My boyfriends relationship is not good with his mom! His mom was very mean to him, manipulative, controlling, abusive, was an alchoholic, and left him as a child. Till this day when they talk they just fight.
He is very close to his Dad but, I'm curious...does this mean we might have problems emotionally?
2006-12-29 04:53:56 · 8 answers · asked by lotsofluv007 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, no this does not necessarily mean that ya'll will have emotional problems. He just might lean on u more for help because he never had a woman in his life since he was a child. Also, it has always been him and his dad so he might get a little upset if he feels that u are seperating him from his dad. Just be careful with what u say, how u treat him, and how u act towards his dad. Good Luck! ;)
2006-12-29 04:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Texas <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my humble experience, yes, it will affect how he treats you. Kids learn by what they see and hear. It may not be all his fault (although he could overcome some of the things that have happened to him, if he really wants to)...but in all my dating (I am 47, married 3 times)..the men I got along well with all had positive relationships with their Moms. The ones I had the most problems with, ALL had difficult or strained relationships with their Mothers. Even though he may be close to his Dad, all children need a healthy relationship with a female as well as a male, to round them out, so to speak. He may be only able to communicate with other males, successfully (I'm talking on an emotional level here)...If you see anything in him that raises a "red flag" or if those little hairs on the back of your neck stand up, LISTEN to them!
My favorite quote, (or misquote!) is from something I saw on TV..Gavin Debecker (a security specialist) said: Think about a rabbit in the woods. When he sees a fox, his instinct tells him to run away. He never stands there and thinks, 'Oh, gee, I might hurt his feelings if I run away' and then stands there...NO...he listens to his instinct and acts on it. Humans have the same instinct. I have used that little scenario all the time since I heard it, and you know what, your instinct will never steer you wrong. It sounds to me like you have answered your own question...
2006-12-29 05:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom once said if a guy treats his mom well he will treat you well. With that said I think what has happened to your boyfriend is horrible. Sometimes a man will rebel or do the opposite of what is done to him. Unfortunately, he did not learn how to have a loving caring relationship with a women. I think with your love and understanding he can learn. Take your time and get to know the guy and give him a chance. I think the old steriotype is not always accurate
2006-12-29 05:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be very careful in this relationship, if your bf has no respect for his mother he has some issues he needs to deal with. i have been in two separate relationships where both boyfriends were in bad mother-son relationships and both times they were abusive relationships. if he has no respect for his mother it is likely he will mistreat you. my bf now, is totally the opposite, his mother died when he was 12 or 13 and she was very close to him, he is very thoughtful of me and has always treated me with love and kindness. i am not saying your relationship will be bad but just be careful.
2006-12-29 05:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by cvgm702 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might....just because he's mom was horrible for being a role model for her son!! Or he could be just as sweet knowing he didn't get loved like that...My mom's mom never loved her and my mom is the most loving person!
2006-12-29 04:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by emo[babe]<3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you MAY have problems emotionally. But, who knows. Just give him space when he needs it, and if you do develop a problem, and you cant work it out, maybe it's time to say goodbye.
2006-12-29 04:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes cause he will have alot on his mind and wont be able to give u enough time and stuff
2006-12-29 04:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, emotional problems are very possible.
2006-12-29 04:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋