to your right) so you'll end up with your hip in front of her. Then grab her other arm (the one thats not around your head) and pull that arm forward, and that should cause her to fall head first. I don't know if you'll want to do that to her though, I think I'd stick with the method previously said that ends with you on top of her.

Answer 7

Two head lock escapes:

If she has you in a head lock from behind or side: Step across her outside leg (leg closest to your head) with your inside leg (leg closest to her outside leg). Squat down and grab her ankle and sit your butt just above her knee. This creates a crank. All you have to do now is lean back. She will fall backward to relieve the pressure on her knee. As or after you fall turn toward her chest and push off. You will be on top in the dominant position. Then you can hang spit over her face or poke on her chest bone until she gives up.

If she has you in a frontal head lock: step to the side (step left if you're a righty and vice versa) so that her legs are parallel to yours. Take your stong leg and step forward and behind her leg or legs. Push off or wrap your arms at her hips, tripping her over your pivoted strong leg. If you wrap your arms around her waist lean forward and twist away from your strong leg tripping her over your pivoted strong leg. The twist version makes you less likely to fall on top of her, unless you'd rather be on top ;)

Answer 8

Ok if she has you from the front like a DDT position you need to go donw on one knee moving in close to her then wrap your inside arm around her leg and with your outside arm grab the waste or belt of her pants. Pull down hard on her belt and at the same time pull her leg into you. She will crumple to the ground and either let go or end up with you on top of her. But as you are doing this you will pull your head as well so as she falls and her grip loosens a bit your head will come out.

If you are behind her basically you will crouch or kneel in close to her and with your inside arm grab around her waste and with your outside hand grab her leg closest to you. Yuo can either roll her back like a small package/cradle. Or pick her up and Su-plex her. Recomend you do that on a couch or bed unless you are beenig attacked than do it on the sidewalk... Even if you just pick her up she might get scared enough to let go.
Also you could take your inside arm and reach it over your head and bend it around in front of her then drop to your knees in close to her and pull/push her backwords with the hand thats in front while pulling down on her arm around your neck with the other.

If she is too heavy to lift well just rol her back. If she is too strong or her grip doesn't loosen then pull your chin into your chest reach up with both hands and grab her wrist or the side of her hands and pull as hard as you can. As you pull twist her wrist or hand. They should pop right open. the faster you react the better. If you still can get out well just pretend you are faking it and put on a good act so people think you are letting her do it. They'll all laugh and no one will know a girl can kick your but.

Answer 9

Move the arm (your arm) between you and your attacker, reach up and behind so the close arm is between your head and her head, with your hand open, palm toward her face. Think of it in almost the same way you would put your arm around someone sitting next to you in a seat at the movies, only putting it on the shoulder next to you, not the shoulder away from you. Place your palm over her mouth, and push straight up into the septum of the nose. Be careful she doesnt bite! HIt hard. This will force the head of your attacker back, which will cause her to release. Continue pushing until your attacker is all the way back and you are all the way up. Your hip should be to the rear of hers which will cause her to fall over your hip (commonly called a hip-throw), which has the advantage of you standing and her not. Do this quickly and with force. If you do it hard enough, she will likely have tears streaming from her eyes and won't be able to fight, but unfortunately, someone willing to do this already likely wont like you getting out, so be prepared to defend yourself whether you like it or not. Do not let the fear of failure prevent you from defending yourself. To stop this in the future, do not let her touch you. Simple. Also, practice this with someone you trust, but be gentle. Even a fairly soft touch to the underside of the nose (right between the nostrils) causes slight pain. See the source, slightly different in that it causes you to fall with your attacker, but the hip locaton is the same. The benefit of using the tecnique I learned is you have you attacker at arms length and falling almost immediately.

Answer 10

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