i liked a guy when i first started to go out with him. then after 2 weeks i started to think i could do better. he's 21,has no job,still lives with his parents, and is still a virgin. that should have been my first clue we wouldn't last. whats going to make this even harder is that he gave me a golden necklace for chirstmas.( how he go it i dont know). guys i really need help. can you all help me by giving a girl advice!!!!
2006-12-29 04:39:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honesty isn't always pretty. You need to be honest though. He will get over it. Just say that, for a number of reasons, you don't think this is going to work. Don't tell him you think you could do better as that would make him feel horrible. Lie a little if you have to, to make in easier on him. Tell him that you feel bad about the necklace and offer to return it.
2006-12-29 04:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
poor guy. hope he's going to be okay.
I don't think there is anything wrong with a guy that lives with his parents, has no job, 21 years old and still a virgin. Unless he robs the bank for a living and cheat girls for pleasure. And he got you a golden necklace for christmas, and that is so sweet. Maybe he worked alot for that necklace. How could you leave a guy just because he is?
2 weeks and you are going to dump him? Do you know him very well? I'm not going to teach you how to dump someone just because he is 21, has no job, lives with his parents and STILL A VIRGIN? Whats your primary reason for getting on a relationship in the first place? Nope, you're not going to break someone's heart just because of that.
That poor guy deserve better girl. Good luck and hope that you din't ruin his life.
2006-12-29 04:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by JJay 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well...not having a job is good place to start. Living with his parents is a result of the first issue. (I'm 32 and just moved out of mom's place after 3 years, but that's because my job doesn't pay enough to live on my own and roommates just plain suck.)
Just say, "Hey...you know how I have my job and all? Well, it just seems like we're not moving in the same direction in life. We had some fun times, but I really don't see a future for us." DON'T say "We can still be friends." if you never have any intention of hanging out with him again...that's just evil. That fact that he's still a virgin shouldn't have anything to do with it.
2006-12-29 04:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Krys Tamar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that even though you have fun together, you are looking for a more serious, permanent relationship. I don't blame you for making this decision one bit. You don't want anyone to hold you back from living life the way you want to. Besides, do it now or you'll date him out of guilt and the longer you two are together, the harder it is to break up.
2006-12-29 04:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Summer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him that y'all are not a good match after all, and wish him luck in the future. Offer to give him back the necklace and if he refuses to take it, then you needn't feel any guilt over that.
Sometimes things just don't work out and what seemed a good idea initially, turns out not to be once we have more information.
2006-12-29 04:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Numer one hes 21.Hes growing!what do you expected a Donald Trump at 21?and whats the problem if he is Virgin.You was Virgin once too.He cares about you and you complain.GIVE TIME.PEOPLE NEED LOVE AND TIME.You need to understand hes 21 years old.Talk with him nice and ask if he is planning to work.Dont judge some innocent guy in 2 weeks.Face the situation.Its better a virgin than a boy with HIV.RIGHT?BE POSITIVE NOT NEGATIVE.
2006-12-29 04:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For me I lost mine a week in the past my seventeenth Birthday... it makes you experience such as you have merely crossed over from boyhood to manhood. in case you think of hes unlikely to be boasting after he's lost his virginity then think of back! lol i will assure which will ensue... he won't bypass into info approximately who it became with etc... and he's maximum probable going to magnify his point of overall performance on the night... yet it is merely being a guy... women do loads of speaking approximately their intercourse existence as nicely. Will it make him replace... nicely i think of it matures you slightly, and he will maximum probable want to have intercourse with you back at each and every obtainable threat (if it became good)
2016-11-24 23:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but this just isn't working for me. I don't see a future for this relationship. I am glad we got the chance to know each other though and I wish you all the best. Here's your necklace back.
2006-12-29 05:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to give my opinion on this guy. I don't know him- but you do! If you really want to end it, just say "This is not working out for me. I don't see us going anywhere." If he keeps asking why, or demands more reasoning, just keep reminding him that he's not your type. Offer to return the gold necklace.
I hope all works out well!
2006-12-29 04:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The last relationship I was in reminded me of this...The guy was really sweet don't get me wrong so I was a total ***** for doing this. I told him I needed some space then just ingored him every time he would call or message me I think he got the hint .
2006-12-29 04:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋