how long did it take u to get over it? im devastated. i gave everything and got nothing from this person.
2006-12-29 04:38:59 · 20 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes twice it took me over a year both times. I went out with other women but I compared them to the person who hurt me. I was not angry but nobody could live up to my imagination.
2006-12-29 04:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by shadouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having your heart broken is a part of life. I don't know anyone who hasn't gone through it at some point in their life. As far as recovery time, well, it's different for everyone. It really comes down to how long it will take you to say to yourself that he is not worth your tears anymore because their is somewhere worthwhile out their who would love to make you smile. In the end the most important thing is what you take away from this experience, alot of pain and regret yes, but also I hope you learned a few things along the way because thats what life is really all about, loving and learning. Now, you need to learn that you can love again..when you realize that, this guy will be a distant memory..and you will be ready to find the right guy who will never make you cry (well, almost never, we are human after all)..
2006-12-29 04:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been there too. It just takes time and how long it takes is not the same for everyone. Some people make no effort to overcome heartache, they just wallow in it. Do not drag it out. Realize that it is their loss not yours. If he gave you nothing then what have you lost but nothing? He is the one who lost honey, not you. You must ask yourself why you loved this person. If he gave nothing of himself then I cant find many reasons that you could have. Realize that no matter how hard we try or how much we want someone to love us the way we love them we just cant make them feel what they don't. It is a hard lesson but you will be just fine. Keep your mind occupied and look forward to the future with someone who is worthy of your love. Learn to love yourself and learn to accept that you are worthy and any man who finds themselves loved by you is very lucky. Time will heal this pain, I promise. One day you will look back and wonder what you ever seen in him in the first place. So many people confuse love with the need to be loved. You will get over him and may find that you never really needed him to love you at all, you just needed to learn to love yourself. With each pain we should gain a lil wisdom and move on.
2006-12-29 04:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have. It just takes time and the maturity of mind to know that there are two opposing forces to every conflict. It takes two to make or break a relationship therefor both parties are at fault. When you realize this simple fact it makes it easier to get over the heartbreak. Take responsibility for your part of the problems and make amends. Learn from the mistakes made by both parties and let go of all the anger...then you'll be able to move forward and be worthy of love again. You have to love yourself before you can request that someone else love you.
2006-12-29 04:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still going through it... I was with my husband for 10 years ( Dating for 8, married for 2 ) and he cheated on me with 6 girls, when I found out I kicked him out and within a week- he was with someone new.Within a month- she was pregnant. Then they got engaged...Now they are buying a house... I don't think that kind of pain ever goes away but you learn to live with it and move past it. I just leaned on my friends and got back into church which helped a lot! Hope you find something that helps you cope.
2006-12-29 04:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by love_n_hate84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. this guy told me he was going to ask me out on xmas and be my present but then he started going out with my friend and after a while he stopped liking me. but on 12/2/06 he said he reallly did like me again and was going to be with me for a long time. well like on the 10th or something he told me he found someone better than me! he told me this right to my face. and usually i say im ugly but no offense i am WAY prettier than this girl. and i am still not over it. this was one of the worst xmas's of my life. and to top it all off i just got surgery this morning because i have a tumor in my face. uuuggghhh.
PS try to make this guy jealous. the things that guys cant have are the things they want the most......... good luck :)
2006-12-29 04:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by truelovewaits. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is move on.... Believe me, doing bad things to them isn't going to help you.... Karma will kick in for him. You will find someone else and then you will think what the hell was i thinking. Just one peice of advice don't drag things into a new relationship from your past relationship. Start clean, find that great guy you are needing to find.
2006-12-29 06:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by dawn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have had my heart ripped out just six months ago and yes its hard ,but if you think about what is in the future you right now and understand how you got to this point it well start to make sences to you and then you have move on from there ..
2006-12-29 04:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by edward s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah; ripped out, stomped on, then drove over several times... It takes a while, but you will get over it. I got over mine by focusing on the positives in my life, and my job.
2006-12-29 04:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by dkiller88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but because I was young, it grew back!
What did you learn from your relationship with Jack the Ripper?
Don't be too quick to give everything away? Look for somebody who ALSO gives of themselves?
All the best!
2006-12-29 04:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋