i feel like ever since i cut my hair and stop using perm people treat and look at me differently,y is that?

Question

i do not know if people like or dislike it and it makes me feel self conscious about my natural hair.but i shouldn't feel that way because i think it think it looks beautiful

Answer 1

It's probably because they just aren't used to your new look. Give it some time and they'll get accustomed to it.

You also make act a little differently around people without realizing it. A new look/hairdo can change a lot about your personality. Be aware of your actions and make sure you aren't the one who has changed.

Answer 2

Okay, here is exactly what is going on. I assume that you are Black, correct? Well, since the lie of colorism has been taught to most Blacks (epecially girls) ever since they were born, they are unnaturally attracted to the European look. Some Blacks have learned to hate their features and have done many things to look more european such as skin lightening, straightening hair, and so on. Of course, this doesn't go foor all of us, some people just like wearing a straight style. Good for you for taking out that perm! It does nothing but stress out your hair. They are even doing studies on relaxers to see if it is linked to causes of cancer! Natural=Beautiful. Plus, it is more convernient and with your natural hair you can hold many style. Some people will look at you and hate your hair because it is so free from the oppression of chemicals. Others will look at your crowning glory in awe and admire it. Best of all, YOU feel good, and that is all that matters. Go to ask.com and find some sites that have people that embrace natural styles like I think there is a site called happynaps or happyto be nappy. Good luck!

Answer 3

oooh hun I know just what you're feeling. Exactly what you're feeling! I felt self concious about it too for half a year. But if you want to rock it natural roots then look through some hairshow magazines. You could also try a weave like some of my friends,or braids to make your natural hair look longer. But just go with how you want your hair. People will learn to accept it later, and like the song by "India Arie" You are not your hair, you are not your skin, you are the soul deep down within. :]

Answer 4

da pimpsta has the right idea.. i did the same thing.. i wanted my hair natural and it lOVE it, its nice and curly.. i mean u do you. you make yourself feel beautiful. if you think it looks beautiful then it does. i mean i lovee my new hair because its natural. to straight in it i just use chi straight iron.. since its natural it will tend to dry up so once a week a couple hours before you wash it use teatree oil and wet it with the oil. use a shower cap and while you do your house chores.. make sure u wear in in the house cuz u will look a bit crazy. remember to deep condition as well.. its makes your hair nice and smooth :). i buy hair clips and all sorts of stuff and use them on my very short beautiful curly hair. there is so much you can do.. but 1st you need to let those haters know that your hair is sexy, beautiful and you!

Answer 5

Don't pay attention to what other people think if you think it's beautiful then it's beautiful. It's your hair you can do what you want with it. Some people could just not be used to it, so give them some time to get used to it and if they don't oh well it's not your problem.

Answer 6

As long as you like it- who cares what other people think. If you end up doint you hair how other people like it, then you won't be happy or confident about the way you look. Doing it the way YOU want it to be is an expression of who you are. Don't let anyone change that!

Answer 7

when i was on a train i saw a black girl with an afro and i thought it was beautiful, but i just couldnt stop looking at her because it was very rare that i ever see anybody with their hair like that. im sure thats why other people stare at u. be proud of your hair.
black people have very distinctive hair when its natural, nobody else has hair like us so be proud of it and dont listen to what people do or say.

Answer 8

There just not used to seeing you that way. At the end of the day if you like it and think you look beautiful yourself then don't care what they think at the end of the day they are probably just jealous because you look good.

Answer 9

Hee hee some years in the past I cut back the left edge of my hair at morning injury then after lunch I cut back the different side and a pal cut back the lower back and tidied up the mess I had made out of the aspects at afternoon injury

Answer 10

well my sister used to hsve long hair but she didn't need a perm. She has wavy hair and she cut it short and it seems like she felt the same way like people looked at u different but it is all in your head.

Answer 11

Any haircut takes a lot of getting used to. People need to adjust to your hairstyle. You clearly already have!! Just because they look at you differantly means that they're realizing that this person is YOU, for better or worse.