Can parents really love all their children equally?

Question

I always grew up with the feeling/ knowledge that mum loved me, well, because thats what mothers do inspite of how the kids turn out and my sisters like it was a privilege to be their mother. I thought I had put it past me untill my second child. The ghost my relationship with my mother is always around these days...

Answer 1

I believe it is possible for a parent to love two or more children equally, but, since it is NOT possible to measure degrees of love, how could one tell?

It is easy to imagine a parent prefering certain qualities in a child (or anyone else) and having a dislike for other qualities. A parent can LOVE one child's graciousness and demeanor, and be expecially proud of another child's athletic prowess. Each individual child may have good days and moody, difficult days, each on their own schedule.

Still, no child can tell what is in a parents heart. We are only left with our own impressions and interpretations of what we remember. We may not remember the same moments the exact same way as our siblings.

Say a little "hello" to your mother's ghost, then say "goodbye," for now. She will be back to check in on you, AND your sisters. That's what moms do.

Answer 2

Being the parent of three sons I have to say that parents indeed do love all their kids equally. Each has their own talent and/or interest and although it may appear that one is getting more attention etc. then the others it always ends up equaling out somewhere along the line. If one child is getting more affection/attention then the others at some point it is because they are in need of it at that time. Of course all children somewhere along the line are going to feel less or more loved then their siblings this is natural and I imagine it has been around since Cain and Abel. Parents are put into tough spots sometimes but when their children do grow and mature they usually end up realizing the reason things happened as they did while they were growing up and quietly thank their parents (although sometimes quietly in their heart) for the love they grew up with. But others will take the time to sit down with their folks and thank them verbally and this is like a badge of honour to these parents.

Answer 3

Parents can love their children equally. Sometimes it doesn't appear that way because each child is different and feels love in different ways. Parents may show their love differently at different times which makes it appear that they don't love each child equally. Love is a feeling not the action. So a youngest child that seems more spoiled the love is the feeling and spoiling is just an action. Both children are loved the same. I'm sure parents would do the same for each child if their child were hurt or feel the same if the children died.

Answer 4

If a mother is a real mom then she must love all of her children equally but each child will have a unique place in her heart that is only for them. I am a mom of 6 and each child is different in their own special way but I love each of them with an unconditional undying love. There is no level system in love, or shouldn't be anyways. But todays world is different and fact being that some children are left behind or treated different than the others. I was! Thats why I love them all completely 100%!

Answer 5

Absolutely, Any Parent That Has A Favorite ,,Well , I wouldn't know what to say to them ,, Unless of course one was I'll and just needed extra attention.. But even in this instance, She would love the other children the same,, an unconditionally ..

Wow Now That Is A Great Question !!!

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Answer 6

YES! I am a single mother of four, and I love all of my children differently but equally. Each one has a unique characteristic about them that I love to death! But I would die for everyone of the them........my love is definitely equal. No one gets more attention than the other, and no one is better than the other! That was how I was raised!

Answer 7

You love your children so much its hard to think that you could love them any more than you already do. I love my kids the same, but I treat them differently based off of their age, personality, and temperment. You cannot raise all children the same way, and sometimes this can me mistaken for loving one more than the other. One might require more discipline while the other listens the 1st time its told. Thats life.

Answer 8

Absloutely!!

I have 4 children and I love them each equally!

Each one has different needs. They are individuals, so they require different types of attention, but my love for them is equal - unconditional! I would die for each and every one of them.

When you are a child you can't understand what a parent feels for their children. When you get disciplined, you want to complain about the horrible injustice, and you may even feel like your parents don't love you. All I can say to my children is..."someday you will understand." I know it is lame, but there is NO way I could explain to my children the amount of love I have for them and expect them to truly understand. The only way they will have that understanding is when they become parents themselves.

Answer 9

Parents can never love all their kids equally, just like you don't equally like all your clothes (even though they're all yours). It's a natural law or something. Parents give certain kids preferential treatment because of certain facets of their personality. Stay happy though. As long as you passed out of Mom's uterus and weren't an overly naughty kid, Mum still loves you, no matter what you turn out to be,,,

Answer 10

Which did YOU love more...Your mother or father? Could you have loved them equally? You loved them for different reasons, what they meant to you, what they did for you, and who they were to you. The same is true of your children. Each is an individual, you love them because they are your children, but you love each because of the way they are uniquely special to you and different from the others.