I was dating this guy from school. Everything was going great. The next thing I know he's making up excuses about why he cant go out. Then he moved with out telling me. I found out that he moved back in with his ex wife(looked the new address up and it was the same address he use to live at with his ex, not only that I went over there to double check). I told him I was pregnant and he dumped me. He said he's not ready for a baby. I asked if he was seeing his ex wife or if he was with another women and he said no, he just had no time for me. He told me he loved me. what do I do? Should I put all his clothes and cd's in a box and put his and his ex's name on it, drop it off on his apartment door step for his wife to find when he's not there?
2006-12-29 04:59:21 · 26 answers · asked by Brittney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that sounds good. tell him you will donate it if he does not pick it up. dont put too much effort into it. let him come to you. don't bring it to him.
2006-12-29 05:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Shanan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you trust him without a doubt? If not, then you should just stop the relationship now. I found that when I didn't trust a man 100%, there was usually a reason. Do you want to have a relationship in which you constantly wonder? If he won't answer questions directly, then why do you think he ever will?
And, he's with his ex-wife? Does she know? If not, then he's a deceiver. Do you want that? You can NOT change a person's character, nor can you make one want to change.
Bottom line, you have serious doubts about him. Go ahead and go through the grief now before it gets worse!
Also, don't do anything out of revenge. Just do what is best for you in the long run. Imagine yourself old with him, sitting on the porch. I did that and realized there was no way I wanted to sit with my ex after all he put me through.
The pain will be there, but I promise it does get better with time.
2006-12-29 13:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by rebeccasingles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This matter is very serious for 1 he is a loser for 2 if you are pregnant you do know you can raise a child by your self .You can find someone that will love you.You seem as if your a sweet person and he has no right.When you pack up his things not only pack his items also pack your heart into the box and old memories because you don't need to hurt anymore,now its time for healing .That baby is counting on you to bring him in the world .You can do better,and please when he comes back and try to get with you don't let him in.I AM pretty sure that he is going to do his wife the same way .MAN IS HE A LOSER!!!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-29 13:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by AMBRASIA C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That he wasn't even a real man to tell you he wanted to move out, already shows what type of person he is, and that he would dump you when he found out that you are pregnant with his child, already shows that he's really not worth any woman's time, you're more likely better off sending your condolences to his ex-wife instead of his things, those things have a better home in the trash can.
It is really bad how he treated you and this whole situation. I don't think he's worth your time, there are better men out there.
2006-12-29 13:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't stoop to their level. So what - he left. You should be glad that he left sooner, rather than later ruining your kids' life. I would pack his stuff up and mail it to him or drop it off, your choice. Say no hard feelings and when your baby is born, go to the Attorney General of your City and file for child support. End of story. I'm sorry for you because I'm sure you thought he was the one for you. Obviously not! Now, one other piece of advice, DO NOT LET HIM COME BACK if he leaves his ex wife again. He's a loser. Learn from this difficult lesson.
2006-12-29 13:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by downinmn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know it is over, move on. Pack his stuff in a box and tell him you are going to leave it outside your door at a specific time for him to pick up or someone may just take it.
Causing drama like that will only add uneeded stress in your life and certainly you don't need that.
Do remind the papa to be that he does have responsibilities, whether he is ready or not.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-29 13:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by David 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU PREGNANT! this will greatly effect what you are going to do.
If you are not, by all means send him his stuff back and change the locks on your own door as he is going to be extremely pissed when his ex finds his stuff.
The ex would probably welcome the information.
Doubt that she will act on it but she may thank you in the future.
I AM SURE YOU DONT FEEL THIS WAY YET BUT this guy did you a favor! REALLY! He could have been like lots of other men and dated you both. Granted, it was tacky the way he left but that is the ex wife's problem now, be glad it is not yours
2006-12-29 13:03:55 · answer #7 · answered by lisa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't become a stalker. If someone doesn't want anything to do with you romantically, you can't make them. You have to move on, and if getting rid of his things is something you need to do to do that, then get rid of them. Don't bring them to his house, or save them for him to pick up. You can leave him a message and ask him to pick them up in a reasonable amount of time, otherwise you'll assume he wants you to throw them away. If you are pregnant and intend to keep the child then you can pursue him legally so that he has to provide support for that child. Try not to dwell on it so much...all things pass...and the longer you focus on that negative side of your life the more you'll allow that fool to drag you down. Take care of yourself...and never stop moving forward. :)
2006-12-29 13:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by Destiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should return his property to him.
I would hope that you wouldn't tell him you were pregnant just to get him back in your life. If you are actually pregnant, then he has to be aware of his legal responsibilities for the child.
Despite your feelings for this person, he doesn't seem like a real keeper based on his shady activites as you have described them. Dump him from your life and move on.
2006-12-29 13:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by auken_hill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. I would put his stuff in a box and drop it off there if I were you. But, don't let him manipulate you. He's back with his ex you should move on and chalk it up as a loss. Sometimes men just suck ;-(
2006-12-29 13:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be civil, tell him to pick up his stuff this problem only involves u and him not his ex-wife. Kick this loser to the curb! End communications w/ him, obviously he doesn't want to be w/ you or have anything to do w/ your baby. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't care for his own flesh and blood.
2006-12-29 13:07:36 · answer #11 · answered by RoseFairy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋