My 2 year-old boy likes to hit and pinch people. What can I do to make him stop? (I won't spank him...)?

Question

We've tried giving him time-outs. He says 'sorry' then gets back up off of his chair and does it again. He's not normally a brat, but when he gets into one of these moods, he's a handful!

Answer 1

Honestly pinch him back. Not super hard, the thought of your pinching him back is going to scare him more.
My son went through a biting phase and a hair pulling phase. The moment that I did it back to him he cried (broke my heart, hold it in...) but never did it again.
I understand people may have different opinions on this, but he needs to learn, what about if tomorrow he's the class bully, and growns on from there.... nip it in the bud. :) Much luck!

Answer 2

I have a similar problem where my little guy likes to hit. I also do NOT believe in spanking.
I have tried taking his hands and firmly saying NO as I look into his eyes. I also tell him, "only hugs and kisses for mommy (or daddy or whoever he hit). What seems to work best is when I tell him no and walk away from him or remove him. It's a direct consequence to his action.
He goes to a daycare a couple of days a week and they try to teach them "nice touches". The teachers have said that sometimes the kids will smack another kid and then immediately do the "nice touch", almost as if they think they can hit if it's followed up by "nice touch".
It's a tough one, but they do learn eventually. I have found consistency to be key in teaching my son anything!
Good luck and let me know if you find a better solution!!

Answer 3

You need to remove him from the situation entirely. He must realize that a time-out only last a few minutes before he can go back to playing. If you are at the playground and he hits another kid, just take him home instead of making him sit on the side for a few minutes.
And please don't forget to reward good behavior. Do not bribe him to be good (No "We can buy you this toy if you don't hit today."). If he is good on his own, make sure to give him lots of praise! Have some ice cream when you get home if he didn't hit another kid :)

Answer 4

well with my two year old son he had the same problem towards his sister and his mom . so one day I told him you wanna hit someone hit me then after he did I asked him do you feel better now he got mad as hell and started hitting wildly when he was done he was so tired that he couldnt lift his arms ... afterwards I grab him sat him on my knee and reassured him even after hitting me like crazy I still loved him and since then he has not hit in anger or even in fustration and he is 11 now...Not saying this was right but last thing I wanted to do was spank so that might work and might not


as for the bribery tactic I dont advise it KIDS ARE NOT STUPID they will figure it out quicker then you think that hey if I hit and break stuff mum and dad will offer me a reward if I dont do it so
were do I lose this is a bonus I get rewarded for just not breaking stuff hmmm kewl

Answer 5

i think of each newborn tries this out. some injury out with it and make it a habit. From my very own experiance (and that i've got 5 little ones) it truly is totally perplexing to give up. I truly have got here across nonetheless in simple terms somewhat a under pressure out yet efficient way: chew lower back! It sound mean, yet at this age they are many times no longer able to reflect, that it truly hurts. So in case you (on the instant, no longer after 10 minutes, of direction) chew lower back so it hurts yet would not truly go away a mark they're going to qickly understand what it sounds like and after 2 or thrice give up doing it themselves. comparable with pinching. of direction you may by no skill truly harmfully harm the youngster, yet in simple terms instruct that what he does is painful! it is likewise efficient to cry and throw a tantrum your self while he hurts you. this might all instruct in his very own and comprehensible "languagge" way what he does to others. particularly single little ones don't have the childlike reaction to their doing. while they have somewhat brother or sister that when bites them they consistently understand hwhat it skill and give up doing it themselves. yet as long as they are the only newborn interior the homestead they cant reflect so properly the soreness they cuase. i'm hoping this enables, even no longer uncomplicated i realize it sounds like an average element. yet then that's probabbly greater effective than to any extent further punishment ;-) solid success on your chum. ;-)

Answer 6

I laugh at people who do "time out". What is that? So they sit in a corner for a few minutes and they get up....what have they learned? That they loose a couple of minutes...and they can keep being little monsters.
Spanking is not bad....Beating is. He needs to know that when he hits or pinches, it hurts people...I'd hit or pinch him right back, so he knows what it feels like.
I have friends who do "time out" and I can't STAND when their kids come over because they're so badly behaved.

Answer 7

Welcome to the world of a 2 year old. My best advise is to be consistent! That is the key to discipline with any toddler. Your child is not being a brat, just normal. Keep up the good work and he will be just fine!!

Happy New Year!!!

Answer 8

TIME-OUTS do not work on 2 yr olds. All you have to do is smack his hand and tell him no sternly. They is nothing wrong with smacking his butt to let him know that you are the boss. 2yr old do not understand what time-outs are. I am a mother of 2 with the 3rd on the way.
If you don't want to spank take some courses in safe physical management, they help you learn technique to physically manage your child in a safe manner, that lets them know they crossed the line.

I had to take these courses when I worked at a child abuse treatment center.

Answer 9

my 2 year old also did this as well as biting and pulling hair. as mean as it sounds i pinched her back. not to the point where it it left a mark or anything but just enough she knows it hurts. she only did it a couple of times and she knows better now.

Answer 10

You may want to re-consider your position on spanking. You somehow have to get across to him that he's causing pain.
If you don't, another kid will definitely do it!

I was never going to spank until she was ignoring me when I told her to do something. I tried the counting and time out but a very wise teacher told me that when they are young, but old enough to know better, they get accustomed to NOT listening the first or second or third time...in an emergency you may have only one chance to call out instructions, if he has become accustomed to delayed obedience, it could cost his life.