I'm 14(aquarius) and my girlfriend is 15(sagittarius)((shes 2 months older then me)) and we fight like no tomarrow about stupid things and I get so jealous sometimes and I don't even know why its like if shes hugs another guy even if I know the guy(((and I don't know why))) my first thing that comes to thought is to go beat his *** then I have to come into reality...can I get some anvice about things to do....Ladies I need some help cause yall know what she wants can I please get some help?
2006-12-29 04:55:59 · 24 answers · asked by Nitsua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um...i don't know why your star signs matter, but it's not healthy to be so jealous. are you worried about her cheating? if so you don't trust her and should break up with her.
2006-12-29 04:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I'm no lady but I can definitely see that you have a problem. It seems to me that you never learned how to share and also that you are extremely insecure. We live in a world filled with people and so we interact with them at all times. Your girlfriend is with you because she chooses to and not because she has to. The day she decides that she no longer wants your company she will tell you so and leave. It is all about free will and trust. She knew people before meeting you and she will always know people during and after you. The fact that she is comfortable with the opposite sex is certainly a plus. It means that her father taught her well. Unless she french kisses or has sex with another guy while she is dating you, you have no basis for becoming jealous or violent. Now, if she seems to have numerous male friends and spends time with them, then there is a problem. If they constantly call her and meet at different places, then there is a problem. Analyze your jealousy. If you feel that your feelings are correct by the evidence then take action and dump her like a bad habit because she is just a piece of butt.
After all, you shouldn't settle for used goods. The fact that you are an Aquarius and she a Sagittarius means absolutely nothing.
Taking advice from the position of some rocks in the sky instead of God, who made those rocks and you, is certain foolishness.
There are plenty of good looking foxes out there who certainly know how to treat a man, so don't waste your time with anyone less. If you feel that your are too jealous or too insecure in some way, talk to a friend, or even dad. We guys seem to fend for ourselves quite well, but sometimes we can use some good manly counsel and support. You are not alone so don't be silent.
You will be relieved to know that others share your point of view.
Finally, concentrate in education, (which opens many doors), making great money, and the right woman will come as you climb the ladder of success. You will recognize her as she is climbing alongside. Watch out for gold diggers.
Sincerely,
Mr. M.
2006-12-29 05:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are young, if you continue to be jealous you are only going to drive her away. She may not be looking to marry you but if she is you better straighten your act. Because no matter what the situation you can push people away even if they love you. Fighting is not healthy and it can be belittleing on both parts. You need to learn to respect each other. But most of all have fun yall are young don't be so serious. If you can't have fun together than what is the point of being together? If you are always nagging her than she probably does this stuff just to get a reaction. Ask her how she would feel if you were hugging other girls.
2006-12-29 05:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by cherristee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 You're 14. You have 14 year old insecurities. She's your first girlfriend. She won't be your last. This why mothers cringe when their children get involved so young. It's not just the sex. It's the emotional stuff. We're scared for you.
#2 She's 15. Oh, the drama! She may be enjoying watching you lose your mind. She may be believe that making you jealous is confirmation of your love. OR it could be JUST a hug.
2006-12-29 05:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, the astrology thing can't do much for the relationship. Letting the planets decide who to love and what your destiny is isn't the most intelligent idea if you ask me. Have you talked to her about hugging other guys? I would just make sure that they're just friendly acts of affection, and nothing more. Be careful though, on how you approach this. You must assure her that you have trust in her. Just don't dictate what she can and cannot do, as that will definitely lead to more problems in the relationship.
2006-12-29 05:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by spontaneousishowiroll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how old you are, jealousy is jealousy. And most jealousy issues stems from lack of trust, and insecurity in ones self. Learn to have some trust with her. And confidence in yourself. The harsh reality of it is, she's going to do what she is going to do. Whether you like it or not. So no point in freaking out over what you can't control. Just makes you look like the chump.
Another way to look at it as well, is that with your jealousy, you chance to push her into what you are most afraid of (going to another guy). And know this, if she does go with another guy, it's not the end of the world. There are plenty of other girls out there. And I guarantee you, she will not be the last girl you meet.
Good luck.
2006-12-29 05:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by JustAdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think it is extremly cute how defensive you get over her. if she new that she probly would think it was cute to. but if you guys fight alot about those kinds of stupid things maybe it is time to move up to reality. i am 15 also and i think if a guy felt that way about me and got all defensive it would be cute. but i am not sure how she is feeling, everyone is diferent but most girls agree that they want tuns of atention put on them. they all think that there guy friends should do everything they like. which is hold hands hugs kisses. being extreamly thoughtful. even if you say oo she looks so beautiful today. Make sure you try not to fight anymore or else it can get bad and you can loose her as a girlfriend. but think of it this way, you both are still young you have your whole life for a relationship.
2006-12-29 05:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by peace love & lipgloss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey. Im 13. Id like f*cking love to help. lol First of all.. drop the signs. They DONT matter. Trust me. I lasted longest with a kid that got jelous easy. If shes hugging other guys just say ytf would u hug him. If you have a problem with her doing it.. she will stop if she really likes you. Otherwise.. she should go 2 h*ll. I hug like every guy a see but isnt really my fult.. they say gimme hug. And im not gunna say no. My boyfriends usually just gimme looks and i dont really mind but i stop. So, dont beat the guys up.. theyre probably just jelous that she isnt with them. Usually, hugs are a friendly kind of way to sayy hey. Thats how I think of them. Anywayz,, I really hope that she like stops being like that if your getting jelous over it. And for the fighting.. as long as you guys say sorry afterwards.. its what keeps you together. It helps you gain trust in the effing wierdestt way. lol good luck tho.
*Kissez* Good Luck *
2006-12-29 05:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by NikkiBabii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be hard for you to accept or to act on, but the answer is simple. You're taking this relationship thing too seriously at your age. It's not as if you're engaged to be married! This is a time to make friends, learn about girls, learn about yourself, learn about relationships, but mostly to have fun while learning as much as you can. Life gets serious later after you leave home.
So...if she hugs another guy, let her, and forget about it! Maybe she's on the right track, taking things easy and with a sense of fun, while you're not. Let it go. Be friends, let things go where they seem to want to go. Make friendships with other girls, just as she has made friendships with other guys.
2006-12-29 05:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't really know. It's kinda messed up that she would hug guys in front of you or even hug other guys at all. I might be the same age as her but I sure don't do anything like that. you should ask her whether she wants to be with you and just you or all the other guys. cuz if she's gonna be all over them you don't deserve a girl like that. you deserve better.
2006-12-29 05:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by bg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you dont like seeing her with other guys, its nothing wrong you just get overly jealous and tell her you care for her so much your afraid your going to lose her. and zodiac signs dont have anything to do with it!! lol. im a pisces and my bf is a virgo, were not compatible together but we have been together for 3 years and some months now and we finish each others thoughts and everything its freaky. just calm down yourself and let her know your getting upest about things from my 3 years of experience, i can say talking is the one thing that matters more than anything if u want it to work!!
2006-12-29 04:59:35 · answer #11 · answered by ~*cRaCkNeSs*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋