My daughter will be 5 in a couple of weeks. Here lately she has really been on this kick that we are being mean to her when she doesn't get her way or when she's misbehaving. Even when we aren't REALLY being MEAN to her. Some of it is a little jealousy of her 16 month old sister, but is this just a normal phase that will pass or what? It is driving me crazy-HELP!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-29 04:44:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes, it's just a phase. Just remember you are disciplining her because you love her and you want her to grow up right. She doesn't understand that. Just tell her that when you get after her it's because you love her and you what to teach her that right way of doing things and that you don't want her to make bad choices. (or something along those lines. You may need to simplify it more) Hope this helps.
Please don't listen the the answer above me. She dosn't have a clue!!
2006-12-29 04:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. I think all children or most go through this. It is the trying to get my way game to they play on and off in the toddler years.
It could also be for attention the longer she is throwing the little fit the more time she is consuming. When she starts like if you just put her in time out and she tells you the you are being mean just tell her what she did and ask her if she thinks that was very nice. And that you are not being mean, but she has to sit in time out because she was naughty, and walk away.
Make a one night a week thing were she can stay up a half an hour later and have just mommy and daddy all to her self and let her pick the activity you all do together. This might help with the jealousy and the wanting of attention.
2006-12-29 04:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal, my son who just turned 4 does this all the time, he tells me it's not fair, I'm being mean, I don't love him...you name it. He has always been a very well behaved boy and this just started about a month or two ago (he has a 4 month old little sister and I think this triggered it) I'm hoping that this pass soon because it is really frustrating, I'm totally with you on it. I would just be consistent and then reassure her that you still love her and TRY (LOL) to reason with her so that she fully understands why she is in trouble. Good luck to you and hopefully it passes for both of us :)
2006-12-29 05:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just a phase. But you can't let that be an excuse. You must sit her down and ask her what's the problem. Let her explain to you what exactly is that's making her feel this way, and then explain to her why you do the things you do. It might help her see that you do care. Also, if there's a jealousy problem between her and her sister, let her become more involved with her (bathing her, doing her hair etc.), let her see that she has nothing to be jealous of, that you love them both equally.
I hope this helped :)
2006-12-29 04:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a phase that will prob last a while, my daughter is 6 and I still hear it all the time. I have a 17 month old daughter and another baby due in May. I don't think it has anything to do with the other sibling, its just a glance into the teenager years that we all have ahead of us.
2006-12-29 04:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not seem like you're being mean to her, but if it's how she's seeing it then it'll be trouble and rebellion for later. She could become a teen mother or worse. Thus, It's best to make sure she understands everything that happens as far as discipline and your expectations of her are concerned. Lest she grow up to hate you, which seems to be a common thing between children and parents.
2006-12-29 04:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my son is 7 and is just now going through this. I hope it passes. He tells me that his dad and I are mean and he is going to tell his teacher or principal on us. Since we are not mean to him I offer to call either on e for him and set up a meeting so we can all sit down and dicuss how "mean" we are. Sorry about the rant, it's just getting old. Try to talk to her about how you're being "mean" and what she is doing to get in trouble and see if that helps. We talk to our son about all things he has that alot of other kids don't, his playstation, motorcycle, toys ect.. Good luck to you and I hope it is just a phase.
2006-12-29 04:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by lisa h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 4 3/4yr old daughter has gone through a number of things like that. It's just a test. She's trying to see your weak spots and trying out more mature though processes.
I just say to my daughter, "I'm sorry you feel that way, but we do not (whatever she did that was naughty)." Then just ignore it.
This too shall pass.
2006-12-29 04:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a jealousy thing and that is it! I have a "just turned" 5 year old in the house and his kick this week is "are you mad"...doesn't matter what we say!
2006-12-29 08:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a phase. She'll grow out of it. Hang in there you're not alone. My 5 year old is that way sometimes too.
2006-12-29 04:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy43110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋