I woke up in the middle of the night because of a furious up and down movement under the covers. You can imagine what I found - he was at it again!. To cop it all he had sliped his hands inside my panties!
Well, it was beyond temptation and before I knew it we were kissing and somehow we ending up doing it -three times!
This morning I feel terrible and told my boyfriend that he had made us break our vow of celibacy last night.
He had the nerve to tell me that it wasn't all his fault and that I was to blame as well! He's younger than me so I told him that he was pathetic and how dear he shout at me!
It ended with him in tears storming out and going back to his parents. He's texted me telling me that I'm a controlling cow and that he wants to finish!
Normally when we have an argument he calls within a short period of time. I'm not going to call him because of the way he shouted at me. I'm gutted. Don't know if I should call as he was in the wrong.
2006-12-29 04:37:01 · 13 answers · asked by Kitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Had a long chat with him - he said he wanted to finish. Kept calling me controlling!
2006-12-29 10:18:29 · update #1
Ohhhhhhhh what a lovely story,your talent is wasted
2006-12-29 04:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by man with the golden gun 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So you had sex - is that so terrible? As long as you were careful. I think you need to be grown ups and both accept you were in the wrong - it does take two after all and it sounds like you both wanted it! Just because he is younger, it doesn't give you the right to shout him down like that and as you might have guessed, you have hurt his feelings with some of the things you have said. Arrange to meet up and talk somewhere neutral so that you can both talk over your feelings and discuss whether a) you wish to continue your relationship, and b) if so, whether you wish to go back to being celibate? Is it really so terrible if you take your relationship to the next level? The majority of couples married or otherwise have good sexual relationships and provided they are careful and have mutual respect for each other, it presents no problems. Either way you both need a reality check and to begin acting like grown ups. If you're going to bring sex into the equation, which can have far reaching consequences and so requires a high level of maturity then you're going to have to work on things a lot! Good luck!
2006-12-29 12:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by AngelWings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's an 'Ecist'? Never heard of it.
While i believe that you are entitled to live your life as you see fit (as long as it's not harming others) i can't understand why you feel the need to abstain from s*x, TV etc, you are a good looking girl (saw your 360) and you should be able to take pleasure in sharing the nice things in life (eg:s*x), it's not 'dirty' or 'wrong'. Sorry you've had an argument but unfortunately a lack of s*x can lead to a build up of frustration in males (and females as well come to think of it) which may cause all sorts of problems, it's a natural state of affairs.
call him and see how the land lies. If he was happy in the relationship before then he must be a special guy, putting your wishes before his 'natural urges', there probably won't be many like him!
2006-12-29 13:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by dave a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's right, it's not all his fault- unless you were actually telling him to stop. I'm assuming you're not suggesting he raped you?!
Take some responsibility for your actions, presumably when you responded that was too much for him to resist too!
You were in the wrong for blaming things on him so if you want him back, you call up and apologise for that. As for the celibacy thing, take equal responsibility for breaking your vow and talk over where you want to go from there.
2006-12-29 14:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by noisymilly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in some ways he is wrong but it does take two to tango. You did not say no so you hold some of the blame. Maybe you should call him and tell him that you did not appreciate his shouting at you but also that you do share part of the blame in not saying no. Then discuss where you both go from here.
2006-12-29 12:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about an siber relationship with I that way you can stay celibate for as long as you can hold out,
But how can i be sure you wont be banging away at your self late at night when i am in the land of nod eh?
2006-12-29 12:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by arthur3home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only way to stop this is to get a burzo(sp?) clamp and castrate him like how people castrate bulls. Then he won't have the urges anymore and you two can go on being celibate. Because otherwise you are breaking the vows of your religon. Tell him it's for his own good.
2006-12-29 12:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
GROW UP. why were you both sleeping in the same bed if you're celibate. him having a **** is only naturally. you could have stopped him touch you and having sex with you. just GROW UP.
2006-12-29 17:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, it's you again. Lighten up will you. The dude is just a normal healthy adult, you're the freak by the sounds of things.
2006-12-29 12:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by Snowth 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sexykitten, I didn't even bother reading all that. It was funny to start with, but now you need to find another line, change the record etc...
2006-12-29 12:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by Nini 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋