He's lovely and way more considerate and interesting than the guys my age. Its lovely to be pampered and have everything paid for. He's separated from his wife and has teenaged kids. (I am in my 20s)
Thing is, he is so well travelled and sucessful in life, I worry that he will find me to be a little boring after a while (he tells me he loves my personality and enthusiasm) I've known him for about two years now, but only just started dating.
How do I make sure he doesnt get bored of me? What do guys like this look for in a relationship? How do I improve myself in order to be a good girlfriend to him?
2006-12-29 05:03:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said it yourself, ..."he tells me he loves my personality and enthusiasm..." so there you go. He's happy and so are you by the sound of it, so stop worrying about how to improve yourself, you're fine as you are.
2006-12-29 05:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of time guys have pretty little woman like you on their arms as trophy chicks. If there is that big of an age difference I somehow doubt that things will progress to far in regards to a future together. You and he grew up in different generations and so haven't a lot in common. I would imagine that your tastes in music, culture etc. are very different. If he is so well traveled and worldly wise then you would certainly have different friends and not a lot to share. Certainly he may have told you that he loves your personality and enthusiasm, but you didn't mention that he has pledged his love to you. He may see in you a fresh air of things that he may have missed in his youth. How you could change to make sure he doesn't become bored with you I haven't any idea. Be yourself and if that isn't good enough then neither is the relationship. I am sorry to sound like such a drag on your relationship but I am just trying to be honest and tell you how I view things. Good luck.
2006-12-29 05:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be worrying about anything. If he has chosen to date you and spend his time with you then he obviously likes the way you are now. Don't change as then you wouldn't be the person he first met and chose to be with. Worrying about things like this is what creates problems. Just enjoy your time together and give all the sceptics an evil glare as you waltz through life happily! Its not easy dating an older guy but provided you work at it, as you should do any relationship - you'll get along fine! Besides if he was more interested in women his own age, then his marriage would have worked! He obviously likes the life and spirit you find in younger women! Good luck!
2006-12-29 05:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by AngelWings 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a million. it somewhat is neither sturdy nor undesirable. 2. frequently a woman in that situation is a lot extra desperate than a woman youthful than you. question is, why do you ought as much as now a woman lots older with lots bags? 3. you're actually not married to this lady. See the way it is going, and if the youngsters difficulty is basically too lots, bypass away. basically remember you're additionally screwing with the youngsters' heads (extremely it somewhat is their mom, yet they are going to nevertheless get tousled via the string of adult men of their mom's existence...)
2016-10-19 04:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get rid of him because he is not divorced, he is separated. An excuse to leave you at any moment if his wife wants him back. Not a good deal.
Otherwise, you can find another older man - most are great to the younger woman. To keep any man you have to have common interests, etc. Don't change who you are in order to keep him.
2006-12-29 05:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by downinmn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, when an older guy goes after a younger woman, he wants the ego boost that comes from having a young hot chick on his arm.
He's not going to get "bored" with you - as long as he gets to have sex with you on the regular (the most important thing) and he gets to go out on dates with you (so other old guys will be impressed with him - he's the man cause he can get a hottie like you to want to be with him)
So, just keep going out with him and giving him some on a regular basis, and you'll be fine!
2006-12-29 05:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when he talks - listen, it is most flattering to a man to have someone hang on to their every word, and if you have a better memory than he has, don't correct him when the story changes, it is usually based on truth but all endings can be twisted to bring about the ending required on a particular day.
Not only can men tell extraordinary tales about where they have been and done and seen, mostly they are liars at heart and most of the tales he tells will have him in the starring role... sound familiar ???
2007-01-01 22:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, he obviously likes you the way you are. I'm going out with an older guy my self and he understands me much more than guys my own age do.
He must respect you and the fact that you are younger than him can't possibly bore him otherwise he wouldn't have shown you the interest that he has.
Good luck x
2006-12-29 05:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by lascott1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 39 I had a fling with a 51 year old woman. Never felt so contented in my life. Then she skelped my bum and told me to play with someone my own age but the memories are still warm.
2006-12-29 08:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by David R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already a good girlfriend for him! He obviously likes you just as you are as he's known you for a long while and tells you he loves you. So don't go changing!
Besides, he's probably freaking out going 'Oh my God, am I too old, will she fancy younger guys etc'. And I'm sure you think those insecurities are ridiculous. I bet he would think yours are too!
2006-12-29 06:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by noisymilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋