ok i absolutly love my fiance, and we are good together.
now i do have this problem though, the whole touchy touchy feely feely just dont work for me, in fact it drives me nutz, all the time everyday. his pervded jokes are old news and sometimes it makes me snap
i love him with everything i have but hes like telling a 4 year old, he dont listen. plus he always looks through my mail and he always playing with things, my stuff, and then he acsidently breaks it. how do i tell this guy that i dont want sex all the time without him freaking out and go sulk, it shouldnt be that hard for a grown man to have one night of peace for once, he shouldnt take no so hard.
2006-12-29 04:35:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is an adult and he loves you, then he will understand when you tell him what he's doing that is upsetting you. Unfortunately it sounds like you are dating what I like to call a "man-boy" and the biggest mistake alot of girls make is that they think they can change these "man-boys" overnight. Sorry, not gonna happen. You need to sit him down and talk to him, first and foremost. Then, when he doesn't listen to you, and he won't the first time, you have to take something away that he likes. (yes, it sounds like a way to deal with a spoiled child, and that is exactly what you ARE dealing with). If he continues no to listen to you and continues doing and saying things that are hurtful to you then you need to reconsider being with this "man-boy" and that is all their is too it..
2006-12-29 04:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance is not the touchy feely type, it sounds like he just has a high sex drive which can be seen with the perverted jokes. If he keeps asking there is not much you can do, particurly if he makes bad sex jokes. If he is going through some of your stuff well thats not good. What can you do? Have a talk with him and clearlt express what your feeling. tell him how much sex you would like and ask him try to compromise. Ask him not to look thorugh your things and confront him when he does, if he brakes something have him replace it. You have to be reactive to his actions and feelings to gain a sense of control. You have to do it now since you are engaged
2006-12-29 04:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by worldcounselor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't hold out on sex, that's a sure way to turn him away from you or to other women who will not hold out. However, maybe you could use sex as a tool to get him to behave better. Reward him for acting more mature with some extra special loving. It will help solve more than one problem and add some spice to your love life. But seriously, if you love this guy, don't hold out sex on him. Big mistake.
2006-12-29 05:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by A T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sure have a lot of complaints about your fiancee. Are you sure that you absolutely love him? You may not. Everyone has faults but if they really bother you that much maybe you should slow down and take a step back. Perhaps take a break from each other to see if this is the person that you want to marry. I date a guy who has faults just like everyone else but I'm not complaining about them. if his faults really bother you then you should not be with him...
2006-12-29 04:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heh. sorry but that sucks. guys dont like taking no for an answer. trust me just say hmm i dont know. and tease him for a while. you cant give it up if you dont actually love him. its so messed up. dont get pressured into anything either! ha my first kiss was just cause his friend was like kiss the player so i did cause i dont really care. broke up like a week later though. And if hes going through your stuff.. just put away what you dont want him to see. If your really in love there shouldnt be anything you wanna hide.
2006-12-29 04:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by NikkiBabii 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl tell him the truth and lay down some laws. If he cant respect them then maybe he doesnt respect you. Oh, it is a federal offense for someone to go through your mail. You need to lay down the law, remember YOU have the power!!!!! Tell him to get it together.
2006-12-29 04:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could both go into counseling... it sounds like there might be real issues around sexuality from the get-go and that doesn't bode well for the long term.
God bless!
2006-12-29 04:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He won't go wild on you.You wishing for the impossible. All good man are predictable and boring.
2006-12-29 04:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
see real love is accepting someone with all their faults. even when it drives you nuts. Ask him when he plans on growing up? apparently he is use to getting his way.
2006-12-29 04:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by anita r 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds immature. If he really loves you he wouldn't be so selfish and insecure.
2006-12-29 05:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋